I%26#039;m a big time fan of The Stones. I was watching %26quot;Gimmie Shelter%26quot; earlier and thought I%26#039;d ask this.
In case anybody%26#039;s interested Here%26#039;s My Top 10 Stones Songs
1 Dead Flowers
2 Sympathy For The Devil (The Live Version From Get Your Ya Ya%26#039;s Out)
3 Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knockin
4 She%26#039;s So Cold
5 Midnight Rambler
6 Monkey Man
7 Tumbling Dice
8 You%26#039;d Better Move On
9 Moonlight Mile
10 Loving Cuo
But what are Your favorites? As many or few as You like.
Let%26#039;s Hear Em, Your Favorite Rolling Stones Songs?
The Stones kick major ***.
1. Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knocking
2. Fingerprint File
3. Wild Horses
4. Sister Morphine
5. Gimme Shelter
6. Honky Tonk Women
7. Star Star
8. Street Fighting Man
9. Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash
10. Monkey Man
11. 100 Years Ago
12. Sympathy For The Devil
13. Satisfaction
14. Let%26#039;s Spend The Night Together
15. Undercover Of The Night
16. It%26#039;s Only Rock %26#039;N Roll
17. Let It Bleed
18. Shattered
19. Brown Sugar
20. Moonlight Mile
Reply:Time is on my side.
Reply:paint it, black; start me up; satisfaction; get off my cloud; 19th nervous breakdown; gimme shelter
Reply:Ruby Tuesday
Paint It Black
Street Fighting Man
Reply:Get off my cloud.
nice one!
Reply:Tumblin Dice
Ruby Tuesday
Sympathy for the Devil
Reply:Well, mine%26#039;s not quite as extensive, and probably cliche as far as favorites go but I love:
Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
Ruby Tuesday
Sympathy for The Devil
Time is On My Side
Paint it Black
Reply:Paint It Black and Sympathy for the Devil
Reply:1. Happy
2. Ain%26#039;t Too Proud To Beg
3. Sympathy For The Devil
4. Honky Tonk Women
5. I Am Waiting
6. Carol (Live from Get Your Ya Ya%26#039;s Out)
7. She%26#039;s A Rainbow
8. Prodigal Son
9. Street Fighting Man
10. 19th Nervous Breakdown
Reply:Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
She%26#039;s A Rainbow
Street Fighting Man
Reply:I favour the 60%26#039;s stuff, and these are the 19 I chose for my RS compelation album.
In the order I put them on the CD :~
Gimme Shelter
Satisfaction
The Last Time
Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash
You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want
19th Nervous Breakdown
Under My Thumb
Not Fade Away
Sympathy for the Devil
Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
She%26#039;s A rainbow
Get Off of My Cloud
Wild Horses
Ruby Tuesday
Paint It, Black
Honky Tonk Women
It%26#039;s All Over Now
Angie
It%26#039;s Only Rock N%26#039; Roll
My favourite is probably %26#039;Paint It, Black%26#039;, followed by %26#039;Gimme Shelter%26#039; {love that intro!}
Reply:%26quot;Start Me Up%26quot; is my favorite. It%26#039;s always been, since it%26#039;s the first Stones song I%26#039;ve ever heard.
Top 5:
1. %26quot;Start Me Up%26quot;
2. %26quot;Satisfaction%26quot;
3. %26quot;Miss You%26quot;
4. %26quot;Under My Thumb%26quot;
5. %26quot;Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash%26quot;
Okay...I%26#039;m sorta lying about the top five songs. But I can%26#039;t decide, so I just picked random songs for the most part.
Reply:Paint it Black (of course), love that song, but not really a fan of The Rolling Stones.
Reply:Nineteeth Nervous Breakdown
Reply:all time favorite is paint it, black
no competition.
Reply:Mine is also Dead Flowers but Paint it Black is a close second. %26quot;You got to move%26quot; is third.
Reply:%26quot;You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want%26quot; is probably my all time fav. I also also love %26quot;Gimme Shelter%26quot; %26quot;Shattered,%26quot; %26quot;Sympathy for the Devil,%26quot; %26quot;Angie,%26quot; and a few more whose names I can%26#039;t think of at this moment...
Reply:Under My Thumb and Paint it Black
Reply:Start Me Up,Gimme Shelter,Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knockin%26#039;,Paint It, Black, and You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want. (not in order)
Reply:I%26#039;ve only recently been getting into the Stones, so forgive me if my list is typical:
Sympathy For the Devil
Ruby Tuesday
Memory Motel
Drift Away
Wild Horses
Moonlight Mile
Paint It Black
Hang Fire
Let It Bleed
It%26#039;s Only Rock and Roll
Reply:Paint It Black
i%26#039;ve loved that song forvever, and though plenty of other songs by the Stones are great, none can compare.
Reply:In No particular Order:
Tumbling Dice
2000 Man
Start Me Up
Sympathy for the Devil
Street Fighting Man
Wild Horses
You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want
She%26#039;s So Cold
Gimme Shelter is pretty much awesome.
Reply:midnight rambler
mothers little helper
hang fire
shattered
gimme shelter
happy
miss you
street fighting man
the last time
under my thumb
flower
Saturday, April 11, 2009
My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?
since they%26#039;re samoan I see that they do different things then the usual Flowers and sympathy cards....
My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?
My friend is a Samoan married to a Jamaican. Their grandson died several years ago (he was an infant). I made dinner and put it in covered, foil pans they could heatup and I took it to them. They really appreciated it. My friend is a very devout Christian. I am not sure if most Samoans are as devout since I don%26#039;t know any others aside from my friend.
Reply:Just bring flowers and/or a card. You%26#039;re not Samoan. Any expression of sympathy will be appreciated.
Reply:When my love ones died I always brought a cake and visited with the family.
Reply:I know next to nothing about the Samoan culture, so I can%26#039;t say exactly what would be appropriate. But I think since they live here, they might have a bit of American culture infused in them as well. There are things that I think are universally acceptable, and not offensive.. Flowers might be a bit akward, but food might be nice. Not casseroles and stuff, but maybe some type of dessert? Like a plain and simple one.. a bundt cake or some cookies even.. You could ask your best friend, if she seems strong enough to handle questions related to her dad%26#039;s death.. You could just tell her that you%26#039;d like to bring something to show her family that you care, but wouldn%26#039;t want to bring something inappropriate. If you know any of her relatives, like a cousin or aunt or even an older sister, you could also ask one of them the same question. I%26#039;m sure they will appreciate it very much, and love the fact that you cared so much.
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My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?
My friend is a Samoan married to a Jamaican. Their grandson died several years ago (he was an infant). I made dinner and put it in covered, foil pans they could heatup and I took it to them. They really appreciated it. My friend is a very devout Christian. I am not sure if most Samoans are as devout since I don%26#039;t know any others aside from my friend.
Reply:Just bring flowers and/or a card. You%26#039;re not Samoan. Any expression of sympathy will be appreciated.
Reply:When my love ones died I always brought a cake and visited with the family.
Reply:I know next to nothing about the Samoan culture, so I can%26#039;t say exactly what would be appropriate. But I think since they live here, they might have a bit of American culture infused in them as well. There are things that I think are universally acceptable, and not offensive.. Flowers might be a bit akward, but food might be nice. Not casseroles and stuff, but maybe some type of dessert? Like a plain and simple one.. a bundt cake or some cookies even.. You could ask your best friend, if she seems strong enough to handle questions related to her dad%26#039;s death.. You could just tell her that you%26#039;d like to bring something to show her family that you care, but wouldn%26#039;t want to bring something inappropriate. If you know any of her relatives, like a cousin or aunt or even an older sister, you could also ask one of them the same question. I%26#039;m sure they will appreciate it very much, and love the fact that you cared so much.
genealogy mormon
Cultural Question?
my neighbour has died suddenly - ( an Indian man). Not sure if it is appropriate to send flowers %26amp; or sympathy card. Not sure of his religion. He has left a wife %26amp; young children. Any advice on how I should pay my respects?
Cultural Question?
Hi David;
I have to always remind myself in these situations that some realities supercede ethnic, religous and social constructs...such as loss and suffering. The nature of your sensitivity indicates that you are a thoughtful being.
I suspect that the most compassionate expression would be to walk next door and ask your neighbors how they are. Ask if they need anything that you can help them with at this time. Ask how neighbors and community members unfamiliar with their customs might honor their husband and father.
I have found it kinder and more genuine to avoid all of the %26#039;safe%26#039; rituals that we culturally rely on (flowers and cards).
If you can determine through your vist that your neighbor is Hindu I have included Emily Post%26#039;s bereavement advice.
Hindu funerals usually take place within 24 hours of death. Friends may call or visit family members of the deceased to offer their condolences upon hearing of the death and may bring flowers to them at that time. The flowers are placed at the feet of the deceased. The body usually remains at home until it is taken to the place where it will be cremated. The funeral ceremony is conducted at the place of the cremation. The coffin is generally open, and guests are expected to look upon the body and be seated in the room for the service, which is conducted by a priest or a senior member of the family. Guests may attend the cremation, but if they do not want to, they may depart after the service.
After the funeral, friends may visit the bereaved, usually bringing gifts of fruit with them.
Reply:Send a card and do what your heart tells you to do.Follow your heart and you will never go wrong!!
Reply:A card expressing your sympathy, (and maybe a casserole cos i don%26#039;t suppose the wife feels much like cooking.)
Reply:Send a sympathy card. If you are even just a nodding acquaintance then make an effort to speak to the wife and offer her your sympathy.
Reply:yes definitely
a bunch of flowers for the widow, at home rather than a wreath.
and a letter or card as long as it doesn%26#039;t have symbols of a (wrong) religion
Reply:I WOULD JUST SEND A BASIC SYMPATHY CARD.
NOT THE ONE FOR A CERTAIN RELIGION.
Reply:Just call and ask if you can drop by for a few minutes. Bring something to eat and offer to watch the children.
Reply:A sympathy card would be a very nice gesture,and the fact that you have taken the trouble to seek advice on the right thing to do shows that this lady and her family have a very caring neighbour,just be yourself.
Reply:A card...and maybe a home made food...American Indian or Hindu? Try to make it a homemade dish that reflects his ethnic background. Even if u buy it and put it in a dish...it%26#039;s showing respect for his culture. Or, just a card if you don%26#039;t want to do much else.It%26#039;s nice of you to care enough to take the card over and offer your condolences. What a good neighbor!!!!
Reply:And, since the most likely religions are Hindu (no beef and maybe n meat at all) and Muslim (no pork), that casserole had better be a vegetarian one!
Reply:A card would be a wonderful gesture, and I%26#039;d check his obituary, often people request a donation in lieu of flowers.
Going on advice given to me by a friend whose daughter passed away, bringing food isn%26#039;t a good idea. At this time they are probably not even interested in eating, especially someone else%26#039;s cooking, and most of the extended family and close friends will be bringing some sort of food.
Reply:send a card and keep it simple x
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Cultural Question?
Hi David;
I have to always remind myself in these situations that some realities supercede ethnic, religous and social constructs...such as loss and suffering. The nature of your sensitivity indicates that you are a thoughtful being.
I suspect that the most compassionate expression would be to walk next door and ask your neighbors how they are. Ask if they need anything that you can help them with at this time. Ask how neighbors and community members unfamiliar with their customs might honor their husband and father.
I have found it kinder and more genuine to avoid all of the %26#039;safe%26#039; rituals that we culturally rely on (flowers and cards).
If you can determine through your vist that your neighbor is Hindu I have included Emily Post%26#039;s bereavement advice.
Hindu funerals usually take place within 24 hours of death. Friends may call or visit family members of the deceased to offer their condolences upon hearing of the death and may bring flowers to them at that time. The flowers are placed at the feet of the deceased. The body usually remains at home until it is taken to the place where it will be cremated. The funeral ceremony is conducted at the place of the cremation. The coffin is generally open, and guests are expected to look upon the body and be seated in the room for the service, which is conducted by a priest or a senior member of the family. Guests may attend the cremation, but if they do not want to, they may depart after the service.
After the funeral, friends may visit the bereaved, usually bringing gifts of fruit with them.
Reply:Send a card and do what your heart tells you to do.Follow your heart and you will never go wrong!!
Reply:A card expressing your sympathy, (and maybe a casserole cos i don%26#039;t suppose the wife feels much like cooking.)
Reply:Send a sympathy card. If you are even just a nodding acquaintance then make an effort to speak to the wife and offer her your sympathy.
Reply:yes definitely
a bunch of flowers for the widow, at home rather than a wreath.
and a letter or card as long as it doesn%26#039;t have symbols of a (wrong) religion
Reply:I WOULD JUST SEND A BASIC SYMPATHY CARD.
NOT THE ONE FOR A CERTAIN RELIGION.
Reply:Just call and ask if you can drop by for a few minutes. Bring something to eat and offer to watch the children.
Reply:A sympathy card would be a very nice gesture,and the fact that you have taken the trouble to seek advice on the right thing to do shows that this lady and her family have a very caring neighbour,just be yourself.
Reply:A card...and maybe a home made food...American Indian or Hindu? Try to make it a homemade dish that reflects his ethnic background. Even if u buy it and put it in a dish...it%26#039;s showing respect for his culture. Or, just a card if you don%26#039;t want to do much else.It%26#039;s nice of you to care enough to take the card over and offer your condolences. What a good neighbor!!!!
Reply:And, since the most likely religions are Hindu (no beef and maybe n meat at all) and Muslim (no pork), that casserole had better be a vegetarian one!
Reply:A card would be a wonderful gesture, and I%26#039;d check his obituary, often people request a donation in lieu of flowers.
Going on advice given to me by a friend whose daughter passed away, bringing food isn%26#039;t a good idea. At this time they are probably not even interested in eating, especially someone else%26#039;s cooking, and most of the extended family and close friends will be bringing some sort of food.
Reply:send a card and keep it simple x
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The Rolling Stones...Your Favorites?
I was just answering a question about live albums and since the Stones..Get Your Ya Ya%26#039;s Out is My all time fave I thought let%26#039;s find out what people%26#039;s fave Stones songs are
Here%26#039;s My Top 10 to get the ball rolling
1 Dead Flowers
2 Sympathy For The Devil (The live version from Ya Ya%26#039;s)
3 She%26#039;s So Cold
4 Cant%26#039; You Hear Me Knocking
5 You Better Move On
6 Monkey Man
7 Salt Of the Earth
8 Tumbling Dice
8 Loving Cup
9 Sister Morphine
10 Stray Cat Blues
Your turn...as many or as few songs as You like. Fave albums whatever...have fun
I coulda done My top Stones 100 but...ain%26#039;t got that much room..lol
The Rolling Stones...Your Favorites?
Hm...Top ten for me...
No particular order as always.
1. Start Me Up
2. Time Waits For No One
3. Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knocking
4. (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction
5. Under My Thumb
6. Brown Sugar
7. Miss You
8. Lies
9. Sympathy For the Devil
10. Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash
Keith Richards is one of my favorite riff creators. Maybe second or third on the list. Tony Iommi is first.
Favorite album...dunno. Maybe Some Girls.
Reply:1. Paint it Black
2. Jumping Jack Flash
3. Sympathy for the Devil
4. Get a Girl
5. Start Me Up
Gerry :)
Reply:I%26#039;m not a big fan but i do like some of their songs. Mostly the hits
Paint It Black
Brown Sugar
The Last Time
(I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction
Jumping Jack Flash
It%26#039;s Only Rock n%26#039; Roll
Start Me Up
Wild Horses
Ruby Tuesday
Gimme Shelter
Reply:She%26#039;s a Rainbow
Symphony for the Devil
Paint It Black
Reply:1. Angie (an incredible song I fell in love with from the first time I heard it)
2. She%26#039;s A Rainbow
3. Wild Horses
4. Sympathy For the Devil
5. (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction
6. Paint it black
Reply:1. Paint It, Black
2. Time is On My Side
3. Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
4. Wild Horses
5. Before They Make Me Run
6. Torn and Frayed
7. Waiting On A Friend
8. Angie
9. Hand of Fate
10. Time Waits For No One
Reply:a little T %26amp; A
Reply:1. Paint it Black
2. Sympathy for the Devil
3. Gimme Shelter
4. Angie
5. Under My Thumb
Reply:Street Fighting Man
She%26#039;s a Rainbow
Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
Those are probably my top 3 although I like a whole lot more.
Edit! Good afternoon Darth! Hope you%26#039;ve had a good holiday season!
Reply:Miss you
Angie
Sympathy....
gee I ♥ %26#039;em all!!!
Reply:In no particular order :~
Paint It, Black
Gimme Shelter
19th Nervous Breakdown
Angie
You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want
Play With Fire
Get Off of My Cloud
Under My Thumb
The Last Time
It%26#039;s Only Rock n%26#039; Roll
Reply:1. Moonlight Mile
2. Dead Flowers
3. As Tears Go By
4. Sweet Virginia
5. Highwire
6. Loving Cup
7. 100 Years Ago
8. 19th Nervous Breakdown
9. You Got The Silver
10. Child Of The Moon
11. Heart Of Stone
12. Sympathy For The Devil
13. Sway
14. She%26#039;s A Rainbow
15. Love In Vain
16. Torn And Frayed
17. Shine A Light
18. 2000 Man
19. The Spider and the Fly
20. I Got The Blues
...and so many more. I%26#039;ve always loved the Stones.
