My girlfriend and her families good faimly friend recently had a death in the family. You may have seen it on the news. The Zahornacky man who was found in a lake this morning. I am leaving work early to go over there and was wondering the following.
Is it ok to bring flowers so soon? If so what kind?
Is there something else I could bring?
What to bring for sympathy (death)?
White lillies.
Reply:Flowers are usually something sent to a funeral. Most people bring food, a few good ideas are basket of muffins, breads, etc, or meat tray, veggie tray, something for them to have when people come over, and it is also something for them to eat, because naturally people forget to each when they are grieving and really have no time to cook with all the preparations that need to be made. It is always been helpful when I have had a death in the family and people have brought over food.
Reply:i would bring food they`re not going to feel like cooking
Reply:I think your being there for support is the most important thing you can bring at this time. There are so many things going on during a tragedy for a family, that having someone there for them is so important. You really don%26#039;t have to bring anything, when you arrive, just ask if there is anything that they would like for you to do, or anything that they need. You are a good friend and I think just being that is the most important.
Reply:Yeah, flowers are great, just don%26#039;t pick up anything really cheap just because you are in a hurry. Homemade food is usually appreciated - something you can just heat up like a casserole, because nobody feels like cooking.
Reply:Well, there are all kinds of cultural traditions...
is this family liekly to have a gathering at their house? Even if you don%26#039;t go, some kind of prepared food might make thier lives and finances just a bit easier. I personally would appreciate that a whole lot more than flowers (especially bc they make me sneeze.)
Also, I don%26#039;t know the situation, but if this has the media involved, might there be a related charity? Might a fund be set up for the family?
That would be the best of all.
May each of you, including the supporters, have all the support you need!
But if not,
Hey, help out with the food.
Reply:Its fine to bring flowers, if you ask the florist they will tell you what kind is appropriate. just bring your sympathy.
Reply:White lilies sign of sorrow and peace.
donate to their fav. charity.
Reply:In the South we bring food because it%26#039;s the last thing the grieving family is thinking about. I%26#039;ve picked up fried chicken, a pie, made sandwiches... that sort of thing. The time to send flowers is to the funeral home before the viewimg of the body.
Reply:Flowers are ok, but you might want to wait for the funeral. Bring food and a sympathy card.
Reply:flowers would be ok. food is also something you usually can%26#039;t go wrong with.
Reply:Respect for their sorrow and discipline to say the right thing...that%26#039;s really all you need to have with you. If you are going around meal time perhaps pick up a meat and cheese tray from a local market...just in case anyone has skipped eating or simply doesn%26#039;t want to go thru the trouble of preparing a meal...or seeming selfish for being hungry.
Reply:white lilys, no its not too soon!
Reply:I am sorry to hear about your loss.
As strange as this may sound, bring a dinner. Something they can just throw in the oven and not worry about. The last thing they are going to want to do is cook something. So this way at least you know they are going to eat, in this time of sorrow
Reply:I can tell you, as someone who has been in mourning, that food that has been prepared and only needs reheating is a nice thing.
When you%26#039;re grieving, the last thing you want to do is cook dinner.
Reply:Right now, just go and offer support to the family. You do not need to take anything with you.
Reply:flowers would be nice, or people always bring food.
just a suggestion.
Reply:White lilies would be good.
Reply:just being there and having a shoulder to cry on good enough sometimes we feel like we need to bring something but having a friend there at a sad time is good so they would know who to turn to when they need to talk
Reply:It%26#039;s traditional to bring food to a mourning family, so that they don%26#039;t have to prepare meals for all their visitors. There is a great cookbook out there called %26quot;Being Dead is No Excuse%26quot; that has recipes for all the traditional mourning foods from the South.
Reply:Bring something for the family to eat. There will be many people stopping by and there should be little finger foods, water, and soda for he host family and the guest to eat. If you bring a flower let it be a plant, if they have plants. Perhaps a fruit basket will do the job woth out over doing it
Reply:flowers are good... though my assumption would be that they have plenty... Consider making food or purchasing some food... Cookies tend to go over nicely as do brownies... Offer to make/bring dinner for the family one night as I%26#039;d assume this is going to be rather drawn out and the last thing they care about right now is making food... Also in the long run, a small donation to a charity in honor of the man who passed away is probably the most heart-felt.
Reply:What a sad story.
I would get a sympathy arrangement sent to the home.
Maybe not today but tomorrow.
I sure hope they find out what happened.
