Flowers Sympathy

Let's Hear Em, Your Favorite Rolling Stones Songs?

2009-04-11T22:07:00.000-07:00

I%26#039;m a big time fan of The Stones. I was watching %26quot;Gimmie Shelter%26quot; earlier and thought I%26#039;d ask this.

In case anybody%26#039;s interested Here%26#039;s My Top 10 Stones Songs

1 Dead Flowers

2 Sympathy For The Devil (The Live Version From Get Your Ya Ya%26#039;s Out)

3 Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knockin

4 She%26#039;s So Cold

5 Midnight Rambler

6 Monkey Man

7 Tumbling Dice

8 You%26#039;d Better Move On

9 Moonlight Mile

10 Loving Cuo

But what are Your favorites? As many or few as You like.

Let%26#039;s Hear Em, Your Favorite Rolling Stones Songs?
The Stones kick major ***.

1. Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knocking

2. Fingerprint File

3. Wild Horses

4. Sister Morphine

5. Gimme Shelter

6. Honky Tonk Women

7. Star Star

8. Street Fighting Man

9. Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash

10. Monkey Man

11. 100 Years Ago

12. Sympathy For The Devil

13. Satisfaction

14. Let%26#039;s Spend The Night Together

15. Undercover Of The Night

16. It%26#039;s Only Rock %26#039;N Roll

17. Let It Bleed

18. Shattered

19. Brown Sugar

20. Moonlight Mile
Reply:Time is on my side.
Reply:paint it, black; start me up; satisfaction; get off my cloud; 19th nervous breakdown; gimme shelter
Reply:Ruby Tuesday

Paint It Black

Street Fighting Man
Reply:Get off my cloud.

nice one!
Reply:Tumblin Dice

Ruby Tuesday

Sympathy for the Devil
Reply:Well, mine%26#039;s not quite as extensive, and probably cliche as far as favorites go but I love:

Mother%26#039;s Little Helper

Ruby Tuesday

Sympathy for The Devil

Time is On My Side

Paint it Black
Reply:Paint It Black and Sympathy for the Devil
Reply:1. Happy

2. Ain%26#039;t Too Proud To Beg

3. Sympathy For The Devil

4. Honky Tonk Women

5. I Am Waiting

6. Carol (Live from Get Your Ya Ya%26#039;s Out)

7. She%26#039;s A Rainbow

8. Prodigal Son

9. Street Fighting Man

10. 19th Nervous Breakdown
Reply:Mother%26#039;s Little Helper

She%26#039;s A Rainbow

Street Fighting Man
Reply:I favour the 60%26#039;s stuff, and these are the 19 I chose for my RS compelation album.

In the order I put them on the CD :~

Gimme Shelter

Satisfaction

The Last Time

Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash

You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want

19th Nervous Breakdown

Under My Thumb

Not Fade Away

Sympathy for the Devil

Mother%26#039;s Little Helper

She%26#039;s A rainbow

Get Off of My Cloud

Wild Horses

Ruby Tuesday

Paint It, Black

Honky Tonk Women

It%26#039;s All Over Now

Angie

It%26#039;s Only Rock N%26#039; Roll

My favourite is probably %26#039;Paint It, Black%26#039;, followed by %26#039;Gimme Shelter%26#039; {love that intro!}
Reply:%26quot;Start Me Up%26quot; is my favorite. It%26#039;s always been, since it%26#039;s the first Stones song I%26#039;ve ever heard.

Top 5:

1. %26quot;Start Me Up%26quot;

2. %26quot;Satisfaction%26quot;

3. %26quot;Miss You%26quot;

4. %26quot;Under My Thumb%26quot;

5. %26quot;Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash%26quot;

Okay...I%26#039;m sorta lying about the top five songs. But I can%26#039;t decide, so I just picked random songs for the most part.
Reply:Paint it Black (of course), love that song, but not really a fan of The Rolling Stones.
Reply:Nineteeth Nervous Breakdown
Reply:all time favorite is paint it, black

no competition.
Reply:Mine is also Dead Flowers but Paint it Black is a close second. %26quot;You got to move%26quot; is third.
Reply:%26quot;You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want%26quot; is probably my all time fav. I also also love %26quot;Gimme Shelter%26quot; %26quot;Shattered,%26quot; %26quot;Sympathy for the Devil,%26quot; %26quot;Angie,%26quot; and a few more whose names I can%26#039;t think of at this moment...
Reply:Under My Thumb and Paint it Black
Reply:Start Me Up,Gimme Shelter,Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knockin%26#039;,Paint It, Black, and You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want. (not in order)
Reply:I%26#039;ve only recently been getting into the Stones, so forgive me if my list is typical:

Sympathy For the Devil

Ruby Tuesday

Memory Motel

Drift Away

Wild Horses

Moonlight Mile

Paint It Black

Hang Fire

Let It Bleed

It%26#039;s Only Rock and Roll
Reply:Paint It Black

i%26#039;ve loved that song forvever, and though plenty of other songs by the Stones are great, none can compare.
Reply:In No particular Order:

Tumbling Dice

2000 Man

Start Me Up

Sympathy for the Devil

Street Fighting Man

Wild Horses

You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want

She%26#039;s So Cold

Gimme Shelter is pretty much awesome.
Reply:midnight rambler

mothers little helper

hang fire

shattered

gimme shelter

happy

miss you

street fighting man

the last time

under my thumb

flower

My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?

2009-04-11T22:06:00.003-07:00

since they%26#039;re samoan I see that they do different things then the usual Flowers and sympathy cards....

My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?
My friend is a Samoan married to a Jamaican. Their grandson died several years ago (he was an infant). I made dinner and put it in covered, foil pans they could heatup and I took it to them. They really appreciated it. My friend is a very devout Christian. I am not sure if most Samoans are as devout since I don%26#039;t know any others aside from my friend.
Reply:Just bring flowers and/or a card. You%26#039;re not Samoan. Any expression of sympathy will be appreciated.
Reply:When my love ones died I always brought a cake and visited with the family.
Reply:I know next to nothing about the Samoan culture, so I can%26#039;t say exactly what would be appropriate. But I think since they live here, they might have a bit of American culture infused in them as well. There are things that I think are universally acceptable, and not offensive.. Flowers might be a bit akward, but food might be nice. Not casseroles and stuff, but maybe some type of dessert? Like a plain and simple one.. a bundt cake or some cookies even.. You could ask your best friend, if she seems strong enough to handle questions related to her dad%26#039;s death.. You could just tell her that you%26#039;d like to bring something to show her family that you care, but wouldn%26#039;t want to bring something inappropriate. If you know any of her relatives, like a cousin or aunt or even an older sister, you could also ask one of them the same question. I%26#039;m sure they will appreciate it very much, and love the fact that you cared so much.

genealogy mormon

Cultural Question?

2009-04-11T22:06:00.002-07:00

my neighbour has died suddenly - ( an Indian man). Not sure if it is appropriate to send flowers %26amp; or sympathy card. Not sure of his religion. He has left a wife %26amp; young children. Any advice on how I should pay my respects?

Cultural Question?
Hi David;

I have to always remind myself in these situations that some realities supercede ethnic, religous and social constructs...such as loss and suffering. The nature of your sensitivity indicates that you are a thoughtful being.

I suspect that the most compassionate expression would be to walk next door and ask your neighbors how they are. Ask if they need anything that you can help them with at this time. Ask how neighbors and community members unfamiliar with their customs might honor their husband and father.

I have found it kinder and more genuine to avoid all of the %26#039;safe%26#039; rituals that we culturally rely on (flowers and cards).

If you can determine through your vist that your neighbor is Hindu I have included Emily Post%26#039;s bereavement advice.

Hindu funerals usually take place within 24 hours of death. Friends may call or visit family members of the deceased to offer their condolences upon hearing of the death and may bring flowers to them at that time. The flowers are placed at the feet of the deceased. The body usually remains at home until it is taken to the place where it will be cremated. The funeral ceremony is conducted at the place of the cremation. The coffin is generally open, and guests are expected to look upon the body and be seated in the room for the service, which is conducted by a priest or a senior member of the family. Guests may attend the cremation, but if they do not want to, they may depart after the service.

After the funeral, friends may visit the bereaved, usually bringing gifts of fruit with them.
Reply:Send a card and do what your heart tells you to do.Follow your heart and you will never go wrong!!
Reply:A card expressing your sympathy, (and maybe a casserole cos i don%26#039;t suppose the wife feels much like cooking.)
Reply:Send a sympathy card. If you are even just a nodding acquaintance then make an effort to speak to the wife and offer her your sympathy.
Reply:yes definitely

a bunch of flowers for the widow, at home rather than a wreath.

and a letter or card as long as it doesn%26#039;t have symbols of a (wrong) religion
Reply:I WOULD JUST SEND A BASIC SYMPATHY CARD.

NOT THE ONE FOR A CERTAIN RELIGION.
Reply:Just call and ask if you can drop by for a few minutes. Bring something to eat and offer to watch the children.
Reply:A sympathy card would be a very nice gesture,and the fact that you have taken the trouble to seek advice on the right thing to do shows that this lady and her family have a very caring neighbour,just be yourself.
Reply:A card...and maybe a home made food...American Indian or Hindu? Try to make it a homemade dish that reflects his ethnic background. Even if u buy it and put it in a dish...it%26#039;s showing respect for his culture. Or, just a card if you don%26#039;t want to do much else.It%26#039;s nice of you to care enough to take the card over and offer your condolences. What a good neighbor!!!!
Reply:And, since the most likely religions are Hindu (no beef and maybe n meat at all) and Muslim (no pork), that casserole had better be a vegetarian one!
Reply:A card would be a wonderful gesture, and I%26#039;d check his obituary, often people request a donation in lieu of flowers.

Going on advice given to me by a friend whose daughter passed away, bringing food isn%26#039;t a good idea. At this time they are probably not even interested in eating, especially someone else%26#039;s cooking, and most of the extended family and close friends will be bringing some sort of food.
Reply:send a card and keep it simple x

acting resources

The Rolling Stones...Your Favorites?

2009-04-11T22:06:00.001-07:00

I was just answering a question about live albums and since the Stones..Get Your Ya Ya%26#039;s Out is My all time fave I thought let%26#039;s find out what people%26#039;s fave Stones songs are

Here%26#039;s My Top 10 to get the ball rolling

1 Dead Flowers

2 Sympathy For The Devil (The live version from Ya Ya%26#039;s)

3 She%26#039;s So Cold

4 Cant%26#039; You Hear Me Knocking

5 You Better Move On

6 Monkey Man

7 Salt Of the Earth

8 Tumbling Dice

8 Loving Cup

9 Sister Morphine

10 Stray Cat Blues

Your turn...as many or as few songs as You like. Fave albums whatever...have fun

I coulda done My top Stones 100 but...ain%26#039;t got that much room..lol

The Rolling Stones...Your Favorites?
Hm...Top ten for me...

No particular order as always.

1. Start Me Up

2. Time Waits For No One

3. Can%26#039;t You Hear Me Knocking

4. (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction

5. Under My Thumb

6. Brown Sugar

7. Miss You

8. Lies

9. Sympathy For the Devil

10. Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash

Keith Richards is one of my favorite riff creators. Maybe second or third on the list. Tony Iommi is first.

Favorite album...dunno. Maybe Some Girls.
Reply:1. Paint it Black

2. Jumping Jack Flash

3. Sympathy for the Devil

4. Get a Girl

5. Start Me Up

Gerry :)
Reply:I%26#039;m not a big fan but i do like some of their songs. Mostly the hits

Paint It Black

Brown Sugar

The Last Time

(I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction

Jumping Jack Flash

It%26#039;s Only Rock n%26#039; Roll

Start Me Up

Wild Horses

Ruby Tuesday

Gimme Shelter
Reply:She%26#039;s a Rainbow

Symphony for the Devil

Paint It Black
Reply:1. Angie (an incredible song I fell in love with from the first time I heard it)

2. She%26#039;s A Rainbow

3. Wild Horses

4. Sympathy For the Devil

5. (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction

6. Paint it black
Reply:1. Paint It, Black

2. Time is On My Side

3. Mother%26#039;s Little Helper

4. Wild Horses

5. Before They Make Me Run

6. Torn and Frayed

7. Waiting On A Friend

8. Angie

9. Hand of Fate

10. Time Waits For No One
Reply:a little T %26amp; A
Reply:1. Paint it Black

2. Sympathy for the Devil

3. Gimme Shelter

4. Angie

5. Under My Thumb
Reply:Street Fighting Man

She%26#039;s a Rainbow

Mother%26#039;s Little Helper

Those are probably my top 3 although I like a whole lot more.