Reply:Gimme Shelter
Ruby Tuesday
Satisfaction
Street Fighting Man
Those are my personal favorites, i love dozens more though.
Reply:Best rock and roll band ever, here%26#039;s my top 10:
You Got The Silver
Play With Fire
Memory Motel
Happy
Tumbling Dice
Gimme Shelter
Some Girls
Saint Of Me
You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want
She%26#039;s A Rainbow
Reply:u put 8 twice
Reply:1. paint it black
2. (i can%26#039;t get no) satisfaction
3. start me up
4. gimme shelter
5. honky tonk women
6. jumpin%26#039; jack flash
7. ruby tuesday
8. you can%26#039;t always get what you want
9. get off of my cloud
10. sympathy for the devil
Reply:Time Is on My Side, (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction, Get off of My Cloud, As Tears Go By, 19th Nervous Breakdown, Paint It, Black, Mother%26#039;s Little Helper, Let%26#039;s Spend the Night Together, Ruby Tuesday, Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash, Honky Tonk Women
Brown Sugar, Wild Horses, Tumbling Dice, Angie,
It%26#039;s Only Rock %26#039;n Roll (But I Like It), Ain%26#039;t Too Proud to Beg, Hot Stuff
Miss You, Beast of Burden, Shattered, Emotional Rescue, She%26#039;s So Cold,
Start Me Up, Waiting on a Friend, Time Is on My Side (live),Harlem Shuffle, One Hit (to the Body)
Mixed Emotions, Rock and a Hard Place,Sympathy for the Devil (remix)
Reply:My favorite Stones song is the one that ain%26#039;t playing. They leave a bad ....aw never mind. Sorry man, not a Stones fan at all and thats all I got to say about that.
Edit...but you do get a star ;o)
Reply:paint it black.
shattered.
Reply:Sympathy for the devil
Shattered
Time is on my side
beast of burden
mothers little helper
under my thumb
angie
start me up
of all time fave wild horses
Reply:Stray Cat Blues!... Kisses
performing arts
Here%26#039;s My Top 10 to get the ball rolling
1 Dead Flowers
2 Sympathy For The Devil (The live version from Ya Ya%26#039;s)
3 She%26#039;s So Cold
4 Cant%26#039; You Hear Me Knocking
5 You Better Move On
6 Monkey Man
7 Salt Of the Earth
8 Tumbling Dice
8 Loving Cup
9 Sister Morphine
10 Stray Cat Blues
Your turn...as many or as few songs as You like. Fave albums whatever...have fun
I coulda done My top Stones 100 but...ain%26#039;t got that much room..lol
The Rolling Stones...Your Favorites?
Hm...Top ten for me...
No particular order as always.
1. Start Me Up
2. Time Waits For No One
3. Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knocking
4. (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction
5. Under My Thumb
6. Brown Sugar
7. Miss You
8. Lies
9. Sympathy For the Devil
10. Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash
Keith Richards is one of my favorite riff creators. Maybe second or third on the list. Tony Iommi is first.
Favorite album...dunno. Maybe Some Girls.
Reply:1. Paint it Black
2. Jumping Jack Flash
3. Sympathy for the Devil
4. Get a Girl
5. Start Me Up
Gerry :)
Reply:I%26#039;m not a big fan but i do like some of their songs. Mostly the hits
Paint It Black
Brown Sugar
The Last Time
(I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction
Jumping Jack Flash
It%26#039;s Only Rock n%26#039; Roll
Start Me Up
Wild Horses
Ruby Tuesday
Gimme Shelter
Reply:She%26#039;s a Rainbow
Symphony for the Devil
Paint It Black
Reply:1. Angie (an incredible song I fell in love with from the first time I heard it)
2. She%26#039;s A Rainbow
3. Wild Horses
4. Sympathy For the Devil
5. (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction
6. Paint it black
Reply:1. Paint It, Black
2. Time is On My Side
3. Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
4. Wild Horses
5. Before They Make Me Run
6. Torn and Frayed
7. Waiting On A Friend
8. Angie
9. Hand of Fate
10. Time Waits For No One
Reply:a little T %26amp; A
Reply:1. Paint it Black
2. Sympathy for the Devil
3. Gimme Shelter
4. Angie
5. Under My Thumb
Reply:Street Fighting Man
She%26#039;s a Rainbow
Mother%26#039;s Little Helper
Those are probably my top 3 although I like a whole lot more.
Edit! Good afternoon Darth! Hope you%26#039;ve had a good holiday season!
Reply:Miss you
Angie
Sympathy....
gee I ♥ %26#039;em all!!!
Reply:In no particular order :~
Paint It, Black
Gimme Shelter
19th Nervous Breakdown
Angie
You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want
Play With Fire
Get Off of My Cloud
Under My Thumb
The Last Time
It%26#039;s Only Rock n%26#039; Roll
Reply:1. Moonlight Mile
2. Dead Flowers
3. As Tears Go By
4. Sweet Virginia
5. Highwire
6. Loving Cup
7. 100 Years Ago
8. 19th Nervous Breakdown
9. You Got The Silver
10. Child Of The Moon
11. Heart Of Stone
12. Sympathy For The Devil
13. Sway
14. She%26#039;s A Rainbow
15. Love In Vain
16. Torn And Frayed
17. Shine A Light
18. 2000 Man
19. The Spider and the Fly
20. I Got The Blues
...and so many more. I%26#039;ve always loved the Stones.
Reply:Gimme Shelter
Ruby Tuesday
Satisfaction
Street Fighting Man
Those are my personal favorites, i love dozens more though.
Reply:Best rock and roll band ever, here%26#039;s my top 10:
You Got The Silver
Play With Fire
Memory Motel
Happy
Tumbling Dice
Gimme Shelter
Some Girls
Saint Of Me
You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want
She%26#039;s A Rainbow
Reply:u put 8 twice
Reply:1. paint it black
2. (i can%26#039;t get no) satisfaction
3. start me up
4. gimme shelter
5. honky tonk women
6. jumpin%26#039; jack flash
7. ruby tuesday
8. you can%26#039;t always get what you want
9. get off of my cloud
10. sympathy for the devil
Reply:Time Is on My Side, (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction, Get off of My Cloud, As Tears Go By, 19th Nervous Breakdown, Paint It, Black, Mother%26#039;s Little Helper, Let%26#039;s Spend the Night Together, Ruby Tuesday, Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash, Honky Tonk Women
Brown Sugar, Wild Horses, Tumbling Dice, Angie,
It%26#039;s Only Rock %26#039;n Roll (But I Like It), Ain%26#039;t Too Proud to Beg, Hot Stuff
Miss You, Beast of Burden, Shattered, Emotional Rescue, She%26#039;s So Cold,
Start Me Up, Waiting on a Friend, Time Is on My Side (live),Harlem Shuffle, One Hit (to the Body)
Mixed Emotions, Rock and a Hard Place,Sympathy for the Devil (remix)
Reply:My favorite Stones song is the one that ain%26#039;t playing. They leave a bad ....aw never mind. Sorry man, not a Stones fan at all and thats all I got to say about that.
Edit...but you do get a star ;o)
Reply:paint it black.
shattered.
Reply:Sympathy for the devil
Shattered
Time is on my side
beast of burden
mothers little helper
under my thumb
angie
start me up
of all time fave wild horses
Reply:Stray Cat Blues!... Kisses
performing arts
Friend's father passed away in India - what is proper custom in india to express sympathy?
what is appropriate way to give condolences. I don%26#039;t know if flowers are appropriate - is there something specific in Indian customs that would be more appropriate in this case?
Friend%26#039;s father passed away in India - what is proper custom in india to express sympathy?
I am from Pakistan but know very well Indian customs.
India is a multi-religion country; people living togather.
Just express your views about the importance and role of father and than express your sorrow and condolance for an irrepairable loss your friend has met.
Reply:i dont think flowers are accepted but mayb u can make acall and give away your condolences.
fitness
Friend%26#039;s father passed away in India - what is proper custom in india to express sympathy?
I am from Pakistan but know very well Indian customs.
India is a multi-religion country; people living togather.
Just express your views about the importance and role of father and than express your sorrow and condolance for an irrepairable loss your friend has met.
Reply:i dont think flowers are accepted but mayb u can make acall and give away your condolences.
fitness
Is it proper to send thank you notes for sympathy cards that you received?
Or do you only send thank you cards for flowers, food, etc? Please advise. My father passed away and I received several cards and wasn%26#039;t sure of the proper etiquette.
Is it proper to send thank you notes for sympathy cards that you received?
If you see them in person, thank them. If you have their phone number, call them and if you were extremely touched give them a thank you card. Or, for the next holiday or special occasion if it is near, give them a card and mention that the thank you card was appreciated. Basically keep in touch with those who truly care, it is a blessing.
Reply:You can send out acknowledgement cards. Usually the funeral home will give them to you after a death in a little kit they give. And, yes, you can acknowledge people for their kind words and flowers. It at least lets them know that you received them.
Reply:I%26#039;m not sure what the real etiquette is, but when my dad was recently in a nursing home for an extended period of time, I sent thank you%26#039;s for any gesture of kindness, including cards. I think it%26#039;s always better to play it safe and send too many than too few.
Reply:Absolutely,
to acknowledge the thought is very proper
may God comfort you
Reply:You send thany you notes for gifts, never for cards--regardless of their intention.
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Is it proper to send thank you notes for sympathy cards that you received?
If you see them in person, thank them. If you have their phone number, call them and if you were extremely touched give them a thank you card. Or, for the next holiday or special occasion if it is near, give them a card and mention that the thank you card was appreciated. Basically keep in touch with those who truly care, it is a blessing.
Reply:You can send out acknowledgement cards. Usually the funeral home will give them to you after a death in a little kit they give. And, yes, you can acknowledge people for their kind words and flowers. It at least lets them know that you received them.
Reply:I%26#039;m not sure what the real etiquette is, but when my dad was recently in a nursing home for an extended period of time, I sent thank you%26#039;s for any gesture of kindness, including cards. I think it%26#039;s always better to play it safe and send too many than too few.
Reply:Absolutely,
to acknowledge the thought is very proper
may God comfort you
Reply:You send thany you notes for gifts, never for cards--regardless of their intention.
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How much money should I send with a sympathy card?
The deceased is a 6 yr old boy in my neighborhood. He was run over by his school bus. I know his Mom just from the neighborhood. Her loss has touched my heart. I wanted to send money instead of flowers but I don%26#039;t want to send an offensive amount. Is $25 too little?
How much money should I send with a sympathy card?
Honestly, I%26#039;ve never heard of sending money in a sympathy card. I have close friends that have lost loved ones and their main concern is that the deceased persons memory is kept alive. Once spent, money is often forgotten. My idea would be to buy some children%26#039;s books and donate them to the library, inscribing them with %26quot;in memory of.....%26quot; His memory will live on and the books will be read by other children his age.
Reply:I think that is fine to send and you are very sweet to care like that .What a sad thing to happen .
God bless %26#039;ya .
Reply:no
Reply:what ever you can offer. $25 dollars is fine., last year a 4th grad
er was run over by a bus too. any amount will be appreciate
some people don%26#039;t have Life Ins. any amount help. to bury your love one.
Reply:I think it%26#039;s not the price of the card but what the card reads .
Reply:25 is just fine to send .It%26#039;s the thought that counts and you are very thoughtful for even sending anything.
Reply:I think that I would just send flowers, you can never go wrong with that.
Reply:just send flowers. money seems a little mean, or like u were in a hurry. flowers are from the heart and are special. but i think its very sweet that u care so much.
Reply:IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. THE CARD AND MONEY WILL BE FINE!THE WORLD NEEDS MORE CARING PEOPLE IN IT. THANK YOU FOR CARING!GOD BLESS YOU!HAVE A NICE DAY!
Reply:Money may not be appropriate for the loss of a loved one. Some people may see it as charity instead of a gift, and some people are very touchy about accepting charity. If you know for a fact that she%26#039;s really hard up for money and is having trouble paying funeral expenses, then money might be okay, but otherwise I%26#039;d be cautious.
Instead, donate the money to a good cause as a memorial to the boy. Ask around - the family may have a favorite group or church that they would like to support.
Reply:I think a card and a live plant would be better. I still have all the plants I received from when my son died 6 years ago.
Reply:DONT SEND MONEY!!!!!! are you nuts??? what is she going to do with it??? buy a 12 pack and call it a night??? send her flowers!!! there are places she can take them to have them framed and kept for memorials...if it were the other way around and the mom died and left a small child behind you could start a fundraiser to put the kid through college or something...thats what happened to me...my mom died when i was eight and people raised money in a trust fund for my college education...something my mom couldnt give me anymore...DO NOT SEND THE MOM MONEY!!!! an empty card and nothing else would be better than sending her money and a card!
Reply:I would make a donation to a childrens charity in the childs name, or if you live in a close knit neighborhood, perhaps get a collection from all the neighbors and present it to the family to help cover their costs, so they have one less thing to worry about.
Reply:i would send flowers or make a donation in the little boy%26#039;s name in a place that is meaningful to the family
Reply:$50.00 min.
super nanny
How much money should I send with a sympathy card?
Honestly, I%26#039;ve never heard of sending money in a sympathy card. I have close friends that have lost loved ones and their main concern is that the deceased persons memory is kept alive. Once spent, money is often forgotten. My idea would be to buy some children%26#039;s books and donate them to the library, inscribing them with %26quot;in memory of.....%26quot; His memory will live on and the books will be read by other children his age.
Reply:I think that is fine to send and you are very sweet to care like that .What a sad thing to happen .
God bless %26#039;ya .
Reply:no
Reply:what ever you can offer. $25 dollars is fine., last year a 4th grad
er was run over by a bus too. any amount will be appreciate
some people don%26#039;t have Life Ins. any amount help. to bury your love one.
Reply:I think it%26#039;s not the price of the card but what the card reads .
Reply:25 is just fine to send .It%26#039;s the thought that counts and you are very thoughtful for even sending anything.
Reply:I think that I would just send flowers, you can never go wrong with that.
Reply:just send flowers. money seems a little mean, or like u were in a hurry. flowers are from the heart and are special. but i think its very sweet that u care so much.
Reply:IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. THE CARD AND MONEY WILL BE FINE!THE WORLD NEEDS MORE CARING PEOPLE IN IT. THANK YOU FOR CARING!GOD BLESS YOU!HAVE A NICE DAY!
Reply:Money may not be appropriate for the loss of a loved one. Some people may see it as charity instead of a gift, and some people are very touchy about accepting charity. If you know for a fact that she%26#039;s really hard up for money and is having trouble paying funeral expenses, then money might be okay, but otherwise I%26#039;d be cautious.
Instead, donate the money to a good cause as a memorial to the boy. Ask around - the family may have a favorite group or church that they would like to support.
Reply:I think a card and a live plant would be better. I still have all the plants I received from when my son died 6 years ago.
Reply:DONT SEND MONEY!!!!!! are you nuts??? what is she going to do with it??? buy a 12 pack and call it a night??? send her flowers!!! there are places she can take them to have them framed and kept for memorials...if it were the other way around and the mom died and left a small child behind you could start a fundraiser to put the kid through college or something...thats what happened to me...my mom died when i was eight and people raised money in a trust fund for my college education...something my mom couldnt give me anymore...DO NOT SEND THE MOM MONEY!!!! an empty card and nothing else would be better than sending her money and a card!
Reply:I would make a donation to a childrens charity in the childs name, or if you live in a close knit neighborhood, perhaps get a collection from all the neighbors and present it to the family to help cover their costs, so they have one less thing to worry about.
Reply:i would send flowers or make a donation in the little boy%26#039;s name in a place that is meaningful to the family
Reply:$50.00 min.
super nanny
Should I send money with a sympathy card? What should I say in the card?
A family friend in another state just died after a long illness. The family is very poor %26amp; the widow has major health problems of her own. I would like to send money instead of flowers, but I%26#039;m not sure if it is appropriate.
Should I send money with a sympathy card? What should I say in the card?
Do it, and say %26quot;I am so sorry for your loss, unfortunatly I can%26#039;t be there for the service but I am sending something that will hopefully help you out with the expenses.%26quot;
Trust me it will be appreciated, some family and friends sent money to my family when my dad died and often it came in just when my mom was majorly stressing about a bill being due.
Reply:Thank you! Report It
Reply:you do what you feel like from your heart, we have a tradition here in scotland of collecting money for friends or colleges that have be left alone by death, it sounds a nice thing to do and i am sure it will be appreciated by the recipient..
thanks
Reply:I believe in this scenario, I think that it is appropiate to send some money to help with the funeral arrangements%26gt; i think the card should explain you intention, and try not come off an insulting
Reply:Absolutely send money! Tell her how sorry you are for her loss and you don%26#039;t know what else to do but hope that the money can help with some of her needs. Bless you.
Reply:I like the idea of the restraunt gift card. If you really want to send money, do so, but be clear about your intentions so that you are not seen as the snobby benevolent friend who just throws money at people to make themselves feel better.