Reply:Any flowers are appropiate, or food such as a simple casserole or lasagna, the last thing people want to do is cook when they are grieving and food is comforting.
Reply:From experience:
Go over there and show your support. Be yourself. Don%26#039;t avoid talking about the decease, since that is all the people that are grieving are thinking about. Most people avoid even saying their name, say it often.
Remember that there is no one way to grieve and the family members will grieve differently.
In the next few days bring food. Remind them of a past story of the decease, talk often about them.
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Saturday, April 11, 2009
$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
Rather than flowers, or donations to a charity?
Would this be %26#039;proper%26#039;? or an insult?
Seems that everyone can use cash, to help pay final expenses. . .
$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
A gift card would be less blantant than cash. And one to the supermarket is pretty much a cash equivilant - everyone shops there every week.
I suppose you could contact the funeral home directly and ask to make an annonymous donation. I would take that kindly. I was struck and touched that the FH didn%26#039;t charge us (their policy for the death of young children).
Don%26#039;t discount the donations to charities, especially if one was selected by the family. I found those to be very meaningful to me.
While this is more of a small town thing, you can still do it in the big city: You can bring over a meal (lasagna, salad, bread) in throwaway containers with enough for leftovers. During grief, it can be a relief to have simple things like that (or mow the lawn, board the dog, etc) taken care of.
Also, strongly consider something like bringing a meal over, having them out to dinner or sending a card that you are thinking of them a few months from now. Everyone is really kind and thoughtful for a week or two and then, reasonably enough, they move on and figure the relatives have too. But months later, they are still impaired and (at a lower level) griefing. But no one acknowledges that anymore and they can be hesitate to ask for help.
Don%26#039;t worry about %26quot;reminding%26quot; them of their loss. They already know! Every day, every hour. It is more comfortable to have it acknowledged than to leave it unsaid. It can be as simple as %26quot;You%26#039;re still in my thoughts (or %26quot;prayers%26quot; if you KNOW they%26#039;re religious) and wondered if you wanted to talk or go out together%26quot;. Or %26quot;I was thinking of Bob the other day and how he always used to . . .%26quot;
Reply:Depends on the situation. If a group is sending a card (most people take up money for a co-worker for example) then it is appropriate.
If the funeral announcement specificially states %26quot;in lieu of flowers%26quot; and asks for money to be made to a particular charity, than the family is not really in dire straits and would rather money be sent to that organization.
Personally, I think a nice note placed in the sympathy card with an extended invitation to get together when it is a good time for that person would be best. After the service and everyone is gone, that is when people need the company.
Reply:Yes, I agree at times of loss, or what have you, cash would be appreciated., however I think it would be taken badly in most cases.
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Would this be %26#039;proper%26#039;? or an insult?
Seems that everyone can use cash, to help pay final expenses. . .
$$$ Gifts. . .??? ... Included in a sympathy card???...?
A gift card would be less blantant than cash. And one to the supermarket is pretty much a cash equivilant - everyone shops there every week.
I suppose you could contact the funeral home directly and ask to make an annonymous donation. I would take that kindly. I was struck and touched that the FH didn%26#039;t charge us (their policy for the death of young children).
Don%26#039;t discount the donations to charities, especially if one was selected by the family. I found those to be very meaningful to me.
While this is more of a small town thing, you can still do it in the big city: You can bring over a meal (lasagna, salad, bread) in throwaway containers with enough for leftovers. During grief, it can be a relief to have simple things like that (or mow the lawn, board the dog, etc) taken care of.
Also, strongly consider something like bringing a meal over, having them out to dinner or sending a card that you are thinking of them a few months from now. Everyone is really kind and thoughtful for a week or two and then, reasonably enough, they move on and figure the relatives have too. But months later, they are still impaired and (at a lower level) griefing. But no one acknowledges that anymore and they can be hesitate to ask for help.
Don%26#039;t worry about %26quot;reminding%26quot; them of their loss. They already know! Every day, every hour. It is more comfortable to have it acknowledged than to leave it unsaid. It can be as simple as %26quot;You%26#039;re still in my thoughts (or %26quot;prayers%26quot; if you KNOW they%26#039;re religious) and wondered if you wanted to talk or go out together%26quot;. Or %26quot;I was thinking of Bob the other day and how he always used to . . .%26quot;
Reply:Depends on the situation. If a group is sending a card (most people take up money for a co-worker for example) then it is appropriate.
If the funeral announcement specificially states %26quot;in lieu of flowers%26quot; and asks for money to be made to a particular charity, than the family is not really in dire straits and would rather money be sent to that organization.