Edit! Good afternoon Darth! Hope you%26#039;ve had a good holiday season!
Reply:Miss you

Angie

Sympathy....

gee I ♥ %26#039;em all!!!
Reply:In no particular order :~

Paint It, Black

Gimme Shelter

19th Nervous Breakdown

Angie

You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want

Play With Fire

Get Off of My Cloud

Under My Thumb

The Last Time

It%26#039;s Only Rock n%26#039; Roll
Reply:1. Moonlight Mile

2. Dead Flowers

3. As Tears Go By

4. Sweet Virginia

5. Highwire

6. Loving Cup

7. 100 Years Ago

8. 19th Nervous Breakdown

9. You Got The Silver

10. Child Of The Moon

11. Heart Of Stone

12. Sympathy For The Devil

13. Sway

14. She%26#039;s A Rainbow

15. Love In Vain

16. Torn And Frayed

17. Shine A Light

18. 2000 Man

19. The Spider and the Fly

20. I Got The Blues

...and so many more. I%26#039;ve always loved the Stones.
Reply:Gimme Shelter

Ruby Tuesday

Satisfaction

Street Fighting Man

Those are my personal favorites, i love dozens more though.
Reply:Best rock and roll band ever, here%26#039;s my top 10:

You Got The Silver

Play With Fire

Memory Motel

Happy

Tumbling Dice

Gimme Shelter

Some Girls

Saint Of Me

You Can%26#039;t Always Get What You Want

She%26#039;s A Rainbow
Reply:u put 8 twice
Reply:1. paint it black

2. (i can%26#039;t get no) satisfaction

3. start me up

4. gimme shelter

5. honky tonk women

6. jumpin%26#039; jack flash

7. ruby tuesday

8. you can%26#039;t always get what you want

9. get off of my cloud

10. sympathy for the devil
Reply:Time Is on My Side, (I Can%26#039;t Get No) Satisfaction, Get off of My Cloud, As Tears Go By, 19th Nervous Breakdown, Paint It, Black, Mother%26#039;s Little Helper, Let%26#039;s Spend the Night Together, Ruby Tuesday, Jumpin%26#039; Jack Flash, Honky Tonk Women

Brown Sugar, Wild Horses, Tumbling Dice, Angie,

It%26#039;s Only Rock %26#039;n Roll (But I Like It), Ain%26#039;t Too Proud to Beg, Hot Stuff

Miss You, Beast of Burden, Shattered, Emotional Rescue, She%26#039;s So Cold,

Start Me Up, Waiting on a Friend, Time Is on My Side (live),Harlem Shuffle, One Hit (to the Body)

Mixed Emotions, Rock and a Hard Place,Sympathy for the Devil (remix)
Reply:My favorite Stones song is the one that ain%26#039;t playing. They leave a bad ....aw never mind. Sorry man, not a Stones fan at all and thats all I got to say about that.

Edit...but you do get a star ;o)
Reply:paint it black.

shattered.
Reply:Sympathy for the devil

Shattered

Time is on my side

beast of burden

mothers little helper

under my thumb

angie

start me up

of all time fave wild horses
Reply:Stray Cat Blues!... Kisses

performing arts

Friend's father passed away in India - what is proper custom in india to express sympathy?

2009-04-11T22:06:00.000-07:00

what is appropriate way to give condolences. I don%26#039;t know if flowers are appropriate - is there something specific in Indian customs that would be more appropriate in this case?

Friend%26#039;s father passed away in India - what is proper custom in india to express sympathy?
I am from Pakistan but know very well Indian customs.

India is a multi-religion country; people living togather.

Just express your views about the importance and role of father and than express your sorrow and condolance for an irrepairable loss your friend has met.
Reply:i dont think flowers are accepted but mayb u can make acall and give away your condolences.

fitness

Is it proper to send thank you notes for sympathy cards that you received?

2009-04-11T22:05:00.003-07:00

Or do you only send thank you cards for flowers, food, etc? Please advise. My father passed away and I received several cards and wasn%26#039;t sure of the proper etiquette.

Is it proper to send thank you notes for sympathy cards that you received?
If you see them in person, thank them. If you have their phone number, call them and if you were extremely touched give them a thank you card. Or, for the next holiday or special occasion if it is near, give them a card and mention that the thank you card was appreciated. Basically keep in touch with those who truly care, it is a blessing.
Reply:You can send out acknowledgement cards. Usually the funeral home will give them to you after a death in a little kit they give. And, yes, you can acknowledge people for their kind words and flowers. It at least lets them know that you received them.
Reply:I%26#039;m not sure what the real etiquette is, but when my dad was recently in a nursing home for an extended period of time, I sent thank you%26#039;s for any gesture of kindness, including cards. I think it%26#039;s always better to play it safe and send too many than too few.
Reply:Absolutely,

to acknowledge the thought is very proper

may God comfort you
Reply:You send thany you notes for gifts, never for cards--regardless of their intention.

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How much money should I send with a sympathy card?

2009-04-11T22:05:00.002-07:00

The deceased is a 6 yr old boy in my neighborhood. He was run over by his school bus. I know his Mom just from the neighborhood. Her loss has touched my heart. I wanted to send money instead of flowers but I don%26#039;t want to send an offensive amount. Is $25 too little?

How much money should I send with a sympathy card?
Honestly, I%26#039;ve never heard of sending money in a sympathy card. I have close friends that have lost loved ones and their main concern is that the deceased persons memory is kept alive. Once spent, money is often forgotten. My idea would be to buy some children%26#039;s books and donate them to the library, inscribing them with %26quot;in memory of.....%26quot; His memory will live on and the books will be read by other children his age.
Reply:I think that is fine to send and you are very sweet to care like that .What a sad thing to happen .

God bless %26#039;ya .
Reply:no
Reply:what ever you can offer. $25 dollars is fine., last year a 4th grad

er was run over by a bus too. any amount will be appreciate

some people don%26#039;t have Life Ins. any amount help. to bury your love one.
Reply:I think it%26#039;s not the price of the card but what the card reads .
Reply:25 is just fine to send .It%26#039;s the thought that counts and you are very thoughtful for even sending anything.
Reply:I think that I would just send flowers, you can never go wrong with that.
Reply:just send flowers. money seems a little mean, or like u were in a hurry. flowers are from the heart and are special. but i think its very sweet that u care so much.
Reply:IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. THE CARD AND MONEY WILL BE FINE!THE WORLD NEEDS MORE CARING PEOPLE IN IT. THANK YOU FOR CARING!GOD BLESS YOU!HAVE A NICE DAY!
Reply:Money may not be appropriate for the loss of a loved one. Some people may see it as charity instead of a gift, and some people are very touchy about accepting charity. If you know for a fact that she%26#039;s really hard up for money and is having trouble paying funeral expenses, then money might be okay, but otherwise I%26#039;d be cautious.

Instead, donate the money to a good cause as a memorial to the boy. Ask around - the family may have a favorite group or church that they would like to support.
Reply:I think a card and a live plant would be better. I still have all the plants I received from when my son died 6 years ago.
Reply:DONT SEND MONEY!!!!!! are you nuts??? what is she going to do with it??? buy a 12 pack and call it a night??? send her flowers!!! there are places she can take them to have them framed and kept for memorials...if it were the other way around and the mom died and left a small child behind you could start a fundraiser to put the kid through college or something...thats what happened to me...my mom died when i was eight and people raised money in a trust fund for my college education...something my mom couldnt give me anymore...DO NOT SEND THE MOM MONEY!!!! an empty card and nothing else would be better than sending her money and a card!
Reply:I would make a donation to a childrens charity in the childs name, or if you live in a close knit neighborhood, perhaps get a collection from all the neighbors and present it to the family to help cover their costs, so they have one less thing to worry about.
Reply:i would send flowers or make a donation in the little boy%26#039;s name in a place that is meaningful to the family
Reply:$50.00 min.

super nanny

Should I send money with a sympathy card? What should I say in the card?

2009-04-11T22:05:00.001-07:00

A family friend in another state just died after a long illness. The family is very poor %26amp; the widow has major health problems of her own. I would like to send money instead of flowers, but I%26#039;m not sure if it is appropriate.

Should I send money with a sympathy card? What should I say in the card?
Do it, and say %26quot;I am so sorry for your loss, unfortunatly I can%26#039;t be there for the service but I am sending something that will hopefully help you out with the expenses.%26quot;

Trust me it will be appreciated, some family and friends sent money to my family when my dad died and often it came in just when my mom was majorly stressing about a bill being due.
Reply:Thank you! Report It

Reply:you do what you feel like from your heart, we have a tradition here in scotland of collecting money for friends or colleges that have be left alone by death, it sounds a nice thing to do and i am sure it will be appreciated by the recipient..

thanks
Reply:I believe in this scenario, I think that it is appropiate to send some money to help with the funeral arrangements%26gt; i think the card should explain you intention, and try not come off an insulting
Reply:Absolutely send money! Tell her how sorry you are for her loss and you don%26#039;t know what else to do but hope that the money can help with some of her needs. Bless you.
Reply:I like the idea of the restraunt gift card. If you really want to send money, do so, but be clear about your intentions so that you are not seen as the snobby benevolent friend who just throws money at people to make themselves feel better.
Reply:Send them a gift card for a great place to dine. You are supposed to send food anyways. This way it lets them choose what they like and they get their food. Plus it is hard to send food from a different state.
Reply:I know my parents send money. (they have it - I don%26#039;t) Helps defray costs.

Sorry to hear about your friend.

Maybe in the card put down your favorite memory of your friend - how much that friend meant to you.
Reply:Yes, send a card by all means. You can include a check with the amount you feel is appropriate. In the card you can write the obligatory statements %26quot;I am sorry for your loss...%26quot; you can also add that you are including this check. Use it however you want.

If she wants to buy a headstone with it, she can. She can use it offset funeral expenses, etc.
Reply:Yes it would be appropriate to send money if you wish. Whatever sentiments you put in the card should reflect your personal feelings. The money should be covered separately so as not to cause offence if guests at the funeral read the cards.

I would say something along the lines.

I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. May God bless and comfort you and your family.

I would then enclose a little note with the payment, presumably a cheque, saying.

I%26#039;m sorry that I couldn%26#039;t be there or send flowers. Please accept this donation to use however you wish instead.
Reply:Yes sending money is appropriate along with sympathy.
Reply:Say Im so sorry and maybe this will help you with expenses...
Reply:Yes it is appropriate to send money. The norm is that if the family does not need the money, they will donate it to the deceased favorite charity. If they need it however, they can (and should) use it. What to say? Express your sympathy and pray a blessing for them.
Reply:It is more helpful to the family then flowers, you could call the Mortuary handling the service and ask them if there is a Memorial Fund, if you are uncomfortable sending it in the card. If not it is okay to send in the card, they won%26#039;t be offended they will understand your wish to help them in their time of loss.
Reply:It is perfectly acceptable to send money in a sympathy card. Say that you wish you were there to help but since you can%26#039;t be you hope that this (the money) will help.

My mother had quite a bit of money when she died (not rich, but not hurting) and many people from out of state send cash or a checks in cards. Our family did not consider it insulting. Some didn%26#039;t hear of her death until after the funeral (her old friends from when she was young) and so couldn%26#039;t send flowers.
Reply:It is appropriate to send money to the family, along with your sympathies....you%26#039;d be astounded at the cost of a burial, and I%26#039;m sure the money would be VERY much appreciated!!!

If you%26#039;re not comfortable putting either cash or a check in an envelope, you may send a gift certificate to a grocery store or restaurant and make a note saying you would have loved to have cooked dinner to send over, but you live to far away, etc....
Reply:Well, there are traditions of people bringing food to family after a death, or helping out in other ways. I think sending money in a card would be the same thing.
Reply:It is absolutely appropriate and very kind. Family expenses can really build and stress is high for them right now. Add a note saying you hope this will help with some expenses or it can be donated to the charity of their choice.

When I had a family member pass away, every little bit helped and was really appreciated.
Reply:You could send it in form of a gift card. To a local grocery store or somewhere they can buy food or things they need and in the card just let them know you wanted to help ease the burdens they may have during their difficult time..

Good luck.

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Looking for the perfect condolence/sympathy quote to send to a family member ASAP!?

2009-04-11T22:05:00.000-07:00

i%26#039;ve got to send some flowers online within the next few minutes for the death of my semi-close stepmother that lives on the east coast. If anybody out there has a good quote that is inspirational, heartfelt but without being overly religious or cheesy, please send it my way or direct me to the link where i might find one. i%26#039;ve been searching and so far no luck. please get back to me. asap!

Looking for the perfect condolence/sympathy quote to send to a family member ASAP!?
May your memories be of great comfort to you.