Reply:Send them a gift card for a great place to dine. You are supposed to send food anyways. This way it lets them choose what they like and they get their food. Plus it is hard to send food from a different state.
Reply:I know my parents send money. (they have it - I don%26#039;t) Helps defray costs.
Sorry to hear about your friend.
Maybe in the card put down your favorite memory of your friend - how much that friend meant to you.
Reply:Yes, send a card by all means. You can include a check with the amount you feel is appropriate. In the card you can write the obligatory statements %26quot;I am sorry for your loss...%26quot; you can also add that you are including this check. Use it however you want.
If she wants to buy a headstone with it, she can. She can use it offset funeral expenses, etc.
Reply:Yes it would be appropriate to send money if you wish. Whatever sentiments you put in the card should reflect your personal feelings. The money should be covered separately so as not to cause offence if guests at the funeral read the cards.
I would say something along the lines.
I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. May God bless and comfort you and your family.
I would then enclose a little note with the payment, presumably a cheque, saying.
I%26#039;m sorry that I couldn%26#039;t be there or send flowers. Please accept this donation to use however you wish instead.
Reply:Yes sending money is appropriate along with sympathy.
Reply:Say Im so sorry and maybe this will help you with expenses...
Reply:Yes it is appropriate to send money. The norm is that if the family does not need the money, they will donate it to the deceased favorite charity. If they need it however, they can (and should) use it. What to say? Express your sympathy and pray a blessing for them.
Reply:It is more helpful to the family then flowers, you could call the Mortuary handling the service and ask them if there is a Memorial Fund, if you are uncomfortable sending it in the card. If not it is okay to send in the card, they won%26#039;t be offended they will understand your wish to help them in their time of loss.
Reply:It is perfectly acceptable to send money in a sympathy card. Say that you wish you were there to help but since you can%26#039;t be you hope that this (the money) will help.
My mother had quite a bit of money when she died (not rich, but not hurting) and many people from out of state send cash or a checks in cards. Our family did not consider it insulting. Some didn%26#039;t hear of her death until after the funeral (her old friends from when she was young) and so couldn%26#039;t send flowers.
Reply:It is appropriate to send money to the family, along with your sympathies....you%26#039;d be astounded at the cost of a burial, and I%26#039;m sure the money would be VERY much appreciated!!!
If you%26#039;re not comfortable putting either cash or a check in an envelope, you may send a gift certificate to a grocery store or restaurant and make a note saying you would have loved to have cooked dinner to send over, but you live to far away, etc....
Reply:Well, there are traditions of people bringing food to family after a death, or helping out in other ways. I think sending money in a card would be the same thing.
Reply:It is absolutely appropriate and very kind. Family expenses can really build and stress is high for them right now. Add a note saying you hope this will help with some expenses or it can be donated to the charity of their choice.
When I had a family member pass away, every little bit helped and was really appreciated.
Reply:You could send it in form of a gift card. To a local grocery store or somewhere they can buy food or things they need and in the card just let them know you wanted to help ease the burdens they may have during their difficult time..
Good luck.
skin disease
Should I send money with a sympathy card? What should I say in the card?
Do it, and say %26quot;I am so sorry for your loss, unfortunatly I can%26#039;t be there for the service but I am sending something that will hopefully help you out with the expenses.%26quot;
Trust me it will be appreciated, some family and friends sent money to my family when my dad died and often it came in just when my mom was majorly stressing about a bill being due.
Reply:Thank you! Report It
Reply:you do what you feel like from your heart, we have a tradition here in scotland of collecting money for friends or colleges that have be left alone by death, it sounds a nice thing to do and i am sure it will be appreciated by the recipient..
thanks
Reply:I believe in this scenario, I think that it is appropiate to send some money to help with the funeral arrangements%26gt; i think the card should explain you intention, and try not come off an insulting
Reply:Absolutely send money! Tell her how sorry you are for her loss and you don%26#039;t know what else to do but hope that the money can help with some of her needs. Bless you.
Reply:I like the idea of the restraunt gift card. If you really want to send money, do so, but be clear about your intentions so that you are not seen as the snobby benevolent friend who just throws money at people to make themselves feel better.
Reply:Send them a gift card for a great place to dine. You are supposed to send food anyways. This way it lets them choose what they like and they get their food. Plus it is hard to send food from a different state.
Reply:I know my parents send money. (they have it - I don%26#039;t) Helps defray costs.
Sorry to hear about your friend.
Maybe in the card put down your favorite memory of your friend - how much that friend meant to you.
Reply:Yes, send a card by all means. You can include a check with the amount you feel is appropriate. In the card you can write the obligatory statements %26quot;I am sorry for your loss...%26quot; you can also add that you are including this check. Use it however you want.
If she wants to buy a headstone with it, she can. She can use it offset funeral expenses, etc.
Reply:Yes it would be appropriate to send money if you wish. Whatever sentiments you put in the card should reflect your personal feelings. The money should be covered separately so as not to cause offence if guests at the funeral read the cards.
I would say something along the lines.
I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. May God bless and comfort you and your family.
I would then enclose a little note with the payment, presumably a cheque, saying.
I%26#039;m sorry that I couldn%26#039;t be there or send flowers. Please accept this donation to use however you wish instead.
Reply:Yes sending money is appropriate along with sympathy.
Reply:Say Im so sorry and maybe this will help you with expenses...
Reply:Yes it is appropriate to send money. The norm is that if the family does not need the money, they will donate it to the deceased favorite charity. If they need it however, they can (and should) use it. What to say? Express your sympathy and pray a blessing for them.
Reply:It is more helpful to the family then flowers, you could call the Mortuary handling the service and ask them if there is a Memorial Fund, if you are uncomfortable sending it in the card. If not it is okay to send in the card, they won%26#039;t be offended they will understand your wish to help them in their time of loss.
Reply:It is perfectly acceptable to send money in a sympathy card. Say that you wish you were there to help but since you can%26#039;t be you hope that this (the money) will help.
My mother had quite a bit of money when she died (not rich, but not hurting) and many people from out of state send cash or a checks in cards. Our family did not consider it insulting. Some didn%26#039;t hear of her death until after the funeral (her old friends from when she was young) and so couldn%26#039;t send flowers.
Reply:It is appropriate to send money to the family, along with your sympathies....you%26#039;d be astounded at the cost of a burial, and I%26#039;m sure the money would be VERY much appreciated!!!
If you%26#039;re not comfortable putting either cash or a check in an envelope, you may send a gift certificate to a grocery store or restaurant and make a note saying you would have loved to have cooked dinner to send over, but you live to far away, etc....
Reply:Well, there are traditions of people bringing food to family after a death, or helping out in other ways. I think sending money in a card would be the same thing.
Reply:It is absolutely appropriate and very kind. Family expenses can really build and stress is high for them right now. Add a note saying you hope this will help with some expenses or it can be donated to the charity of their choice.
When I had a family member pass away, every little bit helped and was really appreciated.
Reply:You could send it in form of a gift card. To a local grocery store or somewhere they can buy food or things they need and in the card just let them know you wanted to help ease the burdens they may have during their difficult time..
Good luck.
skin disease
Looking for the perfect condolence/sympathy quote to send to a family member ASAP!?
i%26#039;ve got to send some flowers online within the next few minutes for the death of my semi-close stepmother that lives on the east coast. If anybody out there has a good quote that is inspirational, heartfelt but without being overly religious or cheesy, please send it my way or direct me to the link where i might find one. i%26#039;ve been searching and so far no luck. please get back to me. asap!
Looking for the perfect condolence/sympathy quote to send to a family member ASAP!?
May your memories be of great comfort to you.
God bless****
Reply:None of us knew her but you. IMO your the tops for sharing with us that you love her and and those who survive her. You could ask the flower shop or get some quotes online when you order but they won%26#039;t be personal or allow you to express yourself in your own words.
Reply:To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord.
Reply:Maybe this will help.
http://www.quotegarden.com/sympathy.html
nanny
Looking for the perfect condolence/sympathy quote to send to a family member ASAP!?
May your memories be of great comfort to you.
God bless****
Reply:None of us knew her but you. IMO your the tops for sharing with us that you love her and and those who survive her. You could ask the flower shop or get some quotes online when you order but they won%26#039;t be personal or allow you to express yourself in your own words.
Reply:To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord.
Reply:Maybe this will help.
http://www.quotegarden.com/sympathy.html
nanny
What to bring for sympathy (death)?
My girlfriend and her families good faimly friend recently had a death in the family. You may have seen it on the news. The Zahornacky man who was found in a lake this morning. I am leaving work early to go over there and was wondering the following.
Is it ok to bring flowers so soon? If so what kind?
Is there something else I could bring?
What to bring for sympathy (death)?
White lillies.
Reply:Flowers are usually something sent to a funeral. Most people bring food, a few good ideas are basket of muffins, breads, etc, or meat tray, veggie tray, something for them to have when people come over, and it is also something for them to eat, because naturally people forget to each when they are grieving and really have no time to cook with all the preparations that need to be made. It is always been helpful when I have had a death in the family and people have brought over food.
Reply:i would bring food they`re not going to feel like cooking
Reply:I think your being there for support is the most important thing you can bring at this time. There are so many things going on during a tragedy for a family, that having someone there for them is so important. You really don%26#039;t have to bring anything, when you arrive, just ask if there is anything that they would like for you to do, or anything that they need. You are a good friend and I think just being that is the most important.
Reply:Yeah, flowers are great, just don%26#039;t pick up anything really cheap just because you are in a hurry. Homemade food is usually appreciated - something you can just heat up like a casserole, because nobody feels like cooking.
Reply:Well, there are all kinds of cultural traditions...
is this family liekly to have a gathering at their house? Even if you don%26#039;t go, some kind of prepared food might make thier lives and finances just a bit easier. I personally would appreciate that a whole lot more than flowers (especially bc they make me sneeze.)
Also, I don%26#039;t know the situation, but if this has the media involved, might there be a related charity? Might a fund be set up for the family?
That would be the best of all.
May each of you, including the supporters, have all the support you need!
But if not,
Hey, help out with the food.
Reply:Its fine to bring flowers, if you ask the florist they will tell you what kind is appropriate. just bring your sympathy.
Reply:White lilies sign of sorrow and peace.
donate to their fav. charity.
Reply:In the South we bring food because it%26#039;s the last thing the grieving family is thinking about. I%26#039;ve picked up fried chicken, a pie, made sandwiches... that sort of thing. The time to send flowers is to the funeral home before the viewimg of the body.
Reply:Flowers are ok, but you might want to wait for the funeral. Bring food and a sympathy card.
Reply:flowers would be ok. food is also something you usually can%26#039;t go wrong with.
Reply:Respect for their sorrow and discipline to say the right thing...that%26#039;s really all you need to have with you. If you are going around meal time perhaps pick up a meat and cheese tray from a local market...just in case anyone has skipped eating or simply doesn%26#039;t want to go thru the trouble of preparing a meal...or seeming selfish for being hungry.
Reply:white lilys, no its not too soon!
Reply:I am sorry to hear about your loss.
As strange as this may sound, bring a dinner. Something they can just throw in the oven and not worry about. The last thing they are going to want to do is cook something. So this way at least you know they are going to eat, in this time of sorrow
Reply:I can tell you, as someone who has been in mourning, that food that has been prepared and only needs reheating is a nice thing.
When you%26#039;re grieving, the last thing you want to do is cook dinner.
Reply:Right now, just go and offer support to the family. You do not need to take anything with you.
Reply:flowers would be nice, or people always bring food.
just a suggestion.
Reply:White lilies would be good.
Reply:just being there and having a shoulder to cry on good enough sometimes we feel like we need to bring something but having a friend there at a sad time is good so they would know who to turn to when they need to talk
Reply:It%26#039;s traditional to bring food to a mourning family, so that they don%26#039;t have to prepare meals for all their visitors. There is a great cookbook out there called %26quot;Being Dead is No Excuse%26quot; that has recipes for all the traditional mourning foods from the South.
Reply:Bring something for the family to eat. There will be many people stopping by and there should be little finger foods, water, and soda for he host family and the guest to eat. If you bring a flower let it be a plant, if they have plants. Perhaps a fruit basket will do the job woth out over doing it
Reply:flowers are good... though my assumption would be that they have plenty... Consider making food or purchasing some food... Cookies tend to go over nicely as do brownies... Offer to make/bring dinner for the family one night as I%26#039;d assume this is going to be rather drawn out and the last thing they care about right now is making food... Also in the long run, a small donation to a charity in honor of the man who passed away is probably the most heart-felt.
Reply:What a sad story.
I would get a sympathy arrangement sent to the home.
Maybe not today but tomorrow.
I sure hope they find out what happened.
Reply:Any flowers are appropiate, or food such as a simple casserole or lasagna, the last thing people want to do is cook when they are grieving and food is comforting.
Reply:From experience:
Go over there and show your support. Be yourself. Don%26#039;t avoid talking about the decease, since that is all the people that are grieving are thinking about. Most people avoid even saying their name, say it often.
Remember that there is no one way to grieve and the family members will grieve differently.
In the next few days bring food. Remind them of a past story of the decease, talk often about them.
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Is it ok to bring flowers so soon? If so what kind?
Is there something else I could bring?
What to bring for sympathy (death)?
White lillies.
Reply:Flowers are usually something sent to a funeral. Most people bring food, a few good ideas are basket of muffins, breads, etc, or meat tray, veggie tray, something for them to have when people come over, and it is also something for them to eat, because naturally people forget to each when they are grieving and really have no time to cook with all the preparations that need to be made. It is always been helpful when I have had a death in the family and people have brought over food.
Reply:i would bring food they`re not going to feel like cooking
Reply:I think your being there for support is the most important thing you can bring at this time. There are so many things going on during a tragedy for a family, that having someone there for them is so important. You really don%26#039;t have to bring anything, when you arrive, just ask if there is anything that they would like for you to do, or anything that they need. You are a good friend and I think just being that is the most important.
Reply:Yeah, flowers are great, just don%26#039;t pick up anything really cheap just because you are in a hurry. Homemade food is usually appreciated - something you can just heat up like a casserole, because nobody feels like cooking.
Reply:Well, there are all kinds of cultural traditions...
is this family liekly to have a gathering at their house? Even if you don%26#039;t go, some kind of prepared food might make thier lives and finances just a bit easier. I personally would appreciate that a whole lot more than flowers (especially bc they make me sneeze.)
Also, I don%26#039;t know the situation, but if this has the media involved, might there be a related charity? Might a fund be set up for the family?
That would be the best of all.
May each of you, including the supporters, have all the support you need!
But if not,
Hey, help out with the food.
Reply:Its fine to bring flowers, if you ask the florist they will tell you what kind is appropriate. just bring your sympathy.
Reply:White lilies sign of sorrow and peace.
donate to their fav. charity.
Reply:In the South we bring food because it%26#039;s the last thing the grieving family is thinking about. I%26#039;ve picked up fried chicken, a pie, made sandwiches... that sort of thing. The time to send flowers is to the funeral home before the viewimg of the body.
Reply:Flowers are ok, but you might want to wait for the funeral. Bring food and a sympathy card.
Reply:flowers would be ok. food is also something you usually can%26#039;t go wrong with.
Reply:Respect for their sorrow and discipline to say the right thing...that%26#039;s really all you need to have with you. If you are going around meal time perhaps pick up a meat and cheese tray from a local market...just in case anyone has skipped eating or simply doesn%26#039;t want to go thru the trouble of preparing a meal...or seeming selfish for being hungry.
Reply:white lilys, no its not too soon!
Reply:I am sorry to hear about your loss.
As strange as this may sound, bring a dinner. Something they can just throw in the oven and not worry about. The last thing they are going to want to do is cook something. So this way at least you know they are going to eat, in this time of sorrow
Reply:I can tell you, as someone who has been in mourning, that food that has been prepared and only needs reheating is a nice thing.
When you%26#039;re grieving, the last thing you want to do is cook dinner.
Reply:Right now, just go and offer support to the family. You do not need to take anything with you.
Reply:flowers would be nice, or people always bring food.
just a suggestion.
Reply:White lilies would be good.
Reply:just being there and having a shoulder to cry on good enough sometimes we feel like we need to bring something but having a friend there at a sad time is good so they would know who to turn to when they need to talk
Reply:It%26#039;s traditional to bring food to a mourning family, so that they don%26#039;t have to prepare meals for all their visitors. There is a great cookbook out there called %26quot;Being Dead is No Excuse%26quot; that has recipes for all the traditional mourning foods from the South.
Reply:Bring something for the family to eat. There will be many people stopping by and there should be little finger foods, water, and soda for he host family and the guest to eat. If you bring a flower let it be a plant, if they have plants. Perhaps a fruit basket will do the job woth out over doing it
Reply:flowers are good... though my assumption would be that they have plenty... Consider making food or purchasing some food... Cookies tend to go over nicely as do brownies... Offer to make/bring dinner for the family one night as I%26#039;d assume this is going to be rather drawn out and the last thing they care about right now is making food... Also in the long run, a small donation to a charity in honor of the man who passed away is probably the most heart-felt.
Reply:What a sad story.
I would get a sympathy arrangement sent to the home.