Personally, I think a nice note placed in the sympathy card with an extended invitation to get together when it is a good time for that person would be best. After the service and everyone is gone, that is when people need the company.
Reply:Yes, I agree at times of loss, or what have you, cash would be appreciated., however I think it would be taken badly in most cases.
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Thank you for your sympathy?
My mother in law passed away this week. I am in charge of sending out thank you cards to everyone that brought food and sent flowers. I wanted to write a lil thank you note from the family. If anyone has any suggestions please let me know. Thank you
Thank you for your sympathy?
We all thank you for your warmth and sincerity in this our time of mourning. You have grieved with us and supported us, when we needed you the most. Thank you again,
The Clark Family.
Reply:Thank you for choosing my answer. I pray for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Bless and Keep You All. Report It
Reply:Just thank them for their kindness and support....I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:To whom it may concern....
We would like to say Thank you for your support in this very hard time.
With your kind gifts and words, You have made this time so much easier to bare.
From myself and the ? family we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Yours sincerely,
????
Reply:Yes .Send a thank you very much card. We Appreciate all your help ect,ect.
Reply:The best thing to do is have it printed in your local paper on the deaths page, that way you get to thank everyone %26amp; no one gets left out.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:well we had to go through the same thing when my grandfather passed, I say you write them all a note and have it saying, we the family thankyou for all of your hospitality love and support you have provided for our family in our time of need!...oh and I am so sorry about your mother I pray you and the family stay strong
Reply:ACKNOWLEDGMENTS...
The family should acknowledge the flowers and messages sent by relatives and friends. When food and personal services are donated, these thoughtful acts also should be acknowledged, as should the services of the pallbearers. The funeral director may have available printed acknowledgement cards that can be used by the family. When the sender is well known to the family, a short personal note should be written on the acknowledgment card expressing appreciation for a contribution or personal service received. The note can be short, such as:
%26quot;Thank you for the beautiful roses. The arrangement was lovely.
%26quot;The food you sent was so enjoyed by our family. Your kindness is deeply appreciated.%26quot;
In some communities it is a practice to insert a public thank you in the newspaper. The funeral director can assist you with this.
Reply:keep it simple and say something like Thank you for your generosity in our time of sorrow. Your thoughtfulness touched us deeply in our time of need/sorrow.
Reply:thank you for your kind words and prayers in our families time of need your prayers were felt by all who loved our dear departed mother. SO SORRY for your lost I lost my mom 3 years ago and this is exactally what I put in the cards we sent.
Reply:Thankyou for your sympathy in our time of sorrow.
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for your loss. I think a short, heartfelt note thanking them for their thoughtfulness would be great.
Reply:Something simple like...
Our family thanks you for your love and support during our time of pain and loss. We appreciate your kindness and friendship.
Reply:sorry for the loss.
Reply:Since you%26#039;ll have to write many cards, I would say keep it short. Something like, %26quot;Your thoughtfulness is deeply appreciated at this very difficult time for our family.%26quot; Then, if you know specifically what the person did, like, sent flowers, mention that they were beautiful. Just a mention to show that you know in what way the person was helpful or supportive.
Reply:Our family wish to thank all of you for your tenderness and love you shown us doing our lost. The love you have express have deeply touch and move us in our heart, and including the many prayers you have all gave our family. We ask that you%26#039;ll continue to keep us in your prayer. Thank you and God Bless.
* I hope this helps, and personally I%26#039;m so sorry of the passing of your Mother in law. You are in my prayers.
God Bless
Reply:i know what it is like to have your mother pass on.sorry for your loss.
Reply:%26quot;Thank you for you kind thoughts and prayers.%26quot; I used this when my mom passed away. You can personalize the ones you feel you should.
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Thank you for your sympathy?
We all thank you for your warmth and sincerity in this our time of mourning. You have grieved with us and supported us, when we needed you the most. Thank you again,
The Clark Family.
Reply:Thank you for choosing my answer. I pray for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Bless and Keep You All. Report It
Reply:Just thank them for their kindness and support....I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:To whom it may concern....
We would like to say Thank you for your support in this very hard time.
With your kind gifts and words, You have made this time so much easier to bare.
From myself and the ? family we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Yours sincerely,
????
Reply:Yes .Send a thank you very much card. We Appreciate all your help ect,ect.