God bless****
Reply:None of us knew her but you. IMO your the tops for sharing with us that you love her and and those who survive her. You could ask the flower shop or get some quotes online when you order but they won%26#039;t be personal or allow you to express yourself in your own words.
Reply:To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord.
Reply:Maybe this will help.

http://www.quotegarden.com/sympathy.html

nanny

What to bring for sympathy (death)?

2009-04-11T22:04:00.003-07:00

My girlfriend and her families good faimly friend recently had a death in the family. You may have seen it on the news. The Zahornacky man who was found in a lake this morning. I am leaving work early to go over there and was wondering the following.

Is it ok to bring flowers so soon? If so what kind?

Is there something else I could bring?

What to bring for sympathy (death)?
White lillies.
Reply:Flowers are usually something sent to a funeral. Most people bring food, a few good ideas are basket of muffins, breads, etc, or meat tray, veggie tray, something for them to have when people come over, and it is also something for them to eat, because naturally people forget to each when they are grieving and really have no time to cook with all the preparations that need to be made. It is always been helpful when I have had a death in the family and people have brought over food.
Reply:i would bring food they`re not going to feel like cooking
Reply:I think your being there for support is the most important thing you can bring at this time. There are so many things going on during a tragedy for a family, that having someone there for them is so important. You really don%26#039;t have to bring anything, when you arrive, just ask if there is anything that they would like for you to do, or anything that they need. You are a good friend and I think just being that is the most important.
Reply:Yeah, flowers are great, just don%26#039;t pick up anything really cheap just because you are in a hurry. Homemade food is usually appreciated - something you can just heat up like a casserole, because nobody feels like cooking.
Reply:Well, there are all kinds of cultural traditions...

is this family liekly to have a gathering at their house? Even if you don%26#039;t go, some kind of prepared food might make thier lives and finances just a bit easier. I personally would appreciate that a whole lot more than flowers (especially bc they make me sneeze.)

Also, I don%26#039;t know the situation, but if this has the media involved, might there be a related charity? Might a fund be set up for the family?

That would be the best of all.

May each of you, including the supporters, have all the support you need!

But if not,

Hey, help out with the food.
Reply:Its fine to bring flowers, if you ask the florist they will tell you what kind is appropriate. just bring your sympathy.
Reply:White lilies sign of sorrow and peace.

donate to their fav. charity.
Reply:In the South we bring food because it%26#039;s the last thing the grieving family is thinking about. I%26#039;ve picked up fried chicken, a pie, made sandwiches... that sort of thing. The time to send flowers is to the funeral home before the viewimg of the body.
Reply:Flowers are ok, but you might want to wait for the funeral. Bring food and a sympathy card.
Reply:flowers would be ok. food is also something you usually can%26#039;t go wrong with.
Reply:Respect for their sorrow and discipline to say the right thing...that%26#039;s really all you need to have with you. If you are going around meal time perhaps pick up a meat and cheese tray from a local market...just in case anyone has skipped eating or simply doesn%26#039;t want to go thru the trouble of preparing a meal...or seeming selfish for being hungry.
Reply:white lilys, no its not too soon!
Reply:I am sorry to hear about your loss.

As strange as this may sound, bring a dinner. Something they can just throw in the oven and not worry about. The last thing they are going to want to do is cook something. So this way at least you know they are going to eat, in this time of sorrow
Reply:I can tell you, as someone who has been in mourning, that food that has been prepared and only needs reheating is a nice thing.

When you%26#039;re grieving, the last thing you want to do is cook dinner.
Reply:Right now, just go and offer support to the family. You do not need to take anything with you.
Reply:flowers would be nice, or people always bring food.

just a suggestion.
Reply:White lilies would be good.
Reply:just being there and having a shoulder to cry on good enough sometimes we feel like we need to bring something but having a friend there at a sad time is good so they would know who to turn to when they need to talk
Reply:It%26#039;s traditional to bring food to a mourning family, so that they don%26#039;t have to prepare meals for all their visitors. There is a great cookbook out there called %26quot;Being Dead is No Excuse%26quot; that has recipes for all the traditional mourning foods from the South.
Reply:Bring something for the family to eat. There will be many people stopping by and there should be little finger foods, water, and soda for he host family and the guest to eat. If you bring a flower let it be a plant, if they have plants. Perhaps a fruit basket will do the job woth out over doing it
Reply:flowers are good... though my assumption would be that they have plenty... Consider making food or purchasing some food... Cookies tend to go over nicely as do brownies... Offer to make/bring dinner for the family one night as I%26#039;d assume this is going to be rather drawn out and the last thing they care about right now is making food... Also in the long run, a small donation to a charity in honor of the man who passed away is probably the most heart-felt.
Reply:What a sad story.

I would get a sympathy arrangement sent to the home.

Maybe not today but tomorrow.

I sure hope they find out what happened.
Reply:Any flowers are appropiate, or food such as a simple casserole or lasagna, the last thing people want to do is cook when they are grieving and food is comforting.
Reply:From experience:

Go over there and show your support. Be yourself. Don%26#039;t avoid talking about the decease, since that is all the people that are grieving are thinking about. Most people avoid even saying their name, say it often.

Remember that there is no one way to grieve and the family members will grieve differently.

In the next few days bring food. Remind them of a past story of the decease, talk often about them.

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$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?

2009-04-11T22:04:00.002-07:00

Rather than flowers, or donations to a charity?

Would this be %26#039;proper%26#039;? or an insult?

Seems that everyone can use cash, to help pay final expenses. . .

$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
A gift card would be less blantant than cash. And one to the supermarket is pretty much a cash equivilant - everyone shops there every week.

I suppose you could contact the funeral home directly and ask to make an annonymous donation. I would take that kindly. I was struck and touched that the FH didn%26#039;t charge us (their policy for the death of young children).

Don%26#039;t discount the donations to charities, especially if one was selected by the family. I found those to be very meaningful to me.

While this is more of a small town thing, you can still do it in the big city: You can bring over a meal (lasagna, salad, bread) in throwaway containers with enough for leftovers. During grief, it can be a relief to have simple things like that (or mow the lawn, board the dog, etc) taken care of.

Also, strongly consider something like bringing a meal over, having them out to dinner or sending a card that you are thinking of them a few months from now. Everyone is really kind and thoughtful for a week or two and then, reasonably enough, they move on and figure the relatives have too. But months later, they are still impaired and (at a lower level) griefing. But no one acknowledges that anymore and they can be hesitate to ask for help.

Don%26#039;t worry about %26quot;reminding%26quot; them of their loss. They already know! Every day, every hour. It is more comfortable to have it acknowledged than to leave it unsaid. It can be as simple as %26quot;You%26#039;re still in my thoughts (or %26quot;prayers%26quot; if you KNOW they%26#039;re religious) and wondered if you wanted to talk or go out together%26quot;. Or %26quot;I was thinking of Bob the other day and how he always used to . . .%26quot;
Reply:Depends on the situation. If a group is sending a card (most people take up money for a co-worker for example) then it is appropriate.

If the funeral announcement specificially states %26quot;in lieu of flowers%26quot; and asks for money to be made to a particular charity, than the family is not really in dire straits and would rather money be sent to that organization.

Personally, I think a nice note placed in the sympathy card with an extended invitation to get together when it is a good time for that person would be best. After the service and everyone is gone, that is when people need the company.
Reply:Yes, I agree at times of loss, or what have you, cash would be appreciated., however I think it would be taken badly in most cases.

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Thank you for your sympathy?

2009-04-11T22:04:00.001-07:00

My mother in law passed away this week. I am in charge of sending out thank you cards to everyone that brought food and sent flowers. I wanted to write a lil thank you note from the family. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know. Thank you

Thank you for your sympathy?
We all thank you for your warmth and sincerity in this our time of mourning. You have grieved with us and supported us, when we needed you the most. Thank you again,

The Clark Family.
Reply:Thank you for choosing my answer. I pray for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Bless and Keep You All. Report It

Reply:Just thank them for their kindness and support....I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:To whom it may concern....

We would like to say Thank you for your support in this very hard time.

With your kind gifts and words, You have made this time so much easier to bare.

From myself and the ? family we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

Yours sincerely,

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Reply:Yes .Send a thank you very much card. We Appreciate all your help ect,ect.
Reply:The best thing to do is have it printed in your local paper on the deaths page, that way you get to thank everyone %26amp; no one gets left out.

Sorry for your loss.
Reply:well we had to go through the same thing when my grandfather passed, I say you write them all a note and have it saying, we the family thankyou for all of your hospitality love and support you have provided for our family in our time of need!...oh and I am so sorry about your mother I pray you and the family stay strong
Reply:ACKNOWLEDGMENTS...

The family should acknowledge the flowers and messages sent by relatives and friends. When food and personal services are donated, these thoughtful acts also should be acknowledged, as should the services of the pallbearers. The funeral director may have available printed acknowledgement cards that can be used by the family. When the sender is well known to the family, a short personal note should be written on the acknowledgment card expressing appreciation for a contribution or personal service received. The note can be short, such as:

%26quot;Thank you for the beautiful roses. The arrangement was lovely.

%26quot;The food you sent was so enjoyed by our family. Your kindness is deeply appreciated.%26quot;

In some communities it is a practice to insert a public thank you in the newspaper. The funeral director can assist you with this.
Reply:keep it simple and say something like Thank you for your generosity in our time of sorrow. Your thoughtfulness touched us deeply in our time of need/sorrow.
Reply:thank you for your kind words and prayers in our families time of need your prayers were felt by all who loved our dear departed mother. SO SORRY for your lost I lost my mom 3 years ago and this is exactally what I put in the cards we sent.
Reply:Thankyou for your sympathy in our time of sorrow.
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for your loss. I think a short, heartfelt note thanking them for their thoughtfulness would be great.
Reply:Something simple like...

Our family thanks you for your love and support during our time of pain and loss. We appreciate your kindness and friendship.
Reply:sorry for the loss.
Reply:Since you%26#039;ll have to write many cards, I would say keep it short. Something like, %26quot;Your thoughtfulness is deeply appreciated at this very difficult time for our family.%26quot; Then, if you know specifically what the person did, like, sent flowers, mention that they were beautiful. Just a mention to show that you know in what way the person was helpful or supportive.
Reply:Our family wish to thank all of you for your tenderness and love you shown us doing our lost. The love you have express have deeply touch and move us in our heart, and including the many prayers you have all gave our family. We ask that you%26#039;ll continue to keep us in your prayer. Thank you and God Bless.

* I hope this helps, and personally I%26#039;m so sorry of the passing of your Mother in law. You are in my prayers.

God Bless
Reply:i know what it is like to have your mother pass on.sorry for your loss.
Reply:%26quot;Thank you for you kind thoughts and prayers.%26quot; I used this when my mom passed away. You can personalize the ones you feel you should.

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Flowers for miscarriage?

2009-04-11T22:04:00.000-07:00

Im thinking if it was me, Id like the gesture, but not sure Id want to look at them, then have to throw them out. I spose it would be the same for a funeral.

I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white? FTD shows some bright colorful bouquets in the sympathy section, which confuses me. Another friend said maybe a plant, but cant decide if that is more of a reminder vs a remembrance. Any thoughts?

Flowers for miscarriage?
It depends on the person. Maybe take a card and a meal and just let her know you are there if she needs something. But don%26#039;t be pushy I lost a baby early in the pregnancy and my mother-in-law said you need to get out of the house she took me to walmart to walk around ,which I really just wanted to be left alone. But I passed a lot of gross stuff while there and had to go back home and change cloth%26#039;s. Something in remembrance would be nice but if she can%26#039;t take care of plants, live flowers could upset her more if it dies.
Reply:I dont think the color of the flower indicates that it is a sympathy bouquet or not. . . a simple spring mix would be fine. . . a handwritten note inside a card would be anice gesture.

I think its the thought that coutns and its very nice of you to do something kind. :-)
Reply:I think flowers would be a very nice idea. Not too many colors though - too cheery during a bad time.

Maybe get her a little pine tree or a bush of some kind that she can plant and keep. Not as a reminder of the pain and sadness but of the strength to get through this and for future children.
Reply:I would make her a really good meal and take it to her. That way you can give her a hug and tell her that you%26#039;re thinking about her.
Reply:I HATED the arrangement my wife received after her (our) miscarriage. Couldn%26#039;t stand to look at it. Maybe take her out to dinner and let her air out what see wants to. BTW, happy to say my wife (three years later) is 18 weeks into a very healthy pregnancy!
Reply:It depends on your friends%26#039; view of the world. She may see a gift as a form of rememberence and have to %26quot;throw it away%26quot;, she also, could view it as a positive source of rememberence.