Maybe not today but tomorrow.
I sure hope they find out what happened.
Reply:Any flowers are appropiate, or food such as a simple casserole or lasagna, the last thing people want to do is cook when they are grieving and food is comforting.
Reply:From experience:
Go over there and show your support. Be yourself. Don%26#039;t avoid talking about the decease, since that is all the people that are grieving are thinking about. Most people avoid even saying their name, say it often.
Remember that there is no one way to grieve and the family members will grieve differently.
In the next few days bring food. Remind them of a past story of the decease, talk often about them.
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$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
Rather than flowers, or donations to a charity?
Would this be %26#039;proper%26#039;? or an insult?
Seems that everyone can use cash, to help pay final expenses. . .
$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
A gift card would be less blantant than cash. And one to the supermarket is pretty much a cash equivilant - everyone shops there every week.
I suppose you could contact the funeral home directly and ask to make an annonymous donation. I would take that kindly. I was struck and touched that the FH didn%26#039;t charge us (their policy for the death of young children).
Don%26#039;t discount the donations to charities, especially if one was selected by the family. I found those to be very meaningful to me.
While this is more of a small town thing, you can still do it in the big city: You can bring over a meal (lasagna, salad, bread) in throwaway containers with enough for leftovers. During grief, it can be a relief to have simple things like that (or mow the lawn, board the dog, etc) taken care of.
Also, strongly consider something like bringing a meal over, having them out to dinner or sending a card that you are thinking of them a few months from now. Everyone is really kind and thoughtful for a week or two and then, reasonably enough, they move on and figure the relatives have too. But months later, they are still impaired and (at a lower level) griefing. But no one acknowledges that anymore and they can be hesitate to ask for help.
Don%26#039;t worry about %26quot;reminding%26quot; them of their loss. They already know! Every day, every hour. It is more comfortable to have it acknowledged than to leave it unsaid. It can be as simple as %26quot;You%26#039;re still in my thoughts (or %26quot;prayers%26quot; if you KNOW they%26#039;re religious) and wondered if you wanted to talk or go out together%26quot;. Or %26quot;I was thinking of Bob the other day and how he always used to . . .%26quot;
Reply:Depends on the situation. If a group is sending a card (most people take up money for a co-worker for example) then it is appropriate.
If the funeral announcement specificially states %26quot;in lieu of flowers%26quot; and asks for money to be made to a particular charity, than the family is not really in dire straits and would rather money be sent to that organization.
Personally, I think a nice note placed in the sympathy card with an extended invitation to get together when it is a good time for that person would be best. After the service and everyone is gone, that is when people need the company.
Reply:Yes, I agree at times of loss, or what have you, cash would be appreciated., however I think it would be taken badly in most cases.
loan
Would this be %26#039;proper%26#039;? or an insult?
Seems that everyone can use cash, to help pay final expenses. . .
$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
A gift card would be less blantant than cash. And one to the supermarket is pretty much a cash equivilant - everyone shops there every week.
I suppose you could contact the funeral home directly and ask to make an annonymous donation. I would take that kindly. I was struck and touched that the FH didn%26#039;t charge us (their policy for the death of young children).
Don%26#039;t discount the donations to charities, especially if one was selected by the family. I found those to be very meaningful to me.
While this is more of a small town thing, you can still do it in the big city: You can bring over a meal (lasagna, salad, bread) in throwaway containers with enough for leftovers. During grief, it can be a relief to have simple things like that (or mow the lawn, board the dog, etc) taken care of.
Also, strongly consider something like bringing a meal over, having them out to dinner or sending a card that you are thinking of them a few months from now. Everyone is really kind and thoughtful for a week or two and then, reasonably enough, they move on and figure the relatives have too. But months later, they are still impaired and (at a lower level) griefing. But no one acknowledges that anymore and they can be hesitate to ask for help.
Don%26#039;t worry about %26quot;reminding%26quot; them of their loss. They already know! Every day, every hour. It is more comfortable to have it acknowledged than to leave it unsaid. It can be as simple as %26quot;You%26#039;re still in my thoughts (or %26quot;prayers%26quot; if you KNOW they%26#039;re religious) and wondered if you wanted to talk or go out together%26quot;. Or %26quot;I was thinking of Bob the other day and how he always used to . . .%26quot;
Reply:Depends on the situation. If a group is sending a card (most people take up money for a co-worker for example) then it is appropriate.
If the funeral announcement specificially states %26quot;in lieu of flowers%26quot; and asks for money to be made to a particular charity, than the family is not really in dire straits and would rather money be sent to that organization.
Personally, I think a nice note placed in the sympathy card with an extended invitation to get together when it is a good time for that person would be best. After the service and everyone is gone, that is when people need the company.
Reply:Yes, I agree at times of loss, or what have you, cash would be appreciated., however I think it would be taken badly in most cases.
loan
Thank you for your sympathy?
My mother in law passed away this week. I am in charge of sending out thank you cards to everyone that brought food and sent flowers. I wanted to write a lil thank you note from the family. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know. Thank you
Thank you for your sympathy?
We all thank you for your warmth and sincerity in this our time of mourning. You have grieved with us and supported us, when we needed you the most. Thank you again,
The Clark Family.
Reply:Thank you for choosing my answer. I pray for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Bless and Keep You All. Report It
Reply:Just thank them for their kindness and support....I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:To whom it may concern....
We would like to say Thank you for your support in this very hard time.
With your kind gifts and words, You have made this time so much easier to bare.
From myself and the ? family we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Yours sincerely,
????
Reply:Yes .Send a thank you very much card. We Appreciate all your help ect,ect.
Reply:The best thing to do is have it printed in your local paper on the deaths page, that way you get to thank everyone %26amp; no one gets left out.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:well we had to go through the same thing when my grandfather passed, I say you write them all a note and have it saying, we the family thankyou for all of your hospitality love and support you have provided for our family in our time of need!...oh and I am so sorry about your mother I pray you and the family stay strong
Reply:ACKNOWLEDGMENTS...
The family should acknowledge the flowers and messages sent by relatives and friends. When food and personal services are donated, these thoughtful acts also should be acknowledged, as should the services of the pallbearers. The funeral director may have available printed acknowledgement cards that can be used by the family. When the sender is well known to the family, a short personal note should be written on the acknowledgment card expressing appreciation for a contribution or personal service received. The note can be short, such as:
%26quot;Thank you for the beautiful roses. The arrangement was lovely.
%26quot;The food you sent was so enjoyed by our family. Your kindness is deeply appreciated.%26quot;
In some communities it is a practice to insert a public thank you in the newspaper. The funeral director can assist you with this.
Reply:keep it simple and say something like Thank you for your generosity in our time of sorrow. Your thoughtfulness touched us deeply in our time of need/sorrow.
Reply:thank you for your kind words and prayers in our families time of need your prayers were felt by all who loved our dear departed mother. SO SORRY for your lost I lost my mom 3 years ago and this is exactally what I put in the cards we sent.
Reply:Thankyou for your sympathy in our time of sorrow.
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for your loss. I think a short, heartfelt note thanking them for their thoughtfulness would be great.
Reply:Something simple like...
Our family thanks you for your love and support during our time of pain and loss. We appreciate your kindness and friendship.
Reply:sorry for the loss.
Reply:Since you%26#039;ll have to write many cards, I would say keep it short. Something like, %26quot;Your thoughtfulness is deeply appreciated at this very difficult time for our family.%26quot; Then, if you know specifically what the person did, like, sent flowers, mention that they were beautiful. Just a mention to show that you know in what way the person was helpful or supportive.
Reply:Our family wish to thank all of you for your tenderness and love you shown us doing our lost. The love you have express have deeply touch and move us in our heart, and including the many prayers you have all gave our family. We ask that you%26#039;ll continue to keep us in your prayer. Thank you and God Bless.
* I hope this helps, and personally I%26#039;m so sorry of the passing of your Mother in law. You are in my prayers.
God Bless
Reply:i know what it is like to have your mother pass on.sorry for your loss.
Reply:%26quot;Thank you for you kind thoughts and prayers.%26quot; I used this when my mom passed away. You can personalize the ones you feel you should.
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Thank you for your sympathy?
We all thank you for your warmth and sincerity in this our time of mourning. You have grieved with us and supported us, when we needed you the most. Thank you again,
The Clark Family.
Reply:Thank you for choosing my answer. I pray for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Bless and Keep You All. Report It
Reply:Just thank them for their kindness and support....I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:To whom it may concern....
We would like to say Thank you for your support in this very hard time.
With your kind gifts and words, You have made this time so much easier to bare.
From myself and the ? family we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Yours sincerely,
????
Reply:Yes .Send a thank you very much card. We Appreciate all your help ect,ect.
Reply:The best thing to do is have it printed in your local paper on the deaths page, that way you get to thank everyone %26amp; no one gets left out.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:well we had to go through the same thing when my grandfather passed, I say you write them all a note and have it saying, we the family thankyou for all of your hospitality love and support you have provided for our family in our time of need!...oh and I am so sorry about your mother I pray you and the family stay strong
Reply:ACKNOWLEDGMENTS...
The family should acknowledge the flowers and messages sent by relatives and friends. When food and personal services are donated, these thoughtful acts also should be acknowledged, as should the services of the pallbearers. The funeral director may have available printed acknowledgement cards that can be used by the family. When the sender is well known to the family, a short personal note should be written on the acknowledgment card expressing appreciation for a contribution or personal service received. The note can be short, such as:
%26quot;Thank you for the beautiful roses. The arrangement was lovely.
%26quot;The food you sent was so enjoyed by our family. Your kindness is deeply appreciated.%26quot;
In some communities it is a practice to insert a public thank you in the newspaper. The funeral director can assist you with this.
Reply:keep it simple and say something like Thank you for your generosity in our time of sorrow. Your thoughtfulness touched us deeply in our time of need/sorrow.
Reply:thank you for your kind words and prayers in our families time of need your prayers were felt by all who loved our dear departed mother. SO SORRY for your lost I lost my mom 3 years ago and this is exactally what I put in the cards we sent.
Reply:Thankyou for your sympathy in our time of sorrow.
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for your loss. I think a short, heartfelt note thanking them for their thoughtfulness would be great.
Reply:Something simple like...
Our family thanks you for your love and support during our time of pain and loss. We appreciate your kindness and friendship.
Reply:sorry for the loss.
Reply:Since you%26#039;ll have to write many cards, I would say keep it short. Something like, %26quot;Your thoughtfulness is deeply appreciated at this very difficult time for our family.%26quot; Then, if you know specifically what the person did, like, sent flowers, mention that they were beautiful. Just a mention to show that you know in what way the person was helpful or supportive.
Reply:Our family wish to thank all of you for your tenderness and love you shown us doing our lost. The love you have express have deeply touch and move us in our heart, and including the many prayers you have all gave our family. We ask that you%26#039;ll continue to keep us in your prayer. Thank you and God Bless.
* I hope this helps, and personally I%26#039;m so sorry of the passing of your Mother in law. You are in my prayers.
God Bless
Reply:i know what it is like to have your mother pass on.sorry for your loss.
Reply:%26quot;Thank you for you kind thoughts and prayers.%26quot; I used this when my mom passed away. You can personalize the ones you feel you should.
puppy teeth
Flowers for miscarriage?
Im thinking if it was me, Id like the gesture, but not sure Id want to look at them, then have to throw them out. I spose it would be the same for a funeral.
I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white? FTD shows some bright colorful bouquets in the sympathy section, which confuses me. Another friend said maybe a plant, but cant decide if that is more of a reminder vs a remembrance. Any thoughts?
Flowers for miscarriage?
It depends on the person. Maybe take a card and a meal and just let her know you are there if she needs something. But don%26#039;t be pushy I lost a baby early in the pregnancy and my mother-in-law said you need to get out of the house she took me to walmart to walk around ,which I really just wanted to be left alone. But I passed a lot of gross stuff while there and had to go back home and change cloth%26#039;s. Something in remembrance would be nice but if she can%26#039;t take care of plants, live flowers could upset her more if it dies.
Reply:I dont think the color of the flower indicates that it is a sympathy bouquet or not. . . a simple spring mix would be fine. . . a handwritten note inside a card would be anice gesture.
I think its the thought that coutns and its very nice of you to do something kind. :-)
Reply:I think flowers would be a very nice idea. Not too many colors though - too cheery during a bad time.
Maybe get her a little pine tree or a bush of some kind that she can plant and keep. Not as a reminder of the pain and sadness but of the strength to get through this and for future children.
Reply:I would make her a really good meal and take it to her. That way you can give her a hug and tell her that you%26#039;re thinking about her.
Reply:I HATED the arrangement my wife received after her (our) miscarriage. Couldn%26#039;t stand to look at it. Maybe take her out to dinner and let her air out what see wants to. BTW, happy to say my wife (three years later) is 18 weeks into a very healthy pregnancy!
Reply:It depends on your friends%26#039; view of the world. She may see a gift as a form of rememberence and have to %26quot;throw it away%26quot;, she also, could view it as a positive source of rememberence.
I would consider giving her something more everlasting as a commemoration of her lost child. If you have some money I would consider a nice pendant she can wear. Explain to her that you are not trying to give her a keep-sake, necessarily, of a difficult time in her life, but that it is your way of giving her the opportunity to remember this time in her life and focus on all of the wonderful things she could have in her future vs. the negative aspects of something she couldn%26#039;t control.
That, and maybe a single WHITE rose. I wouldn%26#039;t go with color.
Reply:You can send flowers, or a flowering bush. A tree or something she can plant in memorial of the baby lost is always a kind gesture. She is looking for love and support now, and I doubt that she will be upset that you%26#039;re trying to help. You%26#039;re a good friend!
Reply:I think the tree or plant is good as a rememberance. Flowers are also appropriate. I dont think your friend will care what it is, just the fact that you are thinking of her is will make it easier. Also I wouldn%26#039;t go with white- too bland- go with something that has color - give her something that screams with NEW LIFE.
Reply:I hated any sort of arrangements that were sent to me after I miscarried after four months. I threw them all out because I didn%26#039;t want any sort of reminder. It was hard enough to deal with the sympathy that everyone was trying to give, that I just needed sometome alone. I did appreciate the meals that were made and brought over. I also had a child who was a year, so anytime that someone wanted to spend time with her was great too.
I wouldn%26#039;t go for the flower idea, it is really to hard to forget. Maybe stick to dinner, a little bit of house work if she is really distraught. Take her for walks, get her out of the house, doing something. Get her to talk about it too. The more she talks about it, hopefully the better she will start feeling.
Reply:Sure - send flowers. They die soon anyways.
You get flowers for sympathy - perfect time to send them. I would think it very nice and appreciate it if someone did that for me during that time.
Reebok
I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white? FTD shows some bright colorful bouquets in the sympathy section, which confuses me. Another friend said maybe a plant, but cant decide if that is more of a reminder vs a remembrance. Any thoughts?
Flowers for miscarriage?
It depends on the person. Maybe take a card and a meal and just let her know you are there if she needs something. But don%26#039;t be pushy I lost a baby early in the pregnancy and my mother-in-law said you need to get out of the house she took me to walmart to walk around ,which I really just wanted to be left alone. But I passed a lot of gross stuff while there and had to go back home and change cloth%26#039;s. Something in remembrance would be nice but if she can%26#039;t take care of plants, live flowers could upset her more if it dies.
Reply:I dont think the color of the flower indicates that it is a sympathy bouquet or not. . . a simple spring mix would be fine. . . a handwritten note inside a card would be anice gesture.
I think its the thought that coutns and its very nice of you to do something kind. :-)
Reply:I think flowers would be a very nice idea. Not too many colors though - too cheery during a bad time.
Maybe get her a little pine tree or a bush of some kind that she can plant and keep. Not as a reminder of the pain and sadness but of the strength to get through this and for future children.
Reply:I would make her a really good meal and take it to her. That way you can give her a hug and tell her that you%26#039;re thinking about her.
Reply:I HATED the arrangement my wife received after her (our) miscarriage. Couldn%26#039;t stand to look at it. Maybe take her out to dinner and let her air out what see wants to. BTW, happy to say my wife (three years later) is 18 weeks into a very healthy pregnancy!
Reply:It depends on your friends%26#039; view of the world. She may see a gift as a form of rememberence and have to %26quot;throw it away%26quot;, she also, could view it as a positive source of rememberence.
I would consider giving her something more everlasting as a commemoration of her lost child. If you have some money I would consider a nice pendant she can wear. Explain to her that you are not trying to give her a keep-sake, necessarily, of a difficult time in her life, but that it is your way of giving her the opportunity to remember this time in her life and focus on all of the wonderful things she could have in her future vs. the negative aspects of something she couldn%26#039;t control.
That, and maybe a single WHITE rose. I wouldn%26#039;t go with color.
Reply:You can send flowers, or a flowering bush. A tree or something she can plant in memorial of the baby lost is always a kind gesture. She is looking for love and support now, and I doubt that she will be upset that you%26#039;re trying to help. You%26#039;re a good friend!
Reply:I think the tree or plant is good as a rememberance. Flowers are also appropriate. I dont think your friend will care what it is, just the fact that you are thinking of her is will make it easier. Also I wouldn%26#039;t go with white- too bland- go with something that has color - give her something that screams with NEW LIFE.