Reply:The best thing to do is have it printed in your local paper on the deaths page, that way you get to thank everyone %26amp; no one gets left out.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:well we had to go through the same thing when my grandfather passed, I say you write them all a note and have it saying, we the family thankyou for all of your hospitality love and support you have provided for our family in our time of need!...oh and I am so sorry about your mother I pray you and the family stay strong
Reply:ACKNOWLEDGMENTS...
The family should acknowledge the flowers and messages sent by relatives and friends. When food and personal services are donated, these thoughtful acts also should be acknowledged, as should the services of the pallbearers. The funeral director may have available printed acknowledgement cards that can be used by the family. When the sender is well known to the family, a short personal note should be written on the acknowledgment card expressing appreciation for a contribution or personal service received. The note can be short, such as:
%26quot;Thank you for the beautiful roses. The arrangement was lovely.
%26quot;The food you sent was so enjoyed by our family. Your kindness is deeply appreciated.%26quot;
In some communities it is a practice to insert a public thank you in the newspaper. The funeral director can assist you with this.
Reply:keep it simple and say something like Thank you for your generosity in our time of sorrow. Your thoughtfulness touched us deeply in our time of need/sorrow.
Reply:thank you for your kind words and prayers in our families time of need your prayers were felt by all who loved our dear departed mother. SO SORRY for your lost I lost my mom 3 years ago and this is exactally what I put in the cards we sent.
Reply:Thankyou for your sympathy in our time of sorrow.
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for your loss. I think a short, heartfelt note thanking them for their thoughtfulness would be great.
Reply:Something simple like...
Our family thanks you for your love and support during our time of pain and loss. We appreciate your kindness and friendship.
Reply:sorry for the loss.
Reply:Since you%26#039;ll have to write many cards, I would say keep it short. Something like, %26quot;Your thoughtfulness is deeply appreciated at this very difficult time for our family.%26quot; Then, if you know specifically what the person did, like, sent flowers, mention that they were beautiful. Just a mention to show that you know in what way the person was helpful or supportive.
Reply:Our family wish to thank all of you for your tenderness and love you shown us doing our lost. The love you have express have deeply touch and move us in our heart, and including the many prayers you have all gave our family. We ask that you%26#039;ll continue to keep us in your prayer. Thank you and God Bless.
* I hope this helps, and personally I%26#039;m so sorry of the passing of your Mother in law. You are in my prayers.
God Bless
Reply:i know what it is like to have your mother pass on.sorry for your loss.
Reply:%26quot;Thank you for you kind thoughts and prayers.%26quot; I used this when my mom passed away. You can personalize the ones you feel you should.
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Flowers for miscarriage?
Im thinking if it was me, Id like the gesture, but not sure Id want to look at them, then have to throw them out. I spose it would be the same for a funeral.
I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white? FTD shows some bright colorful bouquets in the sympathy section, which confuses me. Another friend said maybe a plant, but cant decide if that is more of a reminder vs a remembrance. Any thoughts?
Flowers for miscarriage?
It depends on the person. Maybe take a card and a meal and just let her know you are there if she needs something. But don%26#039;t be pushy I lost a baby early in the pregnancy and my mother-in-law said you need to get out of the house she took me to walmart to walk around ,which I really just wanted to be left alone. But I passed a lot of gross stuff while there and had to go back home and change cloth%26#039;s. Something in remembrance would be nice but if she can%26#039;t take care of plants, live flowers could upset her more if it dies.
Reply:I dont think the color of the flower indicates that it is a sympathy bouquet or not. . . a simple spring mix would be fine. . . a handwritten note inside a card would be anice gesture.
I think its the thought that coutns and its very nice of you to do something kind. :-)
Reply:I think flowers would be a very nice idea. Not too many colors though - too cheery during a bad time.
Maybe get her a little pine tree or a bush of some kind that she can plant and keep. Not as a reminder of the pain and sadness but of the strength to get through this and for future children.
Reply:I would make her a really good meal and take it to her. That way you can give her a hug and tell her that you%26#039;re thinking about her.
Reply:I HATED the arrangement my wife received after her (our) miscarriage. Couldn%26#039;t stand to look at it. Maybe take her out to dinner and let her air out what see wants to. BTW, happy to say my wife (three years later) is 18 weeks into a very healthy pregnancy!
Reply:It depends on your friends%26#039; view of the world. She may see a gift as a form of rememberence and have to %26quot;throw it away%26quot;, she also, could view it as a positive source of rememberence.
I would consider giving her something more everlasting as a commemoration of her lost child. If you have some money I would consider a nice pendant she can wear. Explain to her that you are not trying to give her a keep-sake, necessarily, of a difficult time in her life, but that it is your way of giving her the opportunity to remember this time in her life and focus on all of the wonderful things she could have in her future vs. the negative aspects of something she couldn%26#039;t control.