I would consider giving her something more everlasting as a commemoration of her lost child. If you have some money I would consider a nice pendant she can wear. Explain to her that you are not trying to give her a keep-sake, necessarily, of a difficult time in her life, but that it is your way of giving her the opportunity to remember this time in her life and focus on all of the wonderful things she could have in her future vs. the negative aspects of something she couldn%26#039;t control.

That, and maybe a single WHITE rose. I wouldn%26#039;t go with color.
Reply:You can send flowers, or a flowering bush. A tree or something she can plant in memorial of the baby lost is always a kind gesture. She is looking for love and support now, and I doubt that she will be upset that you%26#039;re trying to help. You%26#039;re a good friend!
Reply:I think the tree or plant is good as a rememberance. Flowers are also appropriate. I dont think your friend will care what it is, just the fact that you are thinking of her is will make it easier. Also I wouldn%26#039;t go with white- too bland- go with something that has color - give her something that screams with NEW LIFE.
Reply:I hated any sort of arrangements that were sent to me after I miscarried after four months. I threw them all out because I didn%26#039;t want any sort of reminder. It was hard enough to deal with the sympathy that everyone was trying to give, that I just needed sometome alone. I did appreciate the meals that were made and brought over. I also had a child who was a year, so anytime that someone wanted to spend time with her was great too.

I wouldn%26#039;t go for the flower idea, it is really to hard to forget. Maybe stick to dinner, a little bit of house work if she is really distraught. Take her for walks, get her out of the house, doing something. Get her to talk about it too. The more she talks about it, hopefully the better she will start feeling.
Reply:Sure - send flowers. They die soon anyways.

You get flowers for sympathy - perfect time to send them. I would think it very nice and appreciate it if someone did that for me during that time.

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What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?

2009-04-11T22:03:00.002-07:00

My step-grandmother passed away yesterday. I may have seen her 10 times in my 39 years. I really did not know her. All I really know about her is that she was a missionary and very religous. I am sending flowers and I don%26#039;t want to offend that side of the family by saying something dumb.

What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
I am very sorry for your loss. May you find peace in knowing that she helped so many people in her life. Again, my deepest condolences.

I tried writing more but it was too much. This is what I would write. I know it%26#039;s hard to think of what to say to people at a time like that. It%26#039;s the thought that counts.

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Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?

2009-04-11T22:03:00.001-07:00

My boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband had an accident involving some sort of head trauma a few days ago. He survived, but there is damage; how extensive and how permanent is unknown yet, but it will be a long road to recovery.

My boyfriend is going down to visit this weekend. He felt it would be better to feel things out for now and then have me come down another weekend, which is fine. But I do want to send something. What can I send? A card I guess. But what else. Flowers is weird. I looked at 1800flowers and the %26quot;Get Well%26quot; gift baskets are like teas and other things and obviously directed at the sick person. The funeral stuff is like fruit and cheese and cookies. That seems oddly celebratory, but maybe that%26#039;s because funeral%26#039;s are supposed to have a dimension of honoring the person who died.

Any ideas? I am considering making a meal of some kind and sending it with my boyfriend, but I don%26#039;t really cook.

Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
I think a meal or anything that will lessen the load for them as they deal with this would be nice-

If you don%26#039;t cook you could try Omahasteaks.com they have prepared meals you can send
Reply:Make a nice pot of soup and send.
Reply:just send a nice card and do the best you can to call your boyfriend and just listen to him, let him vent.
Reply:Since you don%26#039;t cook perhaps you could send a gift card to a restaurant that is in her area. Or you could offer to help her with something that she will not have time for like grocery shop for her when you get there. You can also buy deli things from the grocery for her fridge to help when she get home from the hospital and then she won%26#039;t have to cook either. You can also order her a meal like Olive Garden with your credit card and have your boyfreind pick it up.

I think it is hard to say what to do since we don%26#039;t know how well you know her or her husband but food is a good choice.
Reply:Check out the restaurant listing for the area they are in and possibly have a nice meal prepared and delivered to them or even hire someone to come in and cook or clean or do laundry for them. Who ever the care giver is going to be is going to have their hands full and would probably appreciate any help with the day to day stuff. Plus send the card. Best wishes for you boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband and their entire family. I hope he does well.
Reply:A %26quot;Get Well Card%26quot; is the most appropriate and all that is necessary, Sign it.......................(your first and last name) and under your name write ( your boyfriend%26#039;s first name, ex: Jim%26#039;s Friend )
Reply:There are cards that say things like %26quot;My thoughts are with you%26quot;, %26quot;I%26#039;m here if you need me%26quot;, etc. Food at funerals is usually there as munchies for the guests, or real food so the bereaved don%26#039;t have to think or work beyond heating a casserole. Food is also nice for people who may be spending a lot of time visiting the hospital and traveling to and from it, or even caring for someone at home. Maybe you know someone who could cook for you in return for a favor from you? Also, most grocery stores have half-decent prepared food sections now. (Often in the deli case.) You could put togther a few things from there and send it on. It%26#039;s a very nice thought, and everyone I know would appreciate it
Reply:Something they can freeze, or high quality delivered food (pizza doesn%26#039;t count :) !)

I would think a balnk card, saying that you%26#039;re sorry to hear of the accident, and that your thoughts are with them - If you want to offer - then add something like - If you need anything, at all, don%26#039;t hesitate to call - and that you%26#039;ll see them soon.
Reply:i%26#039;d skip the card unless you find just the right saying this is a touchy situation i%26#039;d get just a blank and say something like you%26#039;re praying for his recovery and he%26#039;s in your thoughts there is nothing wrong with sending flowers or a plant BUT if he%26#039;s in ICU or CCU they won%26#039;t let him have it the food is a good idea cookies travel pretty well . if you make something how about a pot of chili they can use then or freeze.

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Sympathy gifts?

2009-04-11T22:03:00.000-07:00

My friend%26#039;s daughter passed away and I%26#039;d like to do something in recognition of her. I considered flowers, but was told by a friend that in her experience as the grieving family member that you get many of those and that many were redonated or thrown out.

What would be another good idea to just show I care? I am considering a nice fruit basket, but are there any other creative ideas? I had the suggestion of a monetary donation to the family, but I%26#039;m not sure my friend would be comfortable with that.

Sympathy gifts?
How old was the daughter? If she was young, I would say something like a beautiful angel ornament or other angelic knicknack to help your friend remember her daughter. Or maybe a cat or dog to have a warm being to hold and cuddle...
Reply:You could make cookies or make a cake. Something sweet always makes ppl happy. It wont get rid of her pain, but ppl love sweets, so you could try something like that.*

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Sympathy Quote?

2009-04-11T22:02:00.003-07:00

My co-worker%26#039;s and good friend mother passed away. Wake is tomorrow, I%26#039;d like to send flowers, but have no idea what note to put with them. I%26#039;ve been through this by myself. Words don%26#039;t help...but I have to write something.

Sympathy Quote?
Below is a list of quotes that might work:

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~From a headstone in Ireland

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran

There are things that we don%26#039;t want to happen but have to accept, things we don%26#039;t want to know but have to learn, and people we can%26#039;t live without but have to let go. ~Author Unknown

In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. ~Robert Ingersoll

The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. ~Quoted in The Angels%26#039; Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994
Reply:I always just write %26quot;Thinking of you in your time of sorrow%26quot; or something like that. Or if you%26#039;re religious, %26quot;Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers%26quot;
Reply:Condolences.With big pain.
Reply:I%26#039;m terribly sorry for your loss...

Like you mentioned, words are pretty much meaningless when someone has died...

Write something from you heart - short and to the point.

That%26#039;s the best you can do... I know that isn%26#039;t a great answer, but there really isn%26#039;t anything else you can do.

Just be there for your friend - that%26#039;s much more important than the card...

-dh
Reply:Write nothing, just tag it with %26quot;With my sympathy, (your name)%26quot;
Reply:No Person is Ever Truly Alone

by Richard Fife

No person is ever truly alone.

Those who live no more,

Whom we loved,

Echo still within our thoughts,

Our words, our hearts.

And what they did

And who they were

Becomes a part of all that we are,

Forever.
Reply:Simply say, sorry for your loss. Let me know if there%26#039;s anything I can do to ease your pain.

Then sign your name.
Reply:You could simply have the florist include a card that says %26quot;With deepest sympathy%26quot;

or.....

If you choose to write the note personally, you could say , %26quot;I am so sorry for your great loss, please know that I am here for you%26quot;
Reply:Don%26#039;t make it too flowery.

Just a simple %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry for you loss. You are in my prayers.%26quot; will do nicely. Let%26#039;s them know you care, but doesn%26#039;t weight them down will a bunch of babble that they don%26#039;t want or need right now. They won%26#039;t remember a long message. It might mean something to you, but it%26#039;s just not appropriate right now.

If you want to do something else, something more, then wait a couple of weeks and take the friend out for lunch or dinner and let them know then that you are there if they need to talk. Don%26#039;t push it. They%26#039;ll be in a better frame of mind to receive your heartfelt sentiments.
Reply:One of the most poignant of all human experiences is empathy-the ability to feel what others feel when suffering from pain or loss. --Louis Jolyon West

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On line Flower Shops?

2009-04-11T22:02:00.002-07:00

I need to find a Cheap Online Flower Shop Fast! I Need Sympathy Flowers for my Grandfather%26#039;s Funeral.

On line Flower Shops?
This is a mail order place, but if you don%26#039;t mind paying extra for express delivery they can help you out. Go to: www@mileskimball.com. Look for the dozen long stemmed roses. They%26#039;re available in: pink, red, or yellow. I don%26#039;t sell anything, but I buy many things from them. I have bought the pink ones for my mom %26amp; dad%26#039;s 50th anniversary in the past. They were beautiful!
Reply:Without knowing which country you reside in, it%26#039;s difficult to give an answer.

Your best move is to do a local Google search or an online yellow pages search.

Sorry to learn of your grandfather%26#039;s death.
Reply:FTD.com is a well known flower merchant. They won%26#039;t send you any crap flowers that should have been thrown out and if you ask about it (they also have an 800#) you may be able to get a arrangement of cheaper if it isn%26#039;t the high demand type flowers like roses.

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Is this a good sympathy gift for my friend? Her mother just died?

2009-04-11T22:02:00.001-07:00

My friend%26#039;s mother just died...we have been working together a few years and she is basically like a mother to me. Me and my girlfriend are friends with her family but we never knew her mother. I was going to get them a Vermont Teddy Bear with a card saying %26quot;We are sorry for the loss of your loved one, keep this in her memory%26quot; Does that seem a bit over the top or no? For some reason it seems like a strange sympathy gift to me...but I didn%26#039;t want to go with a generic fruit basket or flower arrangement...I wanted it to be something they could keep and remember. For me it just almost seems droll to give someone a gift that is like %26#039;here is something to remind you that someone died%26#039;

Am I thinking too deeply about this? Any thoughts?

Is this a good sympathy gift for my friend? Her mother just died?
What matters is the note you write, on a card or letter, and the comfort you offer this person. I think you could even write %26quot;You have been like a mother to me%26quot; in your note and it would mean a lot. There should be no such thing as a sympathy gift-I agree it is just a reminder.

People gave my husband teddy bears when he had cancer and we were dumbfounded, although we appreciated the thought. Teddy bears for a 40 year old man? Reminders of his illness? No thanks!
Reply:You do not give gifts when people pass away. Often times, family will bring over some meals so the grieving does not need to worry about cooking. As for a friend, a simple card expressing your sympathy and prayers is enough.
Reply:I recently lost a close friend, and although gifts were thoughtful and appreciated, the thing that kept me going was the people that offered their support and prayers.
Reply:I don%26#039;t think it is too over the top, but I think it is a bit odd to give a teddy bear or any gift for sympathy. I think many prefer people to give to a charity...is there something the mom or the family supports?.....How did she die? If it was due to an illness there may be charities that do research in that field and THAT would be the most appropriate charitable donation to make. If there are young children, maybe you could start a college fund for them. What is MOST important during this time and in the near future is to let the family know that you will be there for them and mean it. They may be getting bombarded with visitors and gifts right now, but maybe it would be nice in a couple weeks to bring them a home made meal. Actions go a lot further than any gift, so just pay attention to what your friend needs or wants and be there.
Reply:great idea maybe get a PLANT not flowers as well!
Reply:You could get a donation to a charity in her mother%26#039;s name. I know when my Grandad died we got certificates of donations given to the Irish Cancer foundation and that meant a lot to my nana.
Reply:I think its the thought that counts here, Another idea would be making a donation in this person%26#039;s name to a charity. Sorry for your loss.
Reply:that is a lovely thought go for it and bless you for being so thoughtful
Reply:What I would do is purchase a very special %26quot;Hallmark%26quot; condolence card, together with flowers, a plant, or a real nice box of chocolates. Even a home made cake, your girlfriend can bake.