Reply:I hated any sort of arrangements that were sent to me after I miscarried after four months. I threw them all out because I didn%26#039;t want any sort of reminder. It was hard enough to deal with the sympathy that everyone was trying to give, that I just needed sometome alone. I did appreciate the meals that were made and brought over. I also had a child who was a year, so anytime that someone wanted to spend time with her was great too.
I wouldn%26#039;t go for the flower idea, it is really to hard to forget. Maybe stick to dinner, a little bit of house work if she is really distraught. Take her for walks, get her out of the house, doing something. Get her to talk about it too. The more she talks about it, hopefully the better she will start feeling.
Reply:Sure - send flowers. They die soon anyways.
You get flowers for sympathy - perfect time to send them. I would think it very nice and appreciate it if someone did that for me during that time.
Reebok
What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
My step-grandmother passed away yesterday. I may have seen her 10 times in my 39 years. I really did not know her. All I really know about her is that she was a missionary and very religous. I am sending flowers and I don%26#039;t want to offend that side of the family by saying something dumb.
What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
I am very sorry for your loss. May you find peace in knowing that she helped so many people in her life. Again, my deepest condolences.
I tried writing more but it was too much. This is what I would write. I know it%26#039;s hard to think of what to say to people at a time like that. It%26#039;s the thought that counts.
loan
What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
I am very sorry for your loss. May you find peace in knowing that she helped so many people in her life. Again, my deepest condolences.
I tried writing more but it was too much. This is what I would write. I know it%26#039;s hard to think of what to say to people at a time like that. It%26#039;s the thought that counts.
loan
Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
My boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband had an accident involving some sort of head trauma a few days ago. He survived, but there is damage; how extensive and how permanent is unknown yet, but it will be a long road to recovery.
My boyfriend is going down to visit this weekend. He felt it would be better to feel things out for now and then have me come down another weekend, which is fine. But I do want to send something. What can I send? A card I guess. But what else. Flowers is weird. I looked at 1800flowers and the %26quot;Get Well%26quot; gift baskets are like teas and other things and obviously directed at the sick person. The funeral stuff is like fruit and cheese and cookies. That seems oddly celebratory, but maybe that%26#039;s because funeral%26#039;s are supposed to have a dimension of honoring the person who died.
Any ideas? I am considering making a meal of some kind and sending it with my boyfriend, but I don%26#039;t really cook.
Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
I think a meal or anything that will lessen the load for them as they deal with this would be nice-
If you don%26#039;t cook you could try Omahasteaks.com they have prepared meals you can send
Reply:Make a nice pot of soup and send.
Reply:just send a nice card and do the best you can to call your boyfriend and just listen to him, let him vent.
Reply:Since you don%26#039;t cook perhaps you could send a gift card to a restaurant that is in her area. Or you could offer to help her with something that she will not have time for like grocery shop for her when you get there. You can also buy deli things from the grocery for her fridge to help when she get home from the hospital and then she won%26#039;t have to cook either. You can also order her a meal like Olive Garden with your credit card and have your boyfreind pick it up.
I think it is hard to say what to do since we don%26#039;t know how well you know her or her husband but food is a good choice.
Reply:Check out the restaurant listing for the area they are in and possibly have a nice meal prepared and delivered to them or even hire someone to come in and cook or clean or do laundry for them. Who ever the care giver is going to be is going to have their hands full and would probably appreciate any help with the day to day stuff. Plus send the card. Best wishes for you boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband and their entire family. I hope he does well.
Reply:A %26quot;Get Well Card%26quot; is the most appropriate and all that is necessary, Sign it.......................(your first and last name) and under your name write ( your boyfriend%26#039;s first name, ex: Jim%26#039;s Friend )
Reply:There are cards that say things like %26quot;My thoughts are with you%26quot;, %26quot;I%26#039;m here if you need me%26quot;, etc. Food at funerals is usually there as munchies for the guests, or real food so the bereaved don%26#039;t have to think or work beyond heating a casserole. Food is also nice for people who may be spending a lot of time visiting the hospital and traveling to and from it, or even caring for someone at home. Maybe you know someone who could cook for you in return for a favor from you? Also, most grocery stores have half-decent prepared food sections now. (Often in the deli case.) You could put togther a few things from there and send it on. It%26#039;s a very nice thought, and everyone I know would appreciate it
Reply:Something they can freeze, or high quality delivered food (pizza doesn%26#039;t count :) !)
I would think a balnk card, saying that you%26#039;re sorry to hear of the accident, and that your thoughts are with them - If you want to offer - then add something like - If you need anything, at all, don%26#039;t hesitate to call - and that you%26#039;ll see them soon.
Reply:i%26#039;d skip the card unless you find just the right saying this is a touchy situation i%26#039;d get just a blank and say something like you%26#039;re praying for his recovery and he%26#039;s in your thoughts there is nothing wrong with sending flowers or a plant BUT if he%26#039;s in ICU or CCU they won%26#039;t let him have it the food is a good idea cookies travel pretty well . if you make something how about a pot of chili they can use then or freeze.
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My boyfriend is going down to visit this weekend. He felt it would be better to feel things out for now and then have me come down another weekend, which is fine. But I do want to send something. What can I send? A card I guess. But what else. Flowers is weird. I looked at 1800flowers and the %26quot;Get Well%26quot; gift baskets are like teas and other things and obviously directed at the sick person. The funeral stuff is like fruit and cheese and cookies. That seems oddly celebratory, but maybe that%26#039;s because funeral%26#039;s are supposed to have a dimension of honoring the person who died.
Any ideas? I am considering making a meal of some kind and sending it with my boyfriend, but I don%26#039;t really cook.
Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
I think a meal or anything that will lessen the load for them as they deal with this would be nice-
If you don%26#039;t cook you could try Omahasteaks.com they have prepared meals you can send
Reply:Make a nice pot of soup and send.
Reply:just send a nice card and do the best you can to call your boyfriend and just listen to him, let him vent.
Reply:Since you don%26#039;t cook perhaps you could send a gift card to a restaurant that is in her area. Or you could offer to help her with something that she will not have time for like grocery shop for her when you get there. You can also buy deli things from the grocery for her fridge to help when she get home from the hospital and then she won%26#039;t have to cook either. You can also order her a meal like Olive Garden with your credit card and have your boyfreind pick it up.
I think it is hard to say what to do since we don%26#039;t know how well you know her or her husband but food is a good choice.
Reply:Check out the restaurant listing for the area they are in and possibly have a nice meal prepared and delivered to them or even hire someone to come in and cook or clean or do laundry for them. Who ever the care giver is going to be is going to have their hands full and would probably appreciate any help with the day to day stuff. Plus send the card. Best wishes for you boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband and their entire family. I hope he does well.
Reply:A %26quot;Get Well Card%26quot; is the most appropriate and all that is necessary, Sign it.......................(your first and last name) and under your name write ( your boyfriend%26#039;s first name, ex: Jim%26#039;s Friend )
Reply:There are cards that say things like %26quot;My thoughts are with you%26quot;, %26quot;I%26#039;m here if you need me%26quot;, etc. Food at funerals is usually there as munchies for the guests, or real food so the bereaved don%26#039;t have to think or work beyond heating a casserole. Food is also nice for people who may be spending a lot of time visiting the hospital and traveling to and from it, or even caring for someone at home. Maybe you know someone who could cook for you in return for a favor from you? Also, most grocery stores have half-decent prepared food sections now. (Often in the deli case.) You could put togther a few things from there and send it on. It%26#039;s a very nice thought, and everyone I know would appreciate it
Reply:Something they can freeze, or high quality delivered food (pizza doesn%26#039;t count :) !)
I would think a balnk card, saying that you%26#039;re sorry to hear of the accident, and that your thoughts are with them - If you want to offer - then add something like - If you need anything, at all, don%26#039;t hesitate to call - and that you%26#039;ll see them soon.
Reply:i%26#039;d skip the card unless you find just the right saying this is a touchy situation i%26#039;d get just a blank and say something like you%26#039;re praying for his recovery and he%26#039;s in your thoughts there is nothing wrong with sending flowers or a plant BUT if he%26#039;s in ICU or CCU they won%26#039;t let him have it the food is a good idea cookies travel pretty well . if you make something how about a pot of chili they can use then or freeze.
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Sympathy gifts?
My friend%26#039;s daughter passed away and I%26#039;d like to do something in recognition of her. I considered flowers, but was told by a friend that in her experience as the grieving family member that you get many of those and that many were redonated or thrown out.
What would be another good idea to just show I care? I am considering a nice fruit basket, but are there any other creative ideas? I had the suggestion of a monetary donation to the family, but I%26#039;m not sure my friend would be comfortable with that.
Sympathy gifts?
How old was the daughter? If she was young, I would say something like a beautiful angel ornament or other angelic knicknack to help your friend remember her daughter. Or maybe a cat or dog to have a warm being to hold and cuddle...
Reply:You could make cookies or make a cake. Something sweet always makes ppl happy. It wont get rid of her pain, but ppl love sweets, so you could try something like that.*
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What would be another good idea to just show I care? I am considering a nice fruit basket, but are there any other creative ideas? I had the suggestion of a monetary donation to the family, but I%26#039;m not sure my friend would be comfortable with that.
Sympathy gifts?
How old was the daughter? If she was young, I would say something like a beautiful angel ornament or other angelic knicknack to help your friend remember her daughter. Or maybe a cat or dog to have a warm being to hold and cuddle...
Reply:You could make cookies or make a cake. Something sweet always makes ppl happy. It wont get rid of her pain, but ppl love sweets, so you could try something like that.*
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Sympathy Quote?
My co-worker%26#039;s and good friend mother passed away. Wake is tomorrow, I%26#039;d like to send flowers, but have no idea what note to put with them. I%26#039;ve been through this by myself. Words don%26#039;t help...but I have to write something.
Sympathy Quote?
Below is a list of quotes that might work:
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~From a headstone in Ireland
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran
There are things that we don%26#039;t want to happen but have to accept, things we don%26#039;t want to know but have to learn, and people we can%26#039;t live without but have to let go. ~Author Unknown
In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. ~Robert Ingersoll
The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. ~Quoted in The Angels%26#039; Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994
Reply:I always just write %26quot;Thinking of you in your time of sorrow%26quot; or something like that. Or if you%26#039;re religious, %26quot;Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers%26quot;
Reply:Condolences.With big pain.
Reply:I%26#039;m terribly sorry for your loss...
Like you mentioned, words are pretty much meaningless when someone has died...
Write something from you heart - short and to the point.
That%26#039;s the best you can do... I know that isn%26#039;t a great answer, but there really isn%26#039;t anything else you can do.
Just be there for your friend - that%26#039;s much more important than the card...
-dh
Reply:Write nothing, just tag it with %26quot;With my sympathy, (your name)%26quot;
Reply:No Person is Ever Truly Alone
by Richard Fife
No person is ever truly alone.
Those who live no more,
Whom we loved,
Echo still within our thoughts,
Our words, our hearts.
And what they did
And who they were
Becomes a part of all that we are,
Forever.
Reply:Simply say, sorry for your loss. Let me know if there%26#039;s anything I can do to ease your pain.
Then sign your name.
Reply:You could simply have the florist include a card that says %26quot;With deepest sympathy%26quot;
or.....
If you choose to write the note personally, you could say , %26quot;I am so sorry for your great loss, please know that I am here for you%26quot;
Reply:Don%26#039;t make it too flowery.
Just a simple %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry for you loss. You are in my prayers.%26quot; will do nicely. Let%26#039;s them know you care, but doesn%26#039;t weight them down will a bunch of babble that they don%26#039;t want or need right now. They won%26#039;t remember a long message. It might mean something to you, but it%26#039;s just not appropriate right now.
If you want to do something else, something more, then wait a couple of weeks and take the friend out for lunch or dinner and let them know then that you are there if they need to talk. Don%26#039;t push it. They%26#039;ll be in a better frame of mind to receive your heartfelt sentiments.
Reply:One of the most poignant of all human experiences is empathy-the ability to feel what others feel when suffering from pain or loss. --Louis Jolyon West
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Sympathy Quote?
Below is a list of quotes that might work:
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~From a headstone in Ireland
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran
There are things that we don%26#039;t want to happen but have to accept, things we don%26#039;t want to know but have to learn, and people we can%26#039;t live without but have to let go. ~Author Unknown
In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. ~Robert Ingersoll
The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. ~Quoted in The Angels%26#039; Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994
Reply:I always just write %26quot;Thinking of you in your time of sorrow%26quot; or something like that. Or if you%26#039;re religious, %26quot;Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers%26quot;
Reply:Condolences.With big pain.
Reply:I%26#039;m terribly sorry for your loss...
Like you mentioned, words are pretty much meaningless when someone has died...
Write something from you heart - short and to the point.
That%26#039;s the best you can do... I know that isn%26#039;t a great answer, but there really isn%26#039;t anything else you can do.
Just be there for your friend - that%26#039;s much more important than the card...
-dh
Reply:Write nothing, just tag it with %26quot;With my sympathy, (your name)%26quot;
Reply:No Person is Ever Truly Alone
by Richard Fife
No person is ever truly alone.
Those who live no more,
Whom we loved,
Echo still within our thoughts,
Our words, our hearts.
And what they did
And who they were
Becomes a part of all that we are,
Forever.
Reply:Simply say, sorry for your loss. Let me know if there%26#039;s anything I can do to ease your pain.
Then sign your name.
Reply:You could simply have the florist include a card that says %26quot;With deepest sympathy%26quot;
or.....
If you choose to write the note personally, you could say , %26quot;I am so sorry for your great loss, please know that I am here for you%26quot;
Reply:Don%26#039;t make it too flowery.
Just a simple %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry for you loss. You are in my prayers.%26quot; will do nicely. Let%26#039;s them know you care, but doesn%26#039;t weight them down will a bunch of babble that they don%26#039;t want or need right now. They won%26#039;t remember a long message. It might mean something to you, but it%26#039;s just not appropriate right now.
If you want to do something else, something more, then wait a couple of weeks and take the friend out for lunch or dinner and let them know then that you are there if they need to talk. Don%26#039;t push it. They%26#039;ll be in a better frame of mind to receive your heartfelt sentiments.
Reply:One of the most poignant of all human experiences is empathy-the ability to feel what others feel when suffering from pain or loss. --Louis Jolyon West
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On line Flower Shops?
I need to find a Cheap Online Flower Shop Fast! I Need Sympathy Flowers for my Grandfather%26#039;s Funeral.
On line Flower Shops?
This is a mail order place, but if you don%26#039;t mind paying extra for express delivery they can help you out. Go to: www@mileskimball.com. Look for the dozen long stemmed roses. They%26#039;re available in: pink, red, or yellow. I don%26#039;t sell anything, but I buy many things from them. I have bought the pink ones for my mom %26amp; dad%26#039;s 50th anniversary in the past. They were beautiful!
Reply:Without knowing which country you reside in, it%26#039;s difficult to give an answer.
Your best move is to do a local Google search or an online yellow pages search.
Sorry to learn of your grandfather%26#039;s death.
Reply:FTD.com is a well known flower merchant. They won%26#039;t send you any crap flowers that should have been thrown out and if you ask about it (they also have an 800#) you may be able to get a arrangement of cheaper if it isn%26#039;t the high demand type flowers like roses.
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On line Flower Shops?
This is a mail order place, but if you don%26#039;t mind paying extra for express delivery they can help you out. Go to: www@mileskimball.com. Look for the dozen long stemmed roses. They%26#039;re available in: pink, red, or yellow. I don%26#039;t sell anything, but I buy many things from them. I have bought the pink ones for my mom %26amp; dad%26#039;s 50th anniversary in the past. They were beautiful!
Reply:Without knowing which country you reside in, it%26#039;s difficult to give an answer.
Your best move is to do a local Google search or an online yellow pages search.
Sorry to learn of your grandfather%26#039;s death.
Reply:FTD.com is a well known flower merchant. They won%26#039;t send you any crap flowers that should have been thrown out and if you ask about it (they also have an 800#) you may be able to get a arrangement of cheaper if it isn%26#039;t the high demand type flowers like roses.
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Is this a good sympathy gift for my friend? Her mother just died?
My friend%26#039;s mother just died...we have been working together a few years and she is basically like a mother to me. Me and my girlfriend are friends with her family but we never knew her mother. I was going to get them a Vermont Teddy Bear with a card saying %26quot;We are sorry for the loss of your loved one, keep this in her memory%26quot; Does that seem a bit over the top or no? For some reason it seems like a strange sympathy gift to me...but I didn%26#039;t want to go with a generic fruit basket or flower arrangement...I wanted it to be something they could keep and remember. For me it just almost seems droll to give someone a gift that is like %26#039;here is something to remind you that someone died%26#039;
Am I thinking too deeply about this? Any thoughts?
Is this a good sympathy gift for my friend? Her mother just died?
What matters is the note you write, on a card or letter, and the comfort you offer this person. I think you could even write %26quot;You have been like a mother to me%26quot; in your note and it would mean a lot. There should be no such thing as a sympathy gift-I agree it is just a reminder.