That, and maybe a single WHITE rose. I wouldn%26#039;t go with color.
Reply:You can send flowers, or a flowering bush. A tree or something she can plant in memorial of the baby lost is always a kind gesture. She is looking for love and support now, and I doubt that she will be upset that you%26#039;re trying to help. You%26#039;re a good friend!
Reply:I think the tree or plant is good as a rememberance. Flowers are also appropriate. I dont think your friend will care what it is, just the fact that you are thinking of her is will make it easier. Also I wouldn%26#039;t go with white- too bland- go with something that has color - give her something that screams with NEW LIFE.
Reply:I hated any sort of arrangements that were sent to me after I miscarried after four months. I threw them all out because I didn%26#039;t want any sort of reminder. It was hard enough to deal with the sympathy that everyone was trying to give, that I just needed sometome alone. I did appreciate the meals that were made and brought over. I also had a child who was a year, so anytime that someone wanted to spend time with her was great too.
I wouldn%26#039;t go for the flower idea, it is really to hard to forget. Maybe stick to dinner, a little bit of house work if she is really distraught. Take her for walks, get her out of the house, doing something. Get her to talk about it too. The more she talks about it, hopefully the better she will start feeling.
Reply:Sure - send flowers. They die soon anyways.
You get flowers for sympathy - perfect time to send them. I would think it very nice and appreciate it if someone did that for me during that time.
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I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white? FTD shows some bright colorful bouquets in the sympathy section, which confuses me. Another friend said maybe a plant, but cant decide if that is more of a reminder vs a remembrance. Any thoughts?
Flowers for miscarriage?
It depends on the person. Maybe take a card and a meal and just let her know you are there if she needs something. But don%26#039;t be pushy I lost a baby early in the pregnancy and my mother-in-law said you need to get out of the house she took me to walmart to walk around ,which I really just wanted to be left alone. But I passed a lot of gross stuff while there and had to go back home and change cloth%26#039;s. Something in remembrance would be nice but if she can%26#039;t take care of plants, live flowers could upset her more if it dies.
Reply:I dont think the color of the flower indicates that it is a sympathy bouquet or not. . . a simple spring mix would be fine. . . a handwritten note inside a card would be anice gesture.
I think its the thought that coutns and its very nice of you to do something kind. :-)
Reply:I think flowers would be a very nice idea. Not too many colors though - too cheery during a bad time.
Maybe get her a little pine tree or a bush of some kind that she can plant and keep. Not as a reminder of the pain and sadness but of the strength to get through this and for future children.
Reply:I would make her a really good meal and take it to her. That way you can give her a hug and tell her that you%26#039;re thinking about her.
Reply:I HATED the arrangement my wife received after her (our) miscarriage. Couldn%26#039;t stand to look at it. Maybe take her out to dinner and let her air out what see wants to. BTW, happy to say my wife (three years later) is 18 weeks into a very healthy pregnancy!
Reply:It depends on your friends%26#039; view of the world. She may see a gift as a form of rememberence and have to %26quot;throw it away%26quot;, she also, could view it as a positive source of rememberence.
I would consider giving her something more everlasting as a commemoration of her lost child. If you have some money I would consider a nice pendant she can wear. Explain to her that you are not trying to give her a keep-sake, necessarily, of a difficult time in her life, but that it is your way of giving her the opportunity to remember this time in her life and focus on all of the wonderful things she could have in her future vs. the negative aspects of something she couldn%26#039;t control.
That, and maybe a single WHITE rose. I wouldn%26#039;t go with color.
Reply:You can send flowers, or a flowering bush. A tree or something she can plant in memorial of the baby lost is always a kind gesture. She is looking for love and support now, and I doubt that she will be upset that you%26#039;re trying to help. You%26#039;re a good friend!
Reply:I think the tree or plant is good as a rememberance. Flowers are also appropriate. I dont think your friend will care what it is, just the fact that you are thinking of her is will make it easier. Also I wouldn%26#039;t go with white- too bland- go with something that has color - give her something that screams with NEW LIFE.
Reply:I hated any sort of arrangements that were sent to me after I miscarried after four months. I threw them all out because I didn%26#039;t want any sort of reminder. It was hard enough to deal with the sympathy that everyone was trying to give, that I just needed sometome alone. I did appreciate the meals that were made and brought over. I also had a child who was a year, so anytime that someone wanted to spend time with her was great too.