Hallmark has so many cards, you will really be able to find one that exactly conveys your feelings. As a personal touch I would call your friend and ask her if you, and your girlfriend may come and make a condolence visit. Bring the flowers, and card with you.

When people are in mourning they need other people around to talk their feelings out. She will most probably enjoy talking about the good times, and wonderful memories she has of her mother. However, I would wait for 4 to 5 days before you do it.
Reply:Why a gift. Your support and sympathy for their situation should be more than enough.

A teddy bear? There is something that will end up in a garage sale or stuffed in an attic somewhere. Just be there for them. It says more than anything.
Reply:I%26#039;m not so sure about that...what about just offering your support %26amp; letting them know you%26#039;ll be glad to do anything for them that they may need during this time...such as cooking a meal for them, running any errands, etc. If she keeps mementos they will probably be personal ones that she already has or that her mother owned...a nice card would suffice...since you didn%26#039;t know her mother I wouldn%26#039;t get anything too personal
Reply:I think it%26#039;s a great idea. i have to agree with the boring fruits and flowers. i hope she likes the gift!
Reply:As some have already stated the idea is great but the teddy bear is a little strange and defintily something that will end up in yard sale down the road.

However, if you check someplace such as:

www.collectionsetc.com

You will find some really nice sympathy gifts such as angels with a special message and some garden stones. Personally I would rather have something like that then a teddy bear.

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Business Sympathy Card Letter?

2009-04-11T22:02:00.000-07:00

I have to send flowers to a corporation we work with, one of their employees died. I also have to send flowers on behalf of another group my boss is chairing. I am sending these to a group of people in care of one person. What the heck do i say? This seems like it should be simple...how do i address a group of employess, seems weird to say Dear (insert company name) Do I have to address them or can i jsut put:

Our deepest sympathies are with you at this time.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you,

(company name)

Business Sympathy Card Letter?
Yes, just put that, keep it general.

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Sympathy gifts for a teenage boy?

2009-04-11T22:01:00.003-07:00

my friends little sister just died and as a class we thought it%26#039;d be appropriate to get our friend somethig to show our sympathies.. he is a HUGE hockey fan.. game geek, loves to read etc.. we dont%26#039; want him to get flowers or anything like that beucase we want to show we actually thought about it and put effort into it

Sympathy gifts for a teenage boy?
Instead of buy him something, make a donation to a local charity in honor of his sister.
Reply:maybe like you can get him a jersey of his fav team or something?
Reply:Try a hockey jersey, some good chocolates and other goodies, and some good reading material (something funny, like comic books or funny authors). That way, he has something he likes, some junk food because he might not feel like eating, and some reading material that makes him laugh a little.
Reply:get him world of warcraft .. his fave teams shirt ... and some books ... also some cologne
Reply:Well, defenitly get a card for everyone to sign -- maybe not a sympathy one, because those tend to get girly. Maybe just a there-for-you kind of card, that is funny at the same time. For a gift, maybe a gift card, or a special piece of memrobeilia from his favorite team. Or maybe a coffee table book about hockey or something. It depends on how much you are going to have to spend. Good luck -- and remember, the best gift is to just be there for him.

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When sending flowers after a death what do you write on the card?

2009-04-11T22:01:00.002-07:00

My Aunt is in hospice care and has been given 3-4 days until she passes. I want to send some flowers to my Uncle but I dont know what to write on the card. I live in another country so I thought this would be the best way to send my sympathy without actually being able to be there. The only problem is that I have no idea what to write on the card when they are being sent. She is so loved by my whole family, but what do you say in a card without sound impersonal?

When sending flowers after a death what do you write on the card?
Please accept our/my sincerist sympathies in this difficult time.

Our/my prayers and thoughts are with you.

Then, include a personal, happy memory of your Aunt to make everyone smile for a moment.
Reply:Thinking of you...from our family to yours!
Reply:Write it to your aunt...

%26quot;To my Dearest Aunt Susie....My heart and prayers are with you and Uncle Stan at this time and I do wish I could be with you. You shall always be in my heart and soul, a loving part of my life that I shall never forget. With much love and respect, your niece, ...%26quot;
Reply:Don%26#039;t make it a condolence card and make the flower arrangement as cheerful as possible. Address the card to both your aunt and uncle and express your regrets for not being there in their hour of need. Remind them of happy times you shared with them and how they are always in your thoughts.
Reply:Instead of sending flowers which do not last for long, send a card with a few of your memories written down and then add that you have given a donation (what the cost of the flowers would have been) in your aunts name to a charity that they may have felt strongly about. If you can%26#039;t think of one then a research group might be best. This will do more than flowers that wilt and die too soon.

My prayers are with you I just lost my brother four days ago and we asked for donation to his favorite charity instead of flowers for his funeral.
Reply:Just tell him that he is in your thoughts and prayers, and maybe mention a personal memory of her that means alot to you.
Reply:If the card is to be included with the flowers just put tell the florist to write on the card %26quot;Deepest sympathy from your nephew ... %26quot; . Take the time to buy a nice card and write a personal message on it and mail it to your uncle .
Reply:I am very sorry to hear about your Aunt. With certain strong emotions such as love or grief, it is often difficult to find the right words to express ourselves to others...

So, it is no wonder when faced with a situation where you must find the right words to express your own emotions and attempt to offer some comfort to someone else at the same, that we can find ourselves at a loss...

When I was very young, I lost my father and I can say that from personal experience, certain %26quot;sayings%26quot; or poems felt trite and insincere such as %26quot;God picks the most beautiful flowers for his garden!%26quot;

I would say that sometimes saying little actually says alot....

%26quot;My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.%26quot;

%26quot;Aunt Jane touched all of our lives, she will be missed.%26quot;

Below is a site that offers some suggestions.

Best wishes to you and yours...

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Appropriate expression of Sympathy?

2009-04-11T22:01:00.001-07:00

A friend of mine passed away Friday night. She had three grown daughters, one of which, is also a friend (not a close friend, but a friend nevertheless) At any rate, both she and her daughter belonged to the Baha%26#039;i Faith. I know NOTHING about this religion....I don%26#039;t know what they believe, what their practices are, etc. I don%26#039;t know if they believe in the same God that I do. I want to send a Sympathy card, but want to send one that is appropriate and will not offend her daughter (religion-wise) Also, is it inappropriate to send flowers? Can anyone help me with this? If you know anything about this faith I would be very interested to learn a few things about it. Thanks

Appropriate expression of Sympathy?
A few years back, when I was a student, I covered a meeting of the University Bahai group for the newspaper. They proved to be the MOST lovely, sensitive, warm group of people. I%26#039;m sure that any genuine expression of sympathy and support will be most welcomed by them.

As long as you are being sincere, and it really sounds as though you are, then that%26#039;s all that matters - the exact wording etc won%26#039;t matter.
Reply:Send flowers, send a card expressing your care and love... no one could possibly be offended by that... they are alot like Universalists...
Reply:Baha%26#039;i is a collaberation of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. They believe in all the prophets of like every religion, and definitely believe in the same God you do.
Reply:I know nothing of baha%26#039;i... but I do know that being available for a hug, and to honestly listen without judgment is the greatest gift you can give to someone who is grieving.

edit - you can find some info at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bah%C3%A1%26#039;%...

they seem reasonable folk to deal with.
Reply:I would just write a short note and let her know that you are thinking of her and are there if she wants to talk.
Reply:I dont think that the bahai would object to anything you felt you needed to send. My understanding is that they are tolerant to any religion.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know about it, but a generic type of card, saying I wish to express my sympathy should be good for any faith. No matter what the belief, people grieve over the loss of loved ones.
Reply:Precious one - please allow me to first express my sympathy to YOUR loss. I am so deeply sorry to learn you have lost a friend.

I cannot help you with their faith system, as I am Christian... but I know that all dear peoples appreciate the heartfelt words of a friend who shares in their deep grief.

I pray that you - as they - are able to find comfort in this difficult time, dear one.

Peace.
Reply:A simple: %26quot;May God be of comfort to you in this time of grief%26quot;, would be welcome I%26#039;m sure. I know of no prohibition in Bahai againse flowers, so by all means send them. The Bahai tend to be very tolerant and easy going, so even if there is some stricture in Bahai against flowers, they will still appreciate the gesture coming from you.

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Ok to send flowers to the house the day after a funeral? What else could I do?

2009-04-11T22:01:00.000-07:00

I just found out a former boss%26#039;s father has died, and she was very close to him (he lived with her). She is my former boss, but also I have known her for a long time, and we used to visit socially. We haven%26#039;t been social for about 5 years, not for any bad reason, just lost touch.

The funeral is tomorrow, I%26#039;m very sick and can%26#039;t make it. I was going to have flowers sent to the house tomorrow, but same-day delivery bouquets (since it%26#039;s after the cutoff time) are pretty scrawny and way out of my price range with the rush same-day delivery fee.

I was thinking of having flowers sent to the house on the following day or some other time this week. Is this tacky/unacceptable?

My other idea was to mail a sympathy card with a $50 gift certificate for a restaurant, so she can treat her family to take out or something to make meals easier, etc.

Please don%26#039;t bash me, I%26#039;m just trying to figure out what the right thing to do is, with what I%26#039;ve got. Any other ideas would be great

Ok to send flowers to the house the day after a funeral? What else could I do?
Ill be flat honest here from my experience. A death in the family is a hard time. Someone else mentioned that flowers are just another item that has to be dealt with. And that is soooo true. I mean really, no one is going to be planting flowers or worry about watering them right after a death. They are going to die and its just something else that has to be done.

Food is the first thought for most people. Our family has always been over run by food during times like that - and its great!!! But please, use disposable dishes. Again, one more thing to deal with. It is sooo nerve racking to have to sit and contact all these people to get their dishes back. Like I really want to deal with that next week when I have just buried my family?

Some will say cash is tacky. But likely, cash is probably needed at times like that. No one is cooking, you have to make arrangments, probably go get a dress to wear, run around taking care of this and that. Fast food and take out is probably all that will be eaten for a couple weeks. I have suddennly just spent a great deal of money that I wasnt counting on, I have no idea how I am going to make the payments on this..... Yeah, cash is needed. These are the times when youshould give what is needed not worry about whats polite.

Showing up at the door ready to clean (with permission), or offering your time to help take care of small children while the adults are taking care of things.

A nice card would really be al thats necessary since you are not activly in this persons life. But if you are going to spend money, go with a visa gift card or prepaid credit card that can be used anywhere. That will be appreciated and get used, while the flowers will likely get neglegted, die, and get thrown out.
Reply:Flowers are over done and will just be another item to deal with. Cash, who needs that from a funeral? A simple card stating how you feel is all that is needed. Since you had social ties as well, once well. It might be a good time to just pay a visit. A 1 hour person to person conversation holds much more weight than any cash or flowers could. Even a card with a small notes holds more.
Reply:flower are sweet i did the same for a friend when her cuz passed it dose help and also u can instead of the gift card to a restaurant u could make them dinner and take it over cuz they may not want to go out but than agian they might need to get out and get there minds off of things but u have a good idea it is sweet and shows u care
Reply:do not send money.. now is not the time. sending flowers is the most perfectly acceptable thing to do... the best.. and they will appreciate it.
Reply:A dish garden or a fruit basket would be appropriate as well....
Reply:A donation to a charity is a far better idea than cut flowers sent to the house.
Reply:no money, card and flowers later if you can will be wonderful!
Reply:Sympathy cards and flowers are acceptable at this time. Right now the bereaved needs more emotional help than financial help. No amount of money can replace the loss and the pain of a loved one.

You can consider writing this in your sympathy card %26quot;I recently heard about the loss of your loved one. I am very sorry for your loss. There are not enough words to say to take the pain away but just to let you know if you need anything, let me know and I will be there at your aide. You are in our thoughts and prayers.%26quot;

I am in similar situation. I lost my father in law last week and my best friend wrote a very brief message and in the end she writes %26quot;hope you are doing well.%26quot;, which is sorta offensive to me.because we are not doing well. Maybe it would be fine if she wrote more. We bereaved folks can be extra sensitive to words.
Reply:I think at first the response is overwhelming for the family, in the past i was told by a family member that it is the time after, a few weeks down the road when the phone calls slowly stop, and the cards stop coming in, and the people don%26#039;t drop by as often, is when people start to really feel the loss. I can recommend that probably the nicest thing you could do down the road is cook a nice meal and take it over to her so she has a prepared meal for a day or two would probably help immensely and it would show that you cared and were thinking of her.

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What kind of sympathy arrangement to send a male?