People gave my husband teddy bears when he had cancer and we were dumbfounded, although we appreciated the thought. Teddy bears for a 40 year old man? Reminders of his illness? No thanks!
Reply:You do not give gifts when people pass away. Often times, family will bring over some meals so the grieving does not need to worry about cooking. As for a friend, a simple card expressing your sympathy and prayers is enough.
Reply:I recently lost a close friend, and although gifts were thoughtful and appreciated, the thing that kept me going was the people that offered their support and prayers.
Reply:I don%26#039;t think it is too over the top, but I think it is a bit odd to give a teddy bear or any gift for sympathy. I think many prefer people to give to a charity...is there something the mom or the family supports?.....How did she die? If it was due to an illness there may be charities that do research in that field and THAT would be the most appropriate charitable donation to make. If there are young children, maybe you could start a college fund for them. What is MOST important during this time and in the near future is to let the family know that you will be there for them and mean it. They may be getting bombarded with visitors and gifts right now, but maybe it would be nice in a couple weeks to bring them a home made meal. Actions go a lot further than any gift, so just pay attention to what your friend needs or wants and be there.
Reply:great idea maybe get a PLANT not flowers as well!
Reply:You could get a donation to a charity in her mother%26#039;s name. I know when my Grandad died we got certificates of donations given to the Irish Cancer foundation and that meant a lot to my nana.
Reply:I think its the thought that counts here, Another idea would be making a donation in this person%26#039;s name to a charity. Sorry for your loss.
Reply:that is a lovely thought go for it and bless you for being so thoughtful
Reply:What I would do is purchase a very special %26quot;Hallmark%26quot; condolence card, together with flowers, a plant, or a real nice box of chocolates. Even a home made cake, your girlfriend can bake.
Hallmark has so many cards, you will really be able to find one that exactly conveys your feelings. As a personal touch I would call your friend and ask her if you, and your girlfriend may come and make a condolence visit. Bring the flowers, and card with you.
When people are in mourning they need other people around to talk their feelings out. She will most probably enjoy talking about the good times, and wonderful memories she has of her mother. However, I would wait for 4 to 5 days before you do it.
Reply:Why a gift. Your support and sympathy for their situation should be more than enough.
A teddy bear? There is something that will end up in a garage sale or stuffed in an attic somewhere. Just be there for them. It says more than anything.
Reply:I%26#039;m not so sure about that...what about just offering your support %26amp; letting them know you%26#039;ll be glad to do anything for them that they may need during this time...such as cooking a meal for them, running any errands, etc. If she keeps mementos they will probably be personal ones that she already has or that her mother owned...a nice card would suffice...since you didn%26#039;t know her mother I wouldn%26#039;t get anything too personal
Reply:I think it%26#039;s a great idea. i have to agree with the boring fruits and flowers. i hope she likes the gift!
Reply:As some have already stated the idea is great but the teddy bear is a little strange and defintily something that will end up in yard sale down the road.
However, if you check someplace such as:
www.collectionsetc.com
You will find some really nice sympathy gifts such as angels with a special message and some garden stones. Personally I would rather have something like that then a teddy bear.
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Am I thinking too deeply about this? Any thoughts?
Is this a good sympathy gift for my friend? Her mother just died?
What matters is the note you write, on a card or letter, and the comfort you offer this person. I think you could even write %26quot;You have been like a mother to me%26quot; in your note and it would mean a lot. There should be no such thing as a sympathy gift-I agree it is just a reminder.
People gave my husband teddy bears when he had cancer and we were dumbfounded, although we appreciated the thought. Teddy bears for a 40 year old man? Reminders of his illness? No thanks!
Reply:You do not give gifts when people pass away. Often times, family will bring over some meals so the grieving does not need to worry about cooking. As for a friend, a simple card expressing your sympathy and prayers is enough.
Reply:I recently lost a close friend, and although gifts were thoughtful and appreciated, the thing that kept me going was the people that offered their support and prayers.
Reply:I don%26#039;t think it is too over the top, but I think it is a bit odd to give a teddy bear or any gift for sympathy. I think many prefer people to give to a charity...is there something the mom or the family supports?.....How did she die? If it was due to an illness there may be charities that do research in that field and THAT would be the most appropriate charitable donation to make. If there are young children, maybe you could start a college fund for them. What is MOST important during this time and in the near future is to let the family know that you will be there for them and mean it. They may be getting bombarded with visitors and gifts right now, but maybe it would be nice in a couple weeks to bring them a home made meal. Actions go a lot further than any gift, so just pay attention to what your friend needs or wants and be there.
Reply:great idea maybe get a PLANT not flowers as well!
Reply:You could get a donation to a charity in her mother%26#039;s name. I know when my Grandad died we got certificates of donations given to the Irish Cancer foundation and that meant a lot to my nana.
Reply:I think its the thought that counts here, Another idea would be making a donation in this person%26#039;s name to a charity. Sorry for your loss.
Reply:that is a lovely thought go for it and bless you for being so thoughtful
Reply:What I would do is purchase a very special %26quot;Hallmark%26quot; condolence card, together with flowers, a plant, or a real nice box of chocolates. Even a home made cake, your girlfriend can bake.
Hallmark has so many cards, you will really be able to find one that exactly conveys your feelings. As a personal touch I would call your friend and ask her if you, and your girlfriend may come and make a condolence visit. Bring the flowers, and card with you.
When people are in mourning they need other people around to talk their feelings out. She will most probably enjoy talking about the good times, and wonderful memories she has of her mother. However, I would wait for 4 to 5 days before you do it.
Reply:Why a gift. Your support and sympathy for their situation should be more than enough.
A teddy bear? There is something that will end up in a garage sale or stuffed in an attic somewhere. Just be there for them. It says more than anything.
Reply:I%26#039;m not so sure about that...what about just offering your support %26amp; letting them know you%26#039;ll be glad to do anything for them that they may need during this time...such as cooking a meal for them, running any errands, etc. If she keeps mementos they will probably be personal ones that she already has or that her mother owned...a nice card would suffice...since you didn%26#039;t know her mother I wouldn%26#039;t get anything too personal
Reply:I think it%26#039;s a great idea. i have to agree with the boring fruits and flowers. i hope she likes the gift!
Reply:As some have already stated the idea is great but the teddy bear is a little strange and defintily something that will end up in yard sale down the road.
However, if you check someplace such as:
www.collectionsetc.com
You will find some really nice sympathy gifts such as angels with a special message and some garden stones. Personally I would rather have something like that then a teddy bear.
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Business Sympathy Card Letter?
I have to send flowers to a corporation we work with, one of their employees died. I also have to send flowers on behalf of another group my boss is chairing. I am sending these to a group of people in care of one person. What the heck do i say? This seems like it should be simple...how do i address a group of employess, seems weird to say Dear (insert company name) Do I have to address them or can i jsut put:
Our deepest sympathies are with you at this time.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you,
(company name)
Business Sympathy Card Letter?
Yes, just put that, keep it general.
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Our deepest sympathies are with you at this time.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you,
(company name)
Business Sympathy Card Letter?
Yes, just put that, keep it general.
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Sympathy gifts for a teenage boy?
my friends little sister just died and as a class we thought it%26#039;d be appropriate to get our friend somethig to show our sympathies.. he is a HUGE hockey fan.. game geek, loves to read etc.. we dont%26#039; want him to get flowers or anything like that beucase we want to show we actually thought about it and put effort into it
Sympathy gifts for a teenage boy?
Instead of buy him something, make a donation to a local charity in honor of his sister.
Reply:maybe like you can get him a jersey of his fav team or something?
Reply:Try a hockey jersey, some good chocolates and other goodies, and some good reading material (something funny, like comic books or funny authors). That way, he has something he likes, some junk food because he might not feel like eating, and some reading material that makes him laugh a little.
Reply:get him world of warcraft .. his fave teams shirt ... and some books ... also some cologne
Reply:Well, defenitly get a card for everyone to sign -- maybe not a sympathy one, because those tend to get girly. Maybe just a there-for-you kind of card, that is funny at the same time. For a gift, maybe a gift card, or a special piece of memrobeilia from his favorite team. Or maybe a coffee table book about hockey or something. It depends on how much you are going to have to spend. Good luck -- and remember, the best gift is to just be there for him.
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Sympathy gifts for a teenage boy?
Instead of buy him something, make a donation to a local charity in honor of his sister.
Reply:maybe like you can get him a jersey of his fav team or something?
Reply:Try a hockey jersey, some good chocolates and other goodies, and some good reading material (something funny, like comic books or funny authors). That way, he has something he likes, some junk food because he might not feel like eating, and some reading material that makes him laugh a little.
Reply:get him world of warcraft .. his fave teams shirt ... and some books ... also some cologne
Reply:Well, defenitly get a card for everyone to sign -- maybe not a sympathy one, because those tend to get girly. Maybe just a there-for-you kind of card, that is funny at the same time. For a gift, maybe a gift card, or a special piece of memrobeilia from his favorite team. Or maybe a coffee table book about hockey or something. It depends on how much you are going to have to spend. Good luck -- and remember, the best gift is to just be there for him.
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When sending flowers after a death what do you write on the card?
My Aunt is in hospice care and has been given 3-4 days until she passes. I want to send some flowers to my Uncle but I dont know what to write on the card. I live in another country so I thought this would be the best way to send my sympathy without actually being able to be there. The only problem is that I have no idea what to write on the card when they are being sent. She is so loved by my whole family, but what do you say in a card without sound impersonal?
When sending flowers after a death what do you write on the card?
Please accept our/my sincerist sympathies in this difficult time.
Our/my prayers and thoughts are with you.
Then, include a personal, happy memory of your Aunt to make everyone smile for a moment.
Reply:Thinking of you...from our family to yours!
Reply:Write it to your aunt...
%26quot;To my Dearest Aunt Susie....My heart and prayers are with you and Uncle Stan at this time and I do wish I could be with you. You shall always be in my heart and soul, a loving part of my life that I shall never forget. With much love and respect, your niece, ...%26quot;
Reply:Don%26#039;t make it a condolence card and make the flower arrangement as cheerful as possible. Address the card to both your aunt and uncle and express your regrets for not being there in their hour of need. Remind them of happy times you shared with them and how they are always in your thoughts.
Reply:Instead of sending flowers which do not last for long, send a card with a few of your memories written down and then add that you have given a donation (what the cost of the flowers would have been) in your aunts name to a charity that they may have felt strongly about. If you can%26#039;t think of one then a research group might be best. This will do more than flowers that wilt and die too soon.
My prayers are with you I just lost my brother four days ago and we asked for donation to his favorite charity instead of flowers for his funeral.
Reply:Just tell him that he is in your thoughts and prayers, and maybe mention a personal memory of her that means alot to you.
Reply:If the card is to be included with the flowers just put tell the florist to write on the card %26quot;Deepest sympathy from your nephew ... %26quot; . Take the time to buy a nice card and write a personal message on it and mail it to your uncle .
Reply:I am very sorry to hear about your Aunt. With certain strong emotions such as love or grief, it is often difficult to find the right words to express ourselves to others...
So, it is no wonder when faced with a situation where you must find the right words to express your own emotions and attempt to offer some comfort to someone else at the same, that we can find ourselves at a loss...
When I was very young, I lost my father and I can say that from personal experience, certain %26quot;sayings%26quot; or poems felt trite and insincere such as %26quot;God picks the most beautiful flowers for his garden!%26quot;
I would say that sometimes saying little actually says alot....
%26quot;My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.%26quot;
%26quot;Aunt Jane touched all of our lives, she will be missed.%26quot;
Below is a site that offers some suggestions.
Best wishes to you and yours...
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When sending flowers after a death what do you write on the card?
Please accept our/my sincerist sympathies in this difficult time.
Our/my prayers and thoughts are with you.
Then, include a personal, happy memory of your Aunt to make everyone smile for a moment.
Reply:Thinking of you...from our family to yours!
Reply:Write it to your aunt...
%26quot;To my Dearest Aunt Susie....My heart and prayers are with you and Uncle Stan at this time and I do wish I could be with you. You shall always be in my heart and soul, a loving part of my life that I shall never forget. With much love and respect, your niece, ...%26quot;
Reply:Don%26#039;t make it a condolence card and make the flower arrangement as cheerful as possible. Address the card to both your aunt and uncle and express your regrets for not being there in their hour of need. Remind them of happy times you shared with them and how they are always in your thoughts.
Reply:Instead of sending flowers which do not last for long, send a card with a few of your memories written down and then add that you have given a donation (what the cost of the flowers would have been) in your aunts name to a charity that they may have felt strongly about. If you can%26#039;t think of one then a research group might be best. This will do more than flowers that wilt and die too soon.
My prayers are with you I just lost my brother four days ago and we asked for donation to his favorite charity instead of flowers for his funeral.
Reply:Just tell him that he is in your thoughts and prayers, and maybe mention a personal memory of her that means alot to you.
Reply:If the card is to be included with the flowers just put tell the florist to write on the card %26quot;Deepest sympathy from your nephew ... %26quot; . Take the time to buy a nice card and write a personal message on it and mail it to your uncle .
Reply:I am very sorry to hear about your Aunt. With certain strong emotions such as love or grief, it is often difficult to find the right words to express ourselves to others...
So, it is no wonder when faced with a situation where you must find the right words to express your own emotions and attempt to offer some comfort to someone else at the same, that we can find ourselves at a loss...
When I was very young, I lost my father and I can say that from personal experience, certain %26quot;sayings%26quot; or poems felt trite and insincere such as %26quot;God picks the most beautiful flowers for his garden!%26quot;
I would say that sometimes saying little actually says alot....
%26quot;My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.%26quot;
%26quot;Aunt Jane touched all of our lives, she will be missed.%26quot;
Below is a site that offers some suggestions.
Best wishes to you and yours...
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Appropriate expression of Sympathy?
A friend of mine passed away Friday night. She had three grown daughters, one of which, is also a friend (not a close friend, but a friend nevertheless) At any rate, both she and her daughter belonged to the Baha%26#039;i Faith. I know NOTHING about this religion....I don%26#039;t know what they believe, what their practices are, etc. I don%26#039;t know if they believe in the same God that I do. I want to send a Sympathy card, but want to send one that is appropriate and will not offend her daughter (religion-wise) Also, is it inappropriate to send flowers? Can anyone help me with this? If you know anything about this faith I would be very interested to learn a few things about it. Thanks
Appropriate expression of Sympathy?
A few years back, when I was a student, I covered a meeting of the University Bahai group for the newspaper. They proved to be the MOST lovely, sensitive, warm group of people. I%26#039;m sure that any genuine expression of sympathy and support will be most welcomed by them.
As long as you are being sincere, and it really sounds as though you are, then that%26#039;s all that matters - the exact wording etc won%26#039;t matter.
Reply:Send flowers, send a card expressing your care and love... no one could possibly be offended by that... they are alot like Universalists...
Reply:Baha%26#039;i is a collaberation of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. They believe in all the prophets of like every religion, and definitely believe in the same God you do.
Reply:I know nothing of baha%26#039;i... but I do know that being available for a hug, and to honestly listen without judgment is the greatest gift you can give to someone who is grieving.
edit - you can find some info at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bah%C3%A1%26#039;%...
they seem reasonable folk to deal with.
Reply:I would just write a short note and let her know that you are thinking of her and are there if she wants to talk.
Reply:I dont think that the bahai would object to anything you felt you needed to send. My understanding is that they are tolerant to any religion.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know about it, but a generic type of card, saying I wish to express my sympathy should be good for any faith. No matter what the belief, people grieve over the loss of loved ones.
Reply:Precious one - please allow me to first express my sympathy to YOUR loss. I am so deeply sorry to learn you have lost a friend.
I cannot help you with their faith system, as I am Christian... but I know that all dear peoples appreciate the heartfelt words of a friend who shares in their deep grief.
I pray that you - as they - are able to find comfort in this difficult time, dear one.
Peace.
Reply:A simple: %26quot;May God be of comfort to you in this time of grief%26quot;, would be welcome I%26#039;m sure. I know of no prohibition in Bahai againse flowers, so by all means send them. The Bahai tend to be very tolerant and easy going, so even if there is some stricture in Bahai against flowers, they will still appreciate the gesture coming from you.
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Appropriate expression of Sympathy?
A few years back, when I was a student, I covered a meeting of the University Bahai group for the newspaper. They proved to be the MOST lovely, sensitive, warm group of people. I%26#039;m sure that any genuine expression of sympathy and support will be most welcomed by them.
As long as you are being sincere, and it really sounds as though you are, then that%26#039;s all that matters - the exact wording etc won%26#039;t matter.
Reply:Send flowers, send a card expressing your care and love... no one could possibly be offended by that... they are alot like Universalists...
Reply:Baha%26#039;i is a collaberation of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. They believe in all the prophets of like every religion, and definitely believe in the same God you do.
Reply:I know nothing of baha%26#039;i... but I do know that being available for a hug, and to honestly listen without judgment is the greatest gift you can give to someone who is grieving.
edit - you can find some info at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bah%C3%A1%26#039;%...
they seem reasonable folk to deal with.
Reply:I would just write a short note and let her know that you are thinking of her and are there if she wants to talk.