I wouldn%26#039;t go for the flower idea, it is really to hard to forget. Maybe stick to dinner, a little bit of house work if she is really distraught. Take her for walks, get her out of the house, doing something. Get her to talk about it too. The more she talks about it, hopefully the better she will start feeling.
Reply:Sure - send flowers. They die soon anyways.
You get flowers for sympathy - perfect time to send them. I would think it very nice and appreciate it if someone did that for me during that time.
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What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
My step-grandmother passed away yesterday. I may have seen her 10 times in my 39 years. I really did not know her. All I really know about her is that she was a missionary and very religous. I am sending flowers and I don%26#039;t want to offend that side of the family by saying something dumb.
What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
I am very sorry for your loss. May you find peace in knowing that she helped so many people in her life. Again, my deepest condolences.
I tried writing more but it was too much. This is what I would write. I know it%26#039;s hard to think of what to say to people at a time like that. It%26#039;s the thought that counts.
loan
What is an appropriate note of sympathy to put on a sympathy card for a step grandmother you hardly know?
I am very sorry for your loss. May you find peace in knowing that she helped so many people in her life. Again, my deepest condolences.
I tried writing more but it was too much. This is what I would write. I know it%26#039;s hard to think of what to say to people at a time like that. It%26#039;s the thought that counts.
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Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
My boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband had an accident involving some sort of head trauma a few days ago. He survived, but there is damage; how extensive and how permanent is unknown yet, but it will be a long road to recovery.
My boyfriend is going down to visit this weekend. He felt it would be better to feel things out for now and then have me come down another weekend, which is fine. But I do want to send something. What can I send? A card I guess. But what else. Flowers is weird. I looked at 1800flowers and the %26quot;Get Well%26quot; gift baskets are like teas and other things and obviously directed at the sick person. The funeral stuff is like fruit and cheese and cookies. That seems oddly celebratory, but maybe that%26#039;s because funeral%26#039;s are supposed to have a dimension of honoring the person who died.
Any ideas? I am considering making a meal of some kind and sending it with my boyfriend, but I don%26#039;t really cook.
Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
I think a meal or anything that will lessen the load for them as they deal with this would be nice-
If you don%26#039;t cook you could try Omahasteaks.com they have prepared meals you can send
Reply:Make a nice pot of soup and send.
Reply:just send a nice card and do the best you can to call your boyfriend and just listen to him, let him vent.
Reply:Since you don%26#039;t cook perhaps you could send a gift card to a restaurant that is in her area. Or you could offer to help her with something that she will not have time for like grocery shop for her when you get there. You can also buy deli things from the grocery for her fridge to help when she get home from the hospital and then she won%26#039;t have to cook either. You can also order her a meal like Olive Garden with your credit card and have your boyfreind pick it up.
I think it is hard to say what to do since we don%26#039;t know how well you know her or her husband but food is a good choice.
Reply:Check out the restaurant listing for the area they are in and possibly have a nice meal prepared and delivered to them or even hire someone to come in and cook or clean or do laundry for them. Who ever the care giver is going to be is going to have their hands full and would probably appreciate any help with the day to day stuff. Plus send the card. Best wishes for you boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband and their entire family. I hope he does well.
Reply:A %26quot;Get Well Card%26quot; is the most appropriate and all that is necessary, Sign it.......................(your first and last name) and under your name write ( your boyfriend%26#039;s first name, ex: Jim%26#039;s Friend )
Reply:There are cards that say things like %26quot;My thoughts are with you%26quot;, %26quot;I%26#039;m here if you need me%26quot;, etc. Food at funerals is usually there as munchies for the guests, or real food so the bereaved don%26#039;t have to think or work beyond heating a casserole. Food is also nice for people who may be spending a lot of time visiting the hospital and traveling to and from it, or even caring for someone at home. Maybe you know someone who could cook for you in return for a favor from you? Also, most grocery stores have half-decent prepared food sections now. (Often in the deli case.) You could put togther a few things from there and send it on. It%26#039;s a very nice thought, and everyone I know would appreciate it
Reply:Something they can freeze, or high quality delivered food (pizza doesn%26#039;t count :) !)
I would think a balnk card, saying that you%26#039;re sorry to hear of the accident, and that your thoughts are with them - If you want to offer - then add something like - If you need anything, at all, don%26#039;t hesitate to call - and that you%26#039;ll see them soon.
Reply:i%26#039;d skip the card unless you find just the right saying this is a touchy situation i%26#039;d get just a blank and