2009-04-11T22:00:00.003-07:00

My boyfriends grandmother passed this morning. She practically raised him after his own mother died so he is taking this pretty hard. I was wanting to send some flowers to the funeral home. I know he would appreciate having an arrangement sent to him. What sort sympathy arrangement would be appropriate for a male?

I don%26#039;t want to visit a florist. I was hoping to order them online. Any online florist suggestions as well?

What kind of sympathy arrangement to send a male?
You are sweet for wanting to support him. I like proflowers.com - they are pretty inexpensive. You can send them to his house or to the funeral home - personally I think to his house is better, but check the obituary in the newspaper to see if the family has any special instructions.

I don%26#039;t think there is any arrangment or flower that a man would not appreciate. There%26#039;s no such thing as %26#039;male%26#039; arrangements or %26#039;female%26#039; arrangements. Men love all kinds of flowers too!! White roses and white lilies are popular sympathy flowers but anything is great - it%26#039;s the thought that counts.

I have one more suggestion: Instead of (or in addition to) sending them now, wait two or three weeks and send the flowers then, with an encouraging note. Bereaved families are flooded with sympathy for the first week or two, then everything suddenly drops off to nothing, the flowers die, the cards stop coming, and the shock has worn off - this is when people need help and sympathy the most, in my opinion.
Reply:I%26#039;m sure that anything at all will be appreciated, but for men, I tend to order a plant. Almost every online florist has a selection of plants in their %26quot;Sympathy%26quot; section. They aren%26#039;t quite so %26quot;girly%26quot; and they make a lovely living tribute to a beloved relative.

If possible, find a florist that is local to the funeral and order from there. Most of them have websites and allow you to order online nowadays. My family and I have had very good luck with this method, especially when we are sending flowers to an out-of-state funeral.
Reply:Try sending him an arrangement that you made yourself, with cheese and crackers and canned meats. Throw in a loaf of bread and wrap it in a blue bow. They probably need the food, anyways, having friends and family over that need food. Food is expensive. Food donations like that, can really save a family during such a tough time, and anyways men love food.

You can also make him a nice casserole or something, as well, but its hard to send those or order them online. There are catering services, so if you want you can order him a couple of meals through one.

http://www.buybuffalomeat.com/buffalo_me...

http://www.localharvest.org/store/item.j...

http://www.localharvest.org/store/cheese...

http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=%22cate...
Reply:I truly sorry to hear. She is now in a better place. What about a mixed range of flowers, or carnations, roses, maybe a peace lilly ect sorry im unsure as to what country/state your in so maybe try go through www.google.com.au %26amp; just type in florists. All the best hope everything works out %26amp; I%26#039;m truly sorry to hear.
Reply:A simple, tasteful floral arrangement. When my dad died we were sent several plants. It gave me the chills everytime I saw them because they reminded me of his death. The good thing about flowers is you don%26#039;t feel guilty about throwing them away when they are beyond their prime.
Reply:Go simple...maybe a peace lilly or something like that. Since male if you get an entricate boquette, it may be lost if he does not care about flowers. A simple arrangement says you care but you are not spending alot of money on something that is not going to get full appreciation.
Reply:It%26#039;s OK to send either mums or lilies.

Go see him at the funeral home too if at all possible.

It%26#039;s times like this that friends are needed the most.
Reply:a nice mixed planter would be very nice. you can get one for anywhere from $25 up, it could be sent to the funberal home with a note on the back of the card that that particular item be reserved for him, you could also get some cut flowers placed in it.

another suggestion i saw was a blooming plant that could be planted outside, such as a mum plant, but a planter has several different varities of plants, and eventually could be seperated into however many different plants there are, and placed in different rooms of the house.
Reply:Try flowers.com. Do a search for sympathy or something to that extent. Call them if you don%26#039;t see anything good online that might fit. Usually talking to someone and telling them exactly what you want is a lot better.

I think it%26#039;s 1800flowers

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Do You Feel Any Sympathy for Omaha Mall Shooter? Some people do and I dont understand why.?

2009-04-11T22:00:00.002-07:00

The mall shooter was described in newspaper reports today as quiet and depressed. I think the newspaper reporters wanted a music track of violins playing hearts and flowers.

Quiet and depressed is a vast understatement. The mall shooter was angry, malevolent, psychotic, and a common criminal with a gun who was too much of a coward to go to prison for what he had done. That%26#039;s why he shot himself.

I don%26#039;t have sympathy for him, and I don%26#039;t think most people do either. I think most people are disgusted to read the hearts and flowers shrinkage of the kid.

He fits an all-too-familiar pattern: Kids playing with real guns as if they are playing video games. And it doesn%26#039;t quite work to say they were desensitized to violence, because after all he was sensitized enough to know how horrific it was and to make sure he wasn%26#039;t around to answer for it.

Do You Feel Any Sympathy for Omaha Mall Shooter? Some people do and I dont understand why.?
I%26#039;m not saying i do or don%26#039;t, but it%26#039;s much easier to hate someone if you make them out to be a vicious monster. The fact is, these people are generally the way they are because we as a society set up the conditions to make them the way they are.

So...while I may or may not feel sympathy for a person like this, I%26#039;d still recognize that I and the rest of society have failed these people, and they need to be dealt with accordingly.
Reply:I sympathize with his life circumstances, but I think he should burn in hell for taking it out on innocent people.
Reply:Killing yourself is evolution in action killing others without just cause is WRONG ! The police and political hacks however won%26#039;t let us defend ourselves { perhaps the are afraid we might wellll never mind } if you had shot the bastard while he was shooting those people and saved some lives the police would arrest you and try you for murder something is definitely wrong with this picture!
Reply:I never heard anyone say they were sympathetic to him. Actually if you hear someone saying they can understand why he did that, it%26#039;s a warning sign that the person who said it maybe be in a major depression or have some other mental illness and you should tell someone who can get them help because they are thinking along the same lines as the killer. That%26#039;s why it is so common to have %26#039;copy cat killers%26#039; after incidences like this!
Reply:You should be in office.... Yeah, what are %26quot;warning signs%26quot; anyways? Arent most teens depressed? I was, but I didnt kill anyone... And, how exactly do you act on %26quot;warning signs%26quot; Who is the authority on this? Police? yeah right! School officials? Yeah right..... So, who Do we tell? It all seems to fit together after the fact, society wants to always shift blame for some reason.
Reply:Ha. Good question!

No I don%26#039;t.

He disregarded the lives of innocent people so, just like that deranged Cho clown in Virginia,

GOOD RIDDANCE to bad rubbish.

And he didn%26#039;t accept help...

I do feel sorry for his family, though.
Reply:I feel sorry for those he shot and their families.
Reply:Yes, but I feel anger at his parents also. I really feel extra sorry for the innocent mall shoppers. Its just a real bad situation.
Reply:I do feel that this kid had tough breaks. I don%26#039;t care who you are but not being wanted by your own family tends to mess you up. I%26#039;m not justifying what he did because what he did was obviously wrong but I do feel for him. There were warning signs and maybe if someone had picked up on them then we wouldn%26#039;t be talking about this right now and 8 innocent people would still be alive today.
Reply:i agree with Snardlers
Reply:No, he only did it for attention. The dumbest thing was how he thought that was going out in style..what?? that doesn%26#039;t even make sense. Everytime I see his stupid little emo face I wanna punch it. Im sorry for his parents.

I don%26#039;t blame his parents, the media, video games, tv or his peers, I blame the idiot with the gun, and thats it.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know if I feel sympathy for him, but he was definitely a person who had serious emotional problems. He was not a normal kid who happened to play too many video games. He had received a significant amount of psychiatric treatment, which apparently wasn%26#039;t enough.
Reply:I am a Christian and well in my opinion this is where God steps in, these fools think they can escape punishment but they cannot escape God, and I promise you he will have to answer to God on why he murdered those people.
Reply:I have nothing more that can be said that you didnt already say. I feel the exact same way. I dont care how old he was, and if he just broke up with his girlfriend or not, its just not right. i feel no sympathy for him what so ever. but i do wonder,, what made him write that letter to his mother before he killed all them people and himself saying,,%26quot; now i%26#039;ll be famous%26quot; ? was his mother or someone on his case about something? either way, he shouldn%26#039;t have shotten anyone, but if he had to, it should have been himself 1st.
Reply:It%26#039;s too bad, but he is like soooo many other teenagers these days, and they don%26#039;t go to malls and kill people...

I feel sorry for all kids that have pitiful lives, it%26#039;s suppose to be stress free and full of love...it%26#039;s how you deal with your problems that make you or break you as an individual....
Reply:I would agree with your last paragraph... I did not know the individual, but his act was an act of a coward. Like u said, he was a criminal, who didn%26#039;t want to face the punishment for his crimes. And instead of just ending it for himself, he took innocent people with him. Why would anyone feel sympathy for such a sad excuse of a human being?
Reply:No, I don%26#039;t

He was weak, and he killed people because he was a failure at life. I have no sympathy for him
Reply:nope no sympathy here...i mean come on..it%26#039;s the holiday season...even the crazy%26#039;s should take a vacation. don%26#039;t you think!

Oh and one more thing...it%26#039;s b/c of crazy stupid selfish ppl like this kid that is going to get out #2 right taken away from us. This just adds fuel to the Liberal parties agenda to get the right to bare fire arms banded in this nation! I will not stand for it...b/c what i want to know is where were the parents on this? why aren%26#039;t the parents and their lack of child rearing to blame also...i grew up with guns in the house...never once did i think about touching or playing with them. I%26#039;ve gone through some major hardships in my 28 yrs on this earth and never have i ever thought about shooting ppl and committing suicide...why? b/c my mother raised me to be a strong person...and if i did feel like suicide she raised me to be compassionate also...so i would never bring other ppl with me. That%26#039;s just cowardice.
Reply:No i feel bad for his family that has to put up with people snarling at them and you REALLY can not help who u r related to! I feel very sorry for the innocent people who lost their lives just by being at work and shopping.. I fell sorry for their family who have to make some kind of sense out of this whole mess. AS for the dumb a*( kid he will pay for what he did one way or another.....
Reply:I have no sympathy for this madman who killed and wounded all these innocent people because he wanted to be famous. May he rot in hell!
Reply:While I don%26#039;t know that I can sympathize with what the shooter did, I can understand the reasoning behind what made him do what he did. According to the report I saw on the %26quot;Today Show%26quot; he:

-was described as a %26quot;lost puppy%26quot; that no one paid attention to

-was kicked out of his parents house for quitting school

-was living with a friend%26#039;s family - even though his parent%26#039;s lived nearby

-had just broken up with his girlfriend

-had just been fired from his job at McDonald%26#039;s

So here you have a lonley, disturbed, obviously depressed, isolated individual who lost the only things that tethered him to society (girlfriend, job, parental guidance/affection, a stable home). Since he most likely felt there was nothing left to lose, and (probably) harbored resentment for a society that didn%26#039;t care about him or what he was going through, he decided to end his own life, and in the process, try to acheive the notoriety that he could never realize in life.

It%26#039;s very easy to understand how someone can be driven to their %26quot;snapping point%26quot;, but that does not excuse their actions, because they wind up taking out people who had NOTHING to do with why their lives are the way they are.

This has been happening more and more in this country, yet no one wants to address the bigger issue here, which is that many people slip between the cracks of society every day due to the self-involved nature of us all, who see someone who is obviously troubled, yet do nothing about it. We seem to have a complacent, apathetic lassez-faire attitude of %26quot;it%26#039;s someone else%26#039;s problem%26quot; rather than taking the reins when we see this in others and trying to get them some help.

Until we become less self-absorbed as a society, incidents like this will continue to happen more frequently.
Reply:It is sick...Where do these Jack holes get AK-47s?????
Reply:What you don%26#039;t understand is that it was people like you, by failing to feel any sympathy for this kid since his traumatic childhood, who helped to create the climate of complete rejection that made him feel he had nothing to lose. Such tragedies can%26#039;t be remedied once they happen. We as members of society should be looking for ways to prevent them. The mentality of after-the-fact condemnation cannot save lives.
Reply:He is a loser and a retard. Killing innocent people during Christmas shopping. Kids these day are on too loose a leash. They need to learn about respect and morals. Feeling sorry for a murderer is twisted, those people need to get their heads checked.

those who gave a thumbs down for my answer. Your probably the reason why we get twisted individuals like this murderer. Get your damn heads checked.
Reply:Nope, he and he alone choose to shoot those people. He is not %26quot;an hero%26quot;.
Reply:No, there%26#039;s always people whining how their life is so hard. While they sit in their suburbian 2 parent home and cut themselves. Meanwhile, 10 year olds are forced to perform guerilla warfare with AK-47s in Sudan and aren%26#039;t whining about sh*t.
Reply:f*ck %26#039;em .. no sympathy for a killer.
Reply:i dont understand how ppl that are depressed think killing ppl before killing themselves is gonna help anything... he was probably depressed because he spent way to much time playing video games instead of socializing like normal ppl.
Reply:sounds like you could use some meds too

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Etiquette question, thank you notes, funeral flowers,food, etc.?