Reply:I dont think that the bahai would object to anything you felt you needed to send. My understanding is that they are tolerant to any religion.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know about it, but a generic type of card, saying I wish to express my sympathy should be good for any faith. No matter what the belief, people grieve over the loss of loved ones.
Reply:Precious one - please allow me to first express my sympathy to YOUR loss. I am so deeply sorry to learn you have lost a friend.
I cannot help you with their faith system, as I am Christian... but I know that all dear peoples appreciate the heartfelt words of a friend who shares in their deep grief.
I pray that you - as they - are able to find comfort in this difficult time, dear one.
Peace.
Reply:A simple: %26quot;May God be of comfort to you in this time of grief%26quot;, would be welcome I%26#039;m sure. I know of no prohibition in Bahai againse flowers, so by all means send them. The Bahai tend to be very tolerant and easy going, so even if there is some stricture in Bahai against flowers, they will still appreciate the gesture coming from you.
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Ok to send flowers to the house the day after a funeral? What else could I do?
I just found out a former boss%26#039;s father has died, and she was very close to him (he lived with her). She is my former boss, but also I have known her for a long time, and we used to visit socially. We haven%26#039;t been social for about 5 years, not for any bad reason, just lost touch.
The funeral is tomorrow, I%26#039;m very sick and can%26#039;t make it. I was going to have flowers sent to the house tomorrow, but same-day delivery bouquets (since it%26#039;s after the cutoff time) are pretty scrawny and way out of my price range with the rush same-day delivery fee.
I was thinking of having flowers sent to the house on the following day or some other time this week. Is this tacky/unacceptable?
My other idea was to mail a sympathy card with a $50 gift certificate for a restaurant, so she can treat her family to take out or something to make meals easier, etc.
Please don%26#039;t bash me, I%26#039;m just trying to figure out what the right thing to do is, with what I%26#039;ve got. Any other ideas would be great
Ok to send flowers to the house the day after a funeral? What else could I do?
Ill be flat honest here from my experience. A death in the family is a hard time. Someone else mentioned that flowers are just another item that has to be dealt with. And that is soooo true. I mean really, no one is going to be planting flowers or worry about watering them right after a death. They are going to die and its just something else that has to be done.
Food is the first thought for most people. Our family has always been over run by food during times like that - and its great!!! But please, use disposable dishes. Again, one more thing to deal with. It is sooo nerve racking to have to sit and contact all these people to get their dishes back. Like I really want to deal with that next week when I have just buried my family?
Some will say cash is tacky. But likely, cash is probably needed at times like that. No one is cooking, you have to make arrangments, probably go get a dress to wear, run around taking care of this and that. Fast food and take out is probably all that will be eaten for a couple weeks. I have suddennly just spent a great deal of money that I wasnt counting on, I have no idea how I am going to make the payments on this..... Yeah, cash is needed. These are the times when youshould give what is needed not worry about whats polite.
Showing up at the door ready to clean (with permission), or offering your time to help take care of small children while the adults are taking care of things.
A nice card would really be al thats necessary since you are not activly in this persons life. But if you are going to spend money, go with a visa gift card or prepaid credit card that can be used anywhere. That will be appreciated and get used, while the flowers will likely get neglegted, die, and get thrown out.
Reply:Flowers are over done and will just be another item to deal with. Cash, who needs that from a funeral? A simple card stating how you feel is all that is needed. Since you had social ties as well, once well. It might be a good time to just pay a visit. A 1 hour person to person conversation holds much more weight than any cash or flowers could. Even a card with a small notes holds more.
Reply:flower are sweet i did the same for a friend when her cuz passed it dose help and also u can instead of the gift card to a restaurant u could make them dinner and take it over cuz they may not want to go out but than agian they might need to get out and get there minds off of things but u have a good idea it is sweet and shows u care
Reply:do not send money.. now is not the time. sending flowers is the most perfectly acceptable thing to do... the best.. and they will appreciate it.
Reply:A dish garden or a fruit basket would be appropriate as well....
Reply:A donation to a charity is a far better idea than cut flowers sent to the house.
Reply:no money, card and flowers later if you can will be wonderful!
Reply:Sympathy cards and flowers are acceptable at this time. Right now the bereaved needs more emotional help than financial help. No amount of money can replace the loss and the pain of a loved one.
You can consider writing this in your sympathy card %26quot;I recently heard about the loss of your loved one. I am very sorry for your loss. There are not enough words to say to take the pain away but just to let you know if you need anything, let me know and I will be there at your aide. You are in our thoughts and prayers.%26quot;
I am in similar situation. I lost my father in law last week and my best friend wrote a very brief message and in the end she writes %26quot;hope you are doing well.%26quot;, which is sorta offensive to me.because we are not doing well. Maybe it would be fine if she wrote more. We bereaved folks can be extra sensitive to words.
Reply:I think at first the response is overwhelming for the family, in the past i was told by a family member that it is the time after, a few weeks down the road when the phone calls slowly stop, and the cards stop coming in, and the people don%26#039;t drop by as often, is when people start to really feel the loss. I can recommend that probably the nicest thing you could do down the road is cook a nice meal and take it over to her so she has a prepared meal for a day or two would probably help immensely and it would show that you cared and were thinking of her.
White Teeth
The funeral is tomorrow, I%26#039;m very sick and can%26#039;t make it. I was going to have flowers sent to the house tomorrow, but same-day delivery bouquets (since it%26#039;s after the cutoff time) are pretty scrawny and way out of my price range with the rush same-day delivery fee.
I was thinking of having flowers sent to the house on the following day or some other time this week. Is this tacky/unacceptable?
My other idea was to mail a sympathy card with a $50 gift certificate for a restaurant, so she can treat her family to take out or something to make meals easier, etc.
Please don%26#039;t bash me, I%26#039;m just trying to figure out what the right thing to do is, with what I%26#039;ve got. Any other ideas would be great
Ok to send flowers to the house the day after a funeral? What else could I do?
Ill be flat honest here from my experience. A death in the family is a hard time. Someone else mentioned that flowers are just another item that has to be dealt with. And that is soooo true. I mean really, no one is going to be planting flowers or worry about watering them right after a death. They are going to die and its just something else that has to be done.
Food is the first thought for most people. Our family has always been over run by food during times like that - and its great!!! But please, use disposable dishes. Again, one more thing to deal with. It is sooo nerve racking to have to sit and contact all these people to get their dishes back. Like I really want to deal with that next week when I have just buried my family?
Some will say cash is tacky. But likely, cash is probably needed at times like that. No one is cooking, you have to make arrangments, probably go get a dress to wear, run around taking care of this and that. Fast food and take out is probably all that will be eaten for a couple weeks. I have suddennly just spent a great deal of money that I wasnt counting on, I have no idea how I am going to make the payments on this..... Yeah, cash is needed. These are the times when youshould give what is needed not worry about whats polite.
Showing up at the door ready to clean (with permission), or offering your time to help take care of small children while the adults are taking care of things.
A nice card would really be al thats necessary since you are not activly in this persons life. But if you are going to spend money, go with a visa gift card or prepaid credit card that can be used anywhere. That will be appreciated and get used, while the flowers will likely get neglegted, die, and get thrown out.
Reply:Flowers are over done and will just be another item to deal with. Cash, who needs that from a funeral? A simple card stating how you feel is all that is needed. Since you had social ties as well, once well. It might be a good time to just pay a visit. A 1 hour person to person conversation holds much more weight than any cash or flowers could. Even a card with a small notes holds more.
Reply:flower are sweet i did the same for a friend when her cuz passed it dose help and also u can instead of the gift card to a restaurant u could make them dinner and take it over cuz they may not want to go out but than agian they might need to get out and get there minds off of things but u have a good idea it is sweet and shows u care
Reply:do not send money.. now is not the time. sending flowers is the most perfectly acceptable thing to do... the best.. and they will appreciate it.
Reply:A dish garden or a fruit basket would be appropriate as well....
Reply:A donation to a charity is a far better idea than cut flowers sent to the house.
Reply:no money, card and flowers later if you can will be wonderful!
Reply:Sympathy cards and flowers are acceptable at this time. Right now the bereaved needs more emotional help than financial help. No amount of money can replace the loss and the pain of a loved one.
You can consider writing this in your sympathy card %26quot;I recently heard about the loss of your loved one. I am very sorry for your loss. There are not enough words to say to take the pain away but just to let you know if you need anything, let me know and I will be there at your aide. You are in our thoughts and prayers.%26quot;
I am in similar situation. I lost my father in law last week and my best friend wrote a very brief message and in the end she writes %26quot;hope you are doing well.%26quot;, which is sorta offensive to me.because we are not doing well. Maybe it would be fine if she wrote more. We bereaved folks can be extra sensitive to words.
Reply:I think at first the response is overwhelming for the family, in the past i was told by a family member that it is the time after, a few weeks down the road when the phone calls slowly stop, and the cards stop coming in, and the people don%26#039;t drop by as often, is when people start to really feel the loss. I can recommend that probably the nicest thing you could do down the road is cook a nice meal and take it over to her so she has a prepared meal for a day or two would probably help immensely and it would show that you cared and were thinking of her.
White Teeth
What kind of sympathy arrangement to send a male?
My boyfriends grandmother passed this morning. She practically raised him after his own mother died so he is taking this pretty hard. I was wanting to send some flowers to the funeral home. I know he would appreciate having an arrangement sent to him. What sort sympathy arrangement would be appropriate for a male?
I don%26#039;t want to visit a florist. I was hoping to order them online. Any online florist suggestions as well?
What kind of sympathy arrangement to send a male?
You are sweet for wanting to support him. I like proflowers.com - they are pretty inexpensive. You can send them to his house or to the funeral home - personally I think to his house is better, but check the obituary in the newspaper to see if the family has any special instructions.
I don%26#039;t think there is any arrangment or flower that a man would not appreciate. There%26#039;s no such thing as %26#039;male%26#039; arrangements or %26#039;female%26#039; arrangements. Men love all kinds of flowers too!! White roses and white lilies are popular sympathy flowers but anything is great - it%26#039;s the thought that counts.
I have one more suggestion: Instead of (or in addition to) sending them now, wait two or three weeks and send the flowers then, with an encouraging note. Bereaved families are flooded with sympathy for the first week or two, then everything suddenly drops off to nothing, the flowers die, the cards stop coming, and the shock has worn off - this is when people need help and sympathy the most, in my opinion.
Reply:I%26#039;m sure that anything at all will be appreciated, but for men, I tend to order a plant. Almost every online florist has a selection of plants in their %26quot;Sympathy%26quot; section. They aren%26#039;t quite so %26quot;girly%26quot; and they make a lovely living tribute to a beloved relative.
If possible, find a florist that is local to the funeral and order from there. Most of them have websites and allow you to order online nowadays. My family and I have had very good luck with this method, especially when we are sending flowers to an out-of-state funeral.
Reply:Try sending him an arrangement that you made yourself, with cheese and crackers and canned meats. Throw in a loaf of bread and wrap it in a blue bow. They probably need the food, anyways, having friends and family over that need food. Food is expensive. Food donations like that, can really save a family during such a tough time, and anyways men love food.
You can also make him a nice casserole or something, as well, but its hard to send those or order them online. There are catering services, so if you want you can order him a couple of meals through one.
http://www.buybuffalomeat.com/buffalo_me...
http://www.localharvest.org/store/item.j...
http://www.localharvest.org/store/cheese...
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=%22cate...
Reply:I truly sorry to hear. She is now in a better place. What about a mixed range of flowers, or carnations, roses, maybe a peace lilly ect sorry im unsure as to what country/state your in so maybe try go through www.google.com.au %26amp; just type in florists. All the best hope everything works out %26amp; I%26#039;m truly sorry to hear.
Reply:A simple, tasteful floral arrangement. When my dad died we were sent several plants. It gave me the chills everytime I saw them because they reminded me of his death. The good thing about flowers is you don%26#039;t feel guilty about throwing them away when they are beyond their prime.
Reply:Go simple...maybe a peace lilly or something like that. Since male if you get an entricate boquette, it may be lost if he does not care about flowers. A simple arrangement says you care but you are not spending alot of money on something that is not going to get full appreciation.
Reply:It%26#039;s OK to send either mums or lilies.
Go see him at the funeral home too if at all possible.
It%26#039;s times like this that friends are needed the most.
Reply:a nice mixed planter would be very nice. you can get one for anywhere from $25 up, it could be sent to the funberal home with a note on the back of the card that that particular item be reserved for him, you could also get some cut flowers placed in it.
another suggestion i saw was a blooming plant that could be planted outside, such as a mum plant, but a planter has several different varities of plants, and eventually could be seperated into however many different plants there are, and placed in different rooms of the house.
Reply:Try flowers.com. Do a search for sympathy or something to that extent. Call them if you don%26#039;t see anything good online that might fit. Usually talking to someone and telling them exactly what you want is a lot better.
I think it%26#039;s 1800flowers
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I don%26#039;t want to visit a florist. I was hoping to order them online. Any online florist suggestions as well?
What kind of sympathy arrangement to send a male?
You are sweet for wanting to support him. I like proflowers.com - they are pretty inexpensive. You can send them to his house or to the funeral home - personally I think to his house is better, but check the obituary in the newspaper to see if the family has any special instructions.
I don%26#039;t think there is any arrangment or flower that a man would not appreciate. There%26#039;s no such thing as %26#039;male%26#039; arrangements or %26#039;female%26#039; arrangements. Men love all kinds of flowers too!! White roses and white lilies are popular sympathy flowers but anything is great - it%26#039;s the thought that counts.
I have one more suggestion: Instead of (or in addition to) sending them now, wait two or three weeks and send the flowers then, with an encouraging note. Bereaved families are flooded with sympathy for the first week or two, then everything suddenly drops off to nothing, the flowers die, the cards stop coming, and the shock has worn off - this is when people need help and sympathy the most, in my opinion.
Reply:I%26#039;m sure that anything at all will be appreciated, but for men, I tend to order a plant. Almost every online florist has a selection of plants in their %26quot;Sympathy%26quot; section. They aren%26#039;t quite so %26quot;girly%26quot; and they make a lovely living tribute to a beloved relative.
If possible, find a florist that is local to the funeral and order from there. Most of them have websites and allow you to order online nowadays. My family and I have had very good luck with this method, especially when we are sending flowers to an out-of-state funeral.
Reply:Try sending him an arrangement that you made yourself, with cheese and crackers and canned meats. Throw in a loaf of bread and wrap it in a blue bow. They probably need the food, anyways, having friends and family over that need food. Food is expensive. Food donations like that, can really save a family during such a tough time, and anyways men love food.
You can also make him a nice casserole or something, as well, but its hard to send those or order them online. There are catering services, so if you want you can order him a couple of meals through one.
http://www.buybuffalomeat.com/buffalo_me...
http://www.localharvest.org/store/item.j...
http://www.localharvest.org/store/cheese...
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=%22cate...
Reply:I truly sorry to hear. She is now in a better place. What about a mixed range of flowers, or carnations, roses, maybe a peace lilly ect sorry im unsure as to what country/state your in so maybe try go through www.google.com.au %26amp; just type in florists. All the best hope everything works out %26amp; I%26#039;m truly sorry to hear.
Reply:A simple, tasteful floral arrangement. When my dad died we were sent several plants. It gave me the chills everytime I saw them because they reminded me of his death. The good thing about flowers is you don%26#039;t feel guilty about throwing them away when they are beyond their prime.
Reply:Go simple...maybe a peace lilly or something like that. Since male if you get an entricate boquette, it may be lost if he does not care about flowers. A simple arrangement says you care but you are not spending alot of money on something that is not going to get full appreciation.
Reply:It%26#039;s OK to send either mums or lilies.
Go see him at the funeral home too if at all possible.
It%26#039;s times like this that friends are needed the most.
Reply:a nice mixed planter would be very nice. you can get one for anywhere from $25 up, it could be sent to the funberal home with a note on the back of the card that that particular item be reserved for him, you could also get some cut flowers placed in it.
another suggestion i saw was a blooming plant that could be planted outside, such as a mum plant, but a planter has several different varities of plants, and eventually could be seperated into however many different plants there are, and placed in different rooms of the house.
Reply:Try flowers.com. Do a search for sympathy or something to that extent. Call them if you don%26#039;t see anything good online that might fit. Usually talking to someone and telling them exactly what you want is a lot better.
I think it%26#039;s 1800flowers
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Do You Feel Any Sympathy for Omaha Mall Shooter? Some people do and I dont understand why.?
The mall shooter was described in newspaper reports today as quiet and depressed. I think the newspaper reporters wanted a music track of violins playing hearts and flowers.
Quiet and depressed is a vast understatement. The mall shooter was angry, malevolent, psychotic, and a common criminal with a gun who was too much of a coward to go to prison for what he had done. That%26#039;s why he shot himself.
I don%26#039;t have sympathy for him, and I don%26#039;t think most people do either. I think most people are disgusted to read the hearts and flowers shrinkage of the kid.
He fits an all-too-familiar pattern: Kids playing with real guns as if they are playing video games. And it doesn%26#039;t quite work to say they were desensitized to violence, because after all he was sensitized enough to know how horrific it was and to make sure he wasn%26#039;t around to answer for it.