2009-04-11T22:00:00.001-07:00

we had a death in the family. some thank you notes need to be sent. i know notes are sent for people giving flowers and food. what about for people who send sympathy cards? are thank you notes supposed to be sent to them? i assume , no. is this correct?

Etiquette question, thank you notes, funeral flowers,food, etc.?
Write an ad in the local paper thanking everyone for their sympathy and kindness. You were very thoughtful to send notes to those who sent food and flowers and I%26#039;m sure you thanked them at the time. People love to give their support and do not want any thank you for it because we all know what its like to lose a loved one.
Reply:I%26#039;d write: I appreciate your affection towards our familie%26#039;s loss
Reply:Thank you notes are for common courtesy. If you do not want to send out a thank you card to those who sent cards then, why don%26#039;t you just call them and give them a personal Thank you.
Reply:you should acknowledge anything nice that was done for you by anyone. You should send to everyone attending the funeral and/or wake. It can be a chore but people will undersand if it takes you a bit to get them out.
Reply:I don%26#039;t know the formality, but if I were to send a card, I wouldn%26#039;t expect a thank you note.
Reply:thank you notes for flowers, food, and cards are appropriate. Just be kind,

%26quot;thank you for the card you sent, i appreciate you support%26quot; something like that is appropriate.
Reply:Not for the cards, unless they had a contribution in them. The ad in the paper answer is a good one, if there were a very large number of folks who attended the service. God Bless You, my condolences to your family.
Reply:You don%26#039;t have to send a thank you note for a sympathy card. But if they wrote something personal/supportive inside you may want to send one. It need not be elaborate or lengthy at all. The newspaper idea is good to. That way it will cover everyone who sent cards and notes of sympathy without you having to send dozens of thank yous. Personally, when I send a letter of condolence, I do not expect a thank you since that is usually the last thing you want to do after losing a loved one. You might just thank them in person when you see them and save yourself the trouble.
Reply:The people that sent you the cards obviously took the time to send the cards, there for you need to take the time to thank them for their sympathy in your time of need.

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How can I show my sympathy to a co-worker who lost both of her elderly parents in the last 2 weeks?

2009-04-11T22:00:00.000-07:00

She is Jewish. Are there traditional ways to express sympathy? I was thinking of sending flowers.

How can I show my sympathy to a co-worker who lost both of her elderly parents in the last 2 weeks?
Skip the flowers. Usually a donation is made to the synagogue or a charity they support. If they are still sitting Shiva, send food. Shiva can be long and intense, so having an ear to listen may be the best gift you can offer your coworker.
Reply:Thank you. You are the type coworker that make the workplace a friendlier place. Report It

Reply:You both are nice. God bless. Report It

Reply:I agree with the other two comments. You all seem like wonderful people and I hope that when I am going through difficult times, I will have people like you surrounding me at work! Report It

Reply:just send her a sympathy card. maybe offer to take her for dinner because she probably isnt up for eating much these days.
Reply:Flowers are nice and a card e.g.%26quot;My thoughts are with you at this time. Please call if there%26#039;s anything I can do%26quot; and give your phone no. Ask her how she is managing. Listen to her grief and memories, acknowledge her pain. If she is not embarrassed by a hug; give her a hug when you see her. Be nicer to her as it takes a fair while to grieve. Make her a coffee at work when you make your own. Buy her a treat or bring in a cake etc. now and again. Warm her with your care.
Reply:I think the kind thing to do would be to send flowers and a nice card, maby even home made. You can also offer to help her in any way you can, a helping hand is always nice.
Reply:Just try to be with her as often as time permits you that all the rest nature would take care.
Reply:Be of any help to here to gather her shattered life. If she is not already returned to duty, encourage her to do so, instead of sitting at home depressed over this stroke of destiny. Colleagues were a great help when we lost our young son and me and my wife were taken aback by the shock.
Reply:I think flowers would be very nice - or a nice sympathy card, just so she knows you care.
Reply:While I%26#039;m not Jewish, I have lost a parent. I found that the best thing was having people say %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry for your loss%26quot; and then treating me normally. Some co-workers avoided me all together. I know it was because they were uncomfortable and didn%26#039;t know what to say, but that just made me feel worse.
Reply:Instead of sending her flowers, have flowers (or a plant, tea and cookies, etc.) with a card waiting for her when she returns to work. After dealing with any kind of loss, that first day back on the job is always so difficult. Coming in and finding a small gift on your desk, and realizing that someone is still thinking of you is a nice way to return to the daily grind of life.
Reply:Just say you are sorry for her loss and that you extend your condolence.
Reply:show her that you are there for her, and if she ever wants to talk or anything, let her know that you are there for her. Take her out for lunch or something, give her flowers, a card, basically anything that shows that you are thinking of her during these hard times.
Reply:well there is some kind of food that jewish people eat called %26quot;Latka%26#039;s%26quot; you can buy the stuff in a box and it will tell you how to make them, and jewish people die for latkas!!! So try making latkas for her and maybe cheer her up with a jewish party!!!

Best of luck! -Heaven
Reply:Flowers would be nice to me, although i am not jewish. Don%26#039;t say anything about Jesus. Just tell her how sorry you feel and give her flowers. Hope this helps

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Is it proper etiquette to send people thank you cards after they send you a sympathy card?

2009-04-11T21:59:00.002-07:00

My Dad just passed away at the beginning of September unexpectantly and I was wondering if it is proper etiquette to send the people that just sent a sympathy card with no money, flowers or visit a thank you card afterwards? Or do you just send a card to those that may have sent money, flowers, provided food, or came to the Memorial Service(don%26#039;t know all the addresses of the people that attended.) Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

Is it proper etiquette to send people thank you cards after they send you a sympathy card?
I am sorry to hear of your loss. It would be appropriate to send thank you notes to everyone that sent cards, money, flowers, food etc. if you have their addresses. However, you can also place an expression of thanks in your local paper. God Bless You!
Reply:I am so sorry about your father! Of course you can send out Thank You cards. Any time you are thankful for any thing for any occasion it would be appropriate to send them out. I was taught to always send them for everything. As for the addresses ,you will probably run into a problem ,unless you can connect them to people you know how to contact to retrieve their address. Good luck and again I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:I think not.
Reply:No thank you is required unless there was a monetary gift, food gift or service gift. If you would so be inclined you can put a general note in the newspaper for a thank you for all the prayers and thoughts. The newspaper would help you with this. However, this is only if you desire. Depends on how big of an area you live in,etc.
Reply:When people have sent a note or letter of sympathy, visited the funeral home, attended the funeral or memorial services, sent a gift, or otherwise made a formal gesture of sympathy it is gracious to acknowledge that gesture with a short note. It is not necessary for you to personally write all those notes. Now is the time to call on all those people who have been asking what they can do to help. Set them to work writing these letters on your behalf, like

Dear Mr. %26amp; Mrs. Smith,

Elena and the rest of the family asked me to tell you how much they appreciate the lovely flowers. Your sympathy means a great deal to them at this difficult time.

Yours truly,

Christina Martinez

(These helpful people can also do the research of finding addresses. If no address can be found and all that%26#039;s available is a phone number, have someone make the phone call on your behalf. You are not expected to handle such a painful duty personally.)
Reply:Yes, it is a courteous thing to do.
Reply:A lot of folks put a small add in the paper thanking everyone that sent sympathies , flower%26#039;s , food , and money. At the time of the bereavement. You have a lot on your mind, and I doubt that people will be expecting a personal thank you.
Reply:i don%26#039;t think you should send a thank you card to thank people for a sympathy card. just accept the sympathy. i think if you should send a thank you card in response to a sympathy card, then they should send a thank you card for the thank you card. in other words, it%26#039;s not necessary
Reply:Yes....they have taken the time to reach out to you in your time of mourning, so the very least you can do is acknowledge their concern for you and yours in your time of loss
Reply:You definitely send a thank you card to everyone who helped you, gave a gift of money or flowers but not to those who only sent a card or attended the Memorial service.

(did you get a sign-in book from the funeral home? Most directors will place one in the room for mourners to sign and leave their addresses for the family).

If there were only a very few people who came to the service and you know them, it%26#039;s a mark of good breeding to thank them with a card, regardless, and wouldn%26#039;t require a great effort to do so.

Please accept my condolences on the death of your father.
Reply:It is proper...usually the funeral home provides small cards for you to address. Do the best you can finding the addresses you need. Sorry about your loss...it%26#039;s a hard thing to go through.
Reply:Always. You should thank people for their thoughtfulness. A delay of up to 30 days is understandable when you have lost someone. You don%26#039;t have to get these out right after the funeral.
Reply:It is NOT improper, but neither is it necessary. Card senders want to let you know they are thinking of you, and they do not expect any response. I should think that most of them would feel bad that their sympathy card generated more of a load for you during your time of grief. I would reserve my written cards of thanks for those who sent food, flowers, and memorial gifts. Those things need to be acknowledged.

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I want to know if I have to send a thank you card to people who just send a sympathy card?

2009-04-11T21:59:00.001-07:00

I have received a lot of sympathy cards and no flowers or monetary donations and would like to know if I send those people a thank you card or do I not need to respond to those?

I want to know if I have to send a thank you card to people who just send a sympathy card?
you do not have to send a thank you except if they send flowers or a donation, then a thank you card would be acceptable..if you see the ones that send you a card it is ok to mention it and say thank you ..........
Reply:might be a good idea to send a thank you card, but i don%26#039;t think it is mandatory.
Reply:No I don%26#039;t think people except a Thank you card when they sent only a sympathy card, if it had money yes but not just a card, they understand.
Reply:People do not send a thank you card for sympathy cards.

Generally as a rule the people sending sympathy cards are the ones who were not able to make it to the funeral home or to the funeral.
Reply:well if you got donations then yes you should thank them. not for just cards and flowers.
Reply:No. No thank you cards to cards.
Reply:thanks for posting this question - we were just discussing this as my father in law just died and we all had a difference of opinion. I thought we should, but everyone else said no.

I guess it%26#039;s up to you. Whenever I have received one, it was unexpected, but the gesture was appreciated that they took the time and expense to acknowledge it in the midst of their grief.

But judging by the answers posted here, it seems unrequired.
Reply:No, you need not respond to them.
Reply:No, it isn%26#039;t necessary unless the card contained a gift of money.

In fact the same goes for any card. Just thank them the next time you see them
Reply:Not necessary .
Reply:A thank you note is a symbol of someone%26#039;s actions (or even words, sometimes) being appreciated. Did you appreciate the fact that people took the time to send you sympathy cards? Did you think it was a kind gesture? If yes, then send the card! I%26#039;m sure they would be touched by it, and it might make you feel good.

Rant: Sorry, but I am sick to death of people saying you don%26#039;t have to do things just because no one %26quot;expects%26quot; you to. No one expects you to do ANYTHING these days, especially if it threatens to put you out of your way in the tiniest bit.
Reply:I dont think people who send sympathy cards expect a thank you. I know I dont. Maybe if you should see them in person, you can say %26quot;thanks for the card%26quot;.
Reply:I am a funeral director. No, do not send a thank you card for a sympathy card but YES, do send a thank you card for monetary donations earmarked in memory of someone.
Reply:The sooner the better!

and say you Love them too!

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Reply:Nah, save the tree.
Reply:I think you would only need to do so if there was mention of a donation in memory of.. or a check in it.
Reply:Its not usually the done thing to reply to a sympathy card
Reply:Hey, I don%26#039;t think there%26#039;s a need to. If you wanna thank them though, a phonecall is fine too.

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What kind of flowers should I get?

2009-04-11T21:59:00.000-07:00

A friend of mine has just lost her mother. She lives out of state and I wanted to have some flowers delivered to her. I%26#039;ve read somewhere that Lilies were a good %26quot;sympathy flower,%26quot; does anyone have any other suggestions? Thank you!

What kind of flowers should I get?
Lilies and roses are common funeral flowers. Don%26#039;t necessarily limit yourself to those though,other cheery flowers may also be nice for your friend. Roses, though they are my personal favorite, are a bit pricey, so lillies are probably a good bet.
Reply:Gerber Daisies - not a funeral flower, but a cheery variety that come in different colors and lasts more than few days
Reply:Start here maybe you can find something nice.
Reply:Lillies are good and common. So are carnations. I would just go to a site like 1800flowers.com and find something nice in the price range I was looking for. Plants or food baskets are good, too.

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Sympathy flower arrangements?