Do You Feel Any Sympathy for Omaha Mall Shooter? Some people do and I dont understand why.?
I%26#039;m not saying i do or don%26#039;t, but it%26#039;s much easier to hate someone if you make them out to be a vicious monster. The fact is, these people are generally the way they are because we as a society set up the conditions to make them the way they are.
So...while I may or may not feel sympathy for a person like this, I%26#039;d still recognize that I and the rest of society have failed these people, and they need to be dealt with accordingly.
Reply:I sympathize with his life circumstances, but I think he should burn in hell for taking it out on innocent people.
Reply:Killing yourself is evolution in action killing others without just cause is WRONG ! The police and political hacks however won%26#039;t let us defend ourselves { perhaps the are afraid we might wellll never mind } if you had shot the bastard while he was shooting those people and saved some lives the police would arrest you and try you for murder something is definitely wrong with this picture!
Reply:I never heard anyone say they were sympathetic to him. Actually if you hear someone saying they can understand why he did that, it%26#039;s a warning sign that the person who said it maybe be in a major depression or have some other mental illness and you should tell someone who can get them help because they are thinking along the same lines as the killer. That%26#039;s why it is so common to have %26#039;copy cat killers%26#039; after incidences like this!
Reply:You should be in office.... Yeah, what are %26quot;warning signs%26quot; anyways? Arent most teens depressed? I was, but I didnt kill anyone... And, how exactly do you act on %26quot;warning signs%26quot; Who is the authority on this? Police? yeah right! School officials? Yeah right..... So, who Do we tell? It all seems to fit together after the fact, society wants to always shift blame for some reason.
Reply:Ha. Good question!
No I don%26#039;t.
He disregarded the lives of innocent people so, just like that deranged Cho clown in Virginia,
GOOD RIDDANCE to bad rubbish.
And he didn%26#039;t accept help...
I do feel sorry for his family, though.
Reply:I feel sorry for those he shot and their families.
Reply:Yes, but I feel anger at his parents also. I really feel extra sorry for the innocent mall shoppers. Its just a real bad situation.
Reply:I do feel that this kid had tough breaks. I don%26#039;t care who you are but not being wanted by your own family tends to mess you up. I%26#039;m not justifying what he did because what he did was obviously wrong but I do feel for him. There were warning signs and maybe if someone had picked up on them then we wouldn%26#039;t be talking about this right now and 8 innocent people would still be alive today.
Reply:i agree with Snardlers
Reply:No, he only did it for attention. The dumbest thing was how he thought that was going out in style..what?? that doesn%26#039;t even make sense. Everytime I see his stupid little emo face I wanna punch it. Im sorry for his parents.
I don%26#039;t blame his parents, the media, video games, tv or his peers, I blame the idiot with the gun, and thats it.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know if I feel sympathy for him, but he was definitely a person who had serious emotional problems. He was not a normal kid who happened to play too many video games. He had received a significant amount of psychiatric treatment, which apparently wasn%26#039;t enough.
Reply:I am a Christian and well in my opinion this is where God steps in, these fools think they can escape punishment but they cannot escape God, and I promise you he will have to answer to God on why he murdered those people.
Reply:I have nothing more that can be said that you didnt already say. I feel the exact same way. I dont care how old he was, and if he just broke up with his girlfriend or not, its just not right. i feel no sympathy for him what so ever. but i do wonder,, what made him write that letter to his mother before he killed all them people and himself saying,,%26quot; now i%26#039;ll be famous%26quot; ? was his mother or someone on his case about something? either way, he shouldn%26#039;t have shotten anyone, but if he had to, it should have been himself 1st.
Reply:It%26#039;s too bad, but he is like soooo many other teenagers these days, and they don%26#039;t go to malls and kill people...
I feel sorry for all kids that have pitiful lives, it%26#039;s suppose to be stress free and full of love...it%26#039;s how you deal with your problems that make you or break you as an individual....
Reply:I would agree with your last paragraph... I did not know the individual, but his act was an act of a coward. Like u said, he was a criminal, who didn%26#039;t want to face the punishment for his crimes. And instead of just ending it for himself, he took innocent people with him. Why would anyone feel sympathy for such a sad excuse of a human being?
Reply:No, I don%26#039;t
He was weak, and he killed people because he was a failure at life. I have no sympathy for him
Reply:nope no sympathy here...i mean come on..it%26#039;s the holiday season...even the crazy%26#039;s should take a vacation. don%26#039;t you think!
Oh and one more thing...it%26#039;s b/c of crazy stupid selfish ppl like this kid that is going to get out #2 right taken away from us. This just adds fuel to the Liberal parties agenda to get the right to bare fire arms banded in this nation! I will not stand for it...b/c what i want to know is where were the parents on this? why aren%26#039;t the parents and their lack of child rearing to blame also...i grew up with guns in the house...never once did i think about touching or playing with them. I%26#039;ve gone through some major hardships in my 28 yrs on this earth and never have i ever thought about shooting ppl and committing suicide...why? b/c my mother raised me to be a strong person...and if i did feel like suicide she raised me to be compassionate also...so i would never bring other ppl with me. That%26#039;s just cowardice.
Reply:No i feel bad for his family that has to put up with people snarling at them and you REALLY can not help who u r related to! I feel very sorry for the innocent people who lost their lives just by being at work and shopping.. I fell sorry for their family who have to make some kind of sense out of this whole mess. AS for the dumb a*( kid he will pay for what he did one way or another.....
Reply:I have no sympathy for this madman who killed and wounded all these innocent people because he wanted to be famous. May he rot in hell!
Reply:While I don%26#039;t know that I can sympathize with what the shooter did, I can understand the reasoning behind what made him do what he did. According to the report I saw on the %26quot;Today Show%26quot; he:
-was described as a %26quot;lost puppy%26quot; that no one paid attention to
-was kicked out of his parents house for quitting school
-was living with a friend%26#039;s family - even though his parent%26#039;s lived nearby
-had just broken up with his girlfriend
-had just been fired from his job at McDonald%26#039;s
So here you have a lonley, disturbed, obviously depressed, isolated individual who lost the only things that tethered him to society (girlfriend, job, parental guidance/affection, a stable home). Since he most likely felt there was nothing left to lose, and (probably) harbored resentment for a society that didn%26#039;t care about him or what he was going through, he decided to end his own life, and in the process, try to acheive the notoriety that he could never realize in life.
It%26#039;s very easy to understand how someone can be driven to their %26quot;snapping point%26quot;, but that does not excuse their actions, because they wind up taking out people who had NOTHING to do with why their lives are the way they are.
This has been happening more and more in this country, yet no one wants to address the bigger issue here, which is that many people slip between the cracks of society every day due to the self-involved nature of us all, who see someone who is obviously troubled, yet do nothing about it. We seem to have a complacent, apathetic lassez-faire attitude of %26quot;it%26#039;s someone else%26#039;s problem%26quot; rather than taking the reins when we see this in others and trying to get them some help.
Until we become less self-absorbed as a society, incidents like this will continue to happen more frequently.
Reply:It is sick...Where do these Jack holes get AK-47s?????
Reply:What you don%26#039;t understand is that it was people like you, by failing to feel any sympathy for this kid since his traumatic childhood, who helped to create the climate of complete rejection that made him feel he had nothing to lose. Such tragedies can%26#039;t be remedied once they happen. We as members of society should be looking for ways to prevent them. The mentality of after-the-fact condemnation cannot save lives.
Reply:He is a loser and a retard. Killing innocent people during Christmas shopping. Kids these day are on too loose a leash. They need to learn about respect and morals. Feeling sorry for a murderer is twisted, those people need to get their heads checked.
those who gave a thumbs down for my answer. Your probably the reason why we get twisted individuals like this murderer. Get your damn heads checked.
Reply:Nope, he and he alone choose to shoot those people. He is not %26quot;an hero%26quot;.
Reply:No, there%26#039;s always people whining how their life is so hard. While they sit in their suburbian 2 parent home and cut themselves. Meanwhile, 10 year olds are forced to perform guerilla warfare with AK-47s in Sudan and aren%26#039;t whining about sh*t.
Reply:f*ck %26#039;em .. no sympathy for a killer.
Reply:i dont understand how ppl that are depressed think killing ppl before killing themselves is gonna help anything... he was probably depressed because he spent way to much time playing video games instead of socializing like normal ppl.
Reply:sounds like you could use some meds too
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Quiet and depressed is a vast understatement. The mall shooter was angry, malevolent, psychotic, and a common criminal with a gun who was too much of a coward to go to prison for what he had done. That%26#039;s why he shot himself.
I don%26#039;t have sympathy for him, and I don%26#039;t think most people do either. I think most people are disgusted to read the hearts and flowers shrinkage of the kid.
He fits an all-too-familiar pattern: Kids playing with real guns as if they are playing video games. And it doesn%26#039;t quite work to say they were desensitized to violence, because after all he was sensitized enough to know how horrific it was and to make sure he wasn%26#039;t around to answer for it.
Do You Feel Any Sympathy for Omaha Mall Shooter? Some people do and I dont understand why.?
I%26#039;m not saying i do or don%26#039;t, but it%26#039;s much easier to hate someone if you make them out to be a vicious monster. The fact is, these people are generally the way they are because we as a society set up the conditions to make them the way they are.
So...while I may or may not feel sympathy for a person like this, I%26#039;d still recognize that I and the rest of society have failed these people, and they need to be dealt with accordingly.
Reply:I sympathize with his life circumstances, but I think he should burn in hell for taking it out on innocent people.
Reply:Killing yourself is evolution in action killing others without just cause is WRONG ! The police and political hacks however won%26#039;t let us defend ourselves { perhaps the are afraid we might wellll never mind } if you had shot the bastard while he was shooting those people and saved some lives the police would arrest you and try you for murder something is definitely wrong with this picture!
Reply:I never heard anyone say they were sympathetic to him. Actually if you hear someone saying they can understand why he did that, it%26#039;s a warning sign that the person who said it maybe be in a major depression or have some other mental illness and you should tell someone who can get them help because they are thinking along the same lines as the killer. That%26#039;s why it is so common to have %26#039;copy cat killers%26#039; after incidences like this!
Reply:You should be in office.... Yeah, what are %26quot;warning signs%26quot; anyways? Arent most teens depressed? I was, but I didnt kill anyone... And, how exactly do you act on %26quot;warning signs%26quot; Who is the authority on this? Police? yeah right! School officials? Yeah right..... So, who Do we tell? It all seems to fit together after the fact, society wants to always shift blame for some reason.
Reply:Ha. Good question!
No I don%26#039;t.
He disregarded the lives of innocent people so, just like that deranged Cho clown in Virginia,
GOOD RIDDANCE to bad rubbish.
And he didn%26#039;t accept help...
I do feel sorry for his family, though.
Reply:I feel sorry for those he shot and their families.
Reply:Yes, but I feel anger at his parents also. I really feel extra sorry for the innocent mall shoppers. Its just a real bad situation.
Reply:I do feel that this kid had tough breaks. I don%26#039;t care who you are but not being wanted by your own family tends to mess you up. I%26#039;m not justifying what he did because what he did was obviously wrong but I do feel for him. There were warning signs and maybe if someone had picked up on them then we wouldn%26#039;t be talking about this right now and 8 innocent people would still be alive today.
Reply:i agree with Snardlers
Reply:No, he only did it for attention. The dumbest thing was how he thought that was going out in style..what?? that doesn%26#039;t even make sense. Everytime I see his stupid little emo face I wanna punch it. Im sorry for his parents.
I don%26#039;t blame his parents, the media, video games, tv or his peers, I blame the idiot with the gun, and thats it.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know if I feel sympathy for him, but he was definitely a person who had serious emotional problems. He was not a normal kid who happened to play too many video games. He had received a significant amount of psychiatric treatment, which apparently wasn%26#039;t enough.
Reply:I am a Christian and well in my opinion this is where God steps in, these fools think they can escape punishment but they cannot escape God, and I promise you he will have to answer to God on why he murdered those people.
Reply:I have nothing more that can be said that you didnt already say. I feel the exact same way. I dont care how old he was, and if he just broke up with his girlfriend or not, its just not right. i feel no sympathy for him what so ever. but i do wonder,, what made him write that letter to his mother before he killed all them people and himself saying,,%26quot; now i%26#039;ll be famous%26quot; ? was his mother or someone on his case about something? either way, he shouldn%26#039;t have shotten anyone, but if he had to, it should have been himself 1st.
Reply:It%26#039;s too bad, but he is like soooo many other teenagers these days, and they don%26#039;t go to malls and kill people...
I feel sorry for all kids that have pitiful lives, it%26#039;s suppose to be stress free and full of love...it%26#039;s how you deal with your problems that make you or break you as an individual....
Reply:I would agree with your last paragraph... I did not know the individual, but his act was an act of a coward. Like u said, he was a criminal, who didn%26#039;t want to face the punishment for his crimes. And instead of just ending it for himself, he took innocent people with him. Why would anyone feel sympathy for such a sad excuse of a human being?
Reply:No, I don%26#039;t
He was weak, and he killed people because he was a failure at life. I have no sympathy for him
Reply:nope no sympathy here...i mean come on..it%26#039;s the holiday season...even the crazy%26#039;s should take a vacation. don%26#039;t you think!
Oh and one more thing...it%26#039;s b/c of crazy stupid selfish ppl like this kid that is going to get out #2 right taken away from us. This just adds fuel to the Liberal parties agenda to get the right to bare fire arms banded in this nation! I will not stand for it...b/c what i want to know is where were the parents on this? why aren%26#039;t the parents and their lack of child rearing to blame also...i grew up with guns in the house...never once did i think about touching or playing with them. I%26#039;ve gone through some major hardships in my 28 yrs on this earth and never have i ever thought about shooting ppl and committing suicide...why? b/c my mother raised me to be a strong person...and if i did feel like suicide she raised me to be compassionate also...so i would never bring other ppl with me. That%26#039;s just cowardice.
Reply:No i feel bad for his family that has to put up with people snarling at them and you REALLY can not help who u r related to! I feel very sorry for the innocent people who lost their lives just by being at work and shopping.. I fell sorry for their family who have to make some kind of sense out of this whole mess. AS for the dumb a*( kid he will pay for what he did one way or another.....
Reply:I have no sympathy for this madman who killed and wounded all these innocent people because he wanted to be famous. May he rot in hell!
Reply:While I don%26#039;t know that I can sympathize with what the shooter did, I can understand the reasoning behind what made him do what he did. According to the report I saw on the %26quot;Today Show%26quot; he:
-was described as a %26quot;lost puppy%26quot; that no one paid attention to
-was kicked out of his parents house for quitting school
-was living with a friend%26#039;s family - even though his parent%26#039;s lived nearby
-had just broken up with his girlfriend
-had just been fired from his job at McDonald%26#039;s
So here you have a lonley, disturbed, obviously depressed, isolated individual who lost the only things that tethered him to society (girlfriend, job, parental guidance/affection, a stable home). Since he most likely felt there was nothing left to lose, and (probably) harbored resentment for a society that didn%26#039;t care about him or what he was going through, he decided to end his own life, and in the process, try to acheive the notoriety that he could never realize in life.
It%26#039;s very easy to understand how someone can be driven to their %26quot;snapping point%26quot;, but that does not excuse their actions, because they wind up taking out people who had NOTHING to do with why their lives are the way they are.
This has been happening more and more in this country, yet no one wants to address the bigger issue here, which is that many people slip between the cracks of society every day due to the self-involved nature of us all, who see someone who is obviously troubled, yet do nothing about it. We seem to have a complacent, apathetic lassez-faire attitude of %26quot;it%26#039;s someone else%26#039;s problem%26quot; rather than taking the reins when we see this in others and trying to get them some help.
Until we become less self-absorbed as a society, incidents like this will continue to happen more frequently.
Reply:It is sick...Where do these Jack holes get AK-47s?????
Reply:What you don%26#039;t understand is that it was people like you, by failing to feel any sympathy for this kid since his traumatic childhood, who helped to create the climate of complete rejection that made him feel he had nothing to lose. Such tragedies can%26#039;t be remedied once they happen. We as members of society should be looking for ways to prevent them. The mentality of after-the-fact condemnation cannot save lives.
Reply:He is a loser and a retard. Killing innocent people during Christmas shopping. Kids these day are on too loose a leash. They need to learn about respect and morals. Feeling sorry for a murderer is twisted, those people need to get their heads checked.
those who gave a thumbs down for my answer. Your probably the reason why we get twisted individuals like this murderer. Get your damn heads checked.
Reply:Nope, he and he alone choose to shoot those people. He is not %26quot;an hero%26quot;.
Reply:No, there%26#039;s always people whining how their life is so hard. While they sit in their suburbian 2 parent home and cut themselves. Meanwhile, 10 year olds are forced to perform guerilla warfare with AK-47s in Sudan and aren%26#039;t whining about sh*t.
Reply:f*ck %26#039;em .. no sympathy for a killer.
Reply:i dont understand how ppl that are depressed think killing ppl before killing themselves is gonna help anything... he was probably depressed because he spent way to much time playing video games instead of socializing like normal ppl.
Reply:sounds like you could use some meds too
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