2009-04-11T21:58:00.003-07:00

a friend of mine just lost her son and we are going to the wake tommorow....he was creamated...i am sending flowers to the church and i was wondering who i am supposed to address it to...do i put his name on the delivery or the mothers....also i decided on red and white carnations on a stand...do you think there better in a pot?

Sympathy flower arrangements?
I would put to the family of...and his name. But as for flowers or potted flowers, I%26#039;d recommend a dish garden. Its all live green plants. Some florists put cuts mums in it to give it color and usually bow. I like this better than the cut floral arrangement for sympathy because the dish garden will live on and on just like you want the departed%26#039;s memory to live on and on. But if you have your heart set on red and white carnations, I dont think thats a bad idea either. Good luck with the decision and please tell your friend sorry for her loss.
Reply:As a florist I recommend writing his name on the card and then c/o or care of and then his mother%26#039;s name. That way the funeral home get%26#039;s it to the correct wake. Oh and on the pot, just a tip if the florist where to add water to the pot to keep the flowers longer the funeral home would probably pour it out. Most don%26#039;t like the water to spill on the carpet.
Reply:Having been on the receiving end of this, the flowers are all beautiful. But the live plants live on and they are wonderful remembrances. But to answer your question, on a stand with the carnations and you put the mother%26#039;s name on the delivery.
Reply:You can either put his name or %26quot;To the family of [his name]%26quot; or to his mother. All will be appreciated. When my son died suddenly, we received flowers and cards all ways. What will matter to her is that you remembered.

As to stand or pot, either will be just fine. The florist will put those on a stand in oasis so they will stay fresh.

Please be sure to remember her later as well, and let her talk about her son (don%26#039;t avoid his name). Every time someone tells her a story about him or lets her talk about him, it gives her back a piece of him. If you want to email me privately, I%26#039;ll send you my son%26#039;s web page address and you can look at some of the things his friends said about him. Those young people will never know how very much their comments and stories helped me.

One more thing, please give her a hug from one mother who lost her son to another who lost her son. Please assure her that even though it will always hurt, she will learn to live around the pain and have a full life again, not now, not tomorrow, but it will happen, piece by piece.

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Im sending flowers, i need ideas for what to write in the card, Its a Sympathy card?

2009-04-11T21:58:00.002-07:00

My bfs half brother died today and i want to send his mother flowers but im unsure what to write in the card. We arent close, barely talk cos im shy.

Any ideas?

Im sending flowers, i need ideas for what to write in the card, Its a Sympathy card?
You don%26#039;t have to say much. Any family that has experienced loss knows that it is hard to know what to say. Here is a suggestion:

Dear Mrs. ........(fill in the blank)

I am so sorry for your family%26#039;s loss. You are in our hearts and prayers during this difficult time.

Most Sincerely,

your name.

Here is a website with some additional good suggestions:

http://www.sadly-missed.com/resources/ex...

Don%26#039;t be too shy to send a card or flowers, that would be a lovely thing to do.

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What kind of sympathy arrangement to send for a female coworker? What type of flowers should I send?

2009-04-11T21:58:00.001-07:00

Please send me real answers. These flowers aren%26#039;t for the funeral, they are going to the mother of the deceased!

What kind of sympathy arrangement to send for a female coworker? What type of flowers should I send?
Personally, I prefer to send a small green plant versus an arrangement of flowers. The plant will last longer, and can be kept in a spot where the recipient will see it.

Talking to a florist can help - there are some lovely plants out there, and they can add one or two cut flowers for some color, if you like.
Reply:I would send something cheery and small. Like a %26quot;thinking of you%26quot; or %26quot;condolences%26quot; arrangement. Call FTD flowers, proflowers (online), etc. and see what they have. Stick within your budget and don%26#039;t forget to send your sincerest condolences on the card.
Reply:Try 1-800 flowers...www.1800flowers.com....you will see a section for condolences. Try a nice plant that will last so much longer than flowers...or go for a nice basket of daises.
Reply:It is proper and elegant that sympathy flowers are white and green. White lillies for example.

They can be red and white also, but more for funerals.
Reply:A simple vase of yellow roses is thoughtful....see the arrangement at this link:

http://www.monroecountyflowers.com/catal...
Reply:A plant that will not die in a pretty container...
Reply:If the person is a co-worker( not necessarily friend)Send a

mixed planter(a container holding a variety of tropical and flowering plants) It makes a nice living remembrance.

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What flowers should i bring to the family of teh deceased, out of sympathy?

2009-04-11T21:58:00.000-07:00

I dont mean flowers to bring to the funeral. i mean just flowers to give as a courtesy to the daughter of the deceased.

What flowers should i bring to the family of teh deceased, out of sympathy?
Tasteful--nothing too bright and cheery; but nothing all black and goth either!

Both main floral Web sites--FTD.com and 1800flowers.com have sympathy sections. Check those out to get ideas, or simply order from one of them. You don%26#039;t have to personally hand the family flowers; you can send them.

You are kind to think of your friend at this time in her life.
Reply:Any kind that smell good! Carnations, roses, bouquet of mixed spring flowers.
Reply:something light and airy. very springlike.pinks,white,yellows. so many think red is the color to use when there is a death. for me, that just makes me think more about the death itself. put some color and life into their day. it will help them to smile and, who doesn%26#039;t want that?
Reply:Don%26#039;t bring flowers.
Reply:i attended a funeral a few months ago and faced with a similar problem and called the funeral home on proper etiquite. i cant fully recall but i think some sort of white orchid. my condolences to the deceased. good luck
Reply:A nice bouquet in a vase with a hand written note expressing sympathy is what i do. Nice simple flowers in a simple arrangement.

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Which flowers are considered a bad omen when given in sympathy?

2009-04-11T21:57:00.003-07:00

I remember hearing that you shouldn%26#039;t give someone in hospital red and white flowers on account of it being a bad omen ..

I also remember someone telling me that there are rules regarding funerals/deaths, it was something that you should avoid putting on the coffin or a certain colour you should avoid as it will show the face of the next person to die . Or something along those lines!

Anyone shed any light??

Which flowers are considered a bad omen when given in sympathy?
Red and white flowers given to anyone represents %26#039;blood and bandages%26#039;. This originated from the first World War. Anyone wanting to buy red and white flowers as a gift, should always make sure there is another coloured flower with them and this breaks the omen.
Reply:The reason? for not mixing or giving red and white flowers is the %26quot;blood and bandages%26quot; idea.

White or mauve flowers on a coffin,only.Why I don%26#039;t know.
Reply:Never give lillies to the sick, and never put irises on a coffin
Reply:lillies are for funerals
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Reply:It is not a question of omens as these are just nonsense it is a question of good or bad taste.
Reply:Black Orchids are a bad omen!
Reply:All flowers are meant to be admired, not given a category. Whoever came up with the idea for a flower for this and a flower for that, must have been a florist. Great business to be in when memorials are due.
Reply:roses
Reply:Lilies are traditional for funerals because they signify purity and break negative influences.

Peonies were once thought appropriate for similar reasons. In gerneral certain flowers are associated with purity and others are linked to fairy magic occult purposes, etc. You would not present a flower that was linked with the later because it would be thought bad luck for the soul of the deceased and in turn his family.

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Good sympathy gift? I dont want to send flowers.?

2009-04-11T21:57:00.002-07:00

a good friend of mine (27), his father passed unexpectedly... thoughtful gift to send, other than flowers??

Good sympathy gift? I dont want to send flowers.?
Unique art gift is the best present.

There is a web site –photoartomation.com ( http://www.photoartomation.com ), they convert a digital photos into paintings of different art styles and print them on canvas.

My friend sent them a picture and they turned it into beautiful piece of art. I saw it and it really looks good.
Reply:Beautiful!

Canvas http://www.photoartomation.com did a beautiful from my digital photo! Much better than I expected... Thanks Report It

Reply:I recommend www.photoartomation.com . I used this company and was enjoyed the quality and exquisite masterpiece of artwork from them. Report It

Reply:I got the order, from http://www.photoartomation.com... It is very nice. I am giving it to my step-daughter for Mother%26#039;s Day! Report It

Reply:Oh, my ma and I got an edible bouquet of flowers for our friend who%26#039;s mother passed away. It%26#039;s like, made of fruit and stuff
Reply:It is traditional to send flowers but another thing that is also common is to take over a meal for the family. Make sure it is something easy to serve and clean up so they won%26#039;t have alot of work to do to prepare. Also make sure you know of any allergies in advance an take those into consideration. Another thing would be a card or not letting them you know you care.
Reply:Another idea is to send a food basket of some kind to the family at the funeral home. That is very common because the immediate family members spend alot of time there without much of a chance to eat. Baskets from bakeries and such are very common.

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What to write on the sympathy card that is with the flowers?

2009-04-11T21:57:00.001-07:00

I currently work for a nursing home and one of my residents that I was very close to had just recently passed away, I had spent some time and got to know her children during her last few days.......I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on what to tell the florist to write on the card that they send with the flowers??

What to write on the sympathy card that is with the flowers?
The card which goes with the flowers should only bear the name(s) of the senders, or the name of the group of senders. Let the small card itself make your sentiment known.

On a different card, sent to the spouse or oldest child of the deseased, indicate your relationship to the deceased, as well as the true emotions and empathy for the grief all of you are experiencing. Be genuine about your sorrow, and your loss, while identifying that they are experiencing sorrow and loss too.

You might offer an insightful anecdote, a story about something which happened during your care of the deceased, one which would bring to them good memories of deceased.

If you have additional questions, please feel free to write me at...
Reply:I agree with what the first person said, however as someone who lost my father, my brother and my mother all within 8 months%26#039; time, I can tell you how it feels to be the relative of the person who died. Not only have I also worked in a nursing home, but my father died in one. It meant so much to my family to receive a card of sympathy from the people who helped care for my Dad. The nursing home he was in did not include the small note card that usually accompanies flowers. They took the time to write out a heartfelt card, much like the first person who answered suggested. They then had the florist deliver the flowers with the card they picked out. It was heartfelt, sincere, and it meant so much to me and my family, to see such kind and touching words expressed to us about the man we loved and cared about so very much.

Bless you for caring so much to want to do this right. You have a lot of compassion. You are in the right career field.

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Which are the best flowers to show sympathy?

2009-04-11T21:57:00.000-07:00

Do you think the yellow roses?

Which are the best flowers to show sympathy?
lillys
Reply:One arrangement with pink carnations, yellow and lavender daisies, and yellow gladioli, along with a pink ribbon Report It

Reply:I would say orchids or calla lilies. (Did I spell that right?)
Reply:Yea, yellow roses would be ok.
Reply:I think %26quot;Lillys%26quot;
Reply:Multi-colored tulips with an orchid in the center.
Reply:I just went to 3 different websites for what color roses should be given for sympathy and they all said light pink?
Reply:Roses and lilies.

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Loss of loved ones?? Sympathy gifts, flowers, care packages...?

2009-04-11T21:56:00.000-07:00

My son%26#039;s great-grandfather (his daddy%26#039;s grandpa) just passed away. My son%26#039;s dad and I get along wonderfully, and we love each other. He was extremely close to his grandfather (he was raised by his grandparents), and my son had been around him a little. The issue I%26#039;m having is that I live in the South and he (son%26#039;s dad) and his family live up North(and most of the family, namely his sister, can%26#039;t stand me). I don%26#039;t know what%26#039;s appropriate to send. I really don%26#039;t want to offend anyone or make things worse, when things are already not going well. Should I (and my family) send flowers, a care package (food, gift certificates, plates, utensils...), sympathy gift...??????? Does anyone have any ideas or help here?????? It would be greatly appreciated!

Loss of loved ones?? Sympathy gifts, flowers, care packages...?
When my grandfather died, the thing that I really wanted was not so much a gift, but more of a sentimental heartfelt token of sympathy. Flowers are nice, but they too die. My best friend sent me a letter that she had written in by hand. For me this showed that she loved me enough to take time her busy schedule and tell me that she was there for me.

I think that a letter or card, if worded right is enough. You don%26#039;t need anything else.

My condolences for your families loss.
Reply:I think just a sympathy card would be fine.
Reply:Send a live sympathy plant to the funeral home. Sign it from you and your son, to your sons father and his family. It is something that your sons father can take home with him after. Peace Lilly%26#039;s are always nice. If the funeral has already happened, then a fruit basket with a card.
Reply:Flowers would be nice, or a card. With family gathering around food is a big help. One of their local supermarkets probably has a delivery service for sandwich trays, veggie trays, etc. You still care about your son%26#039;s dad and it is his loss, so do send something. Even if they don%26#039;t really like you, it is the right thing to do. Could give them a better opinion of you, but mostly it is the right thing to do.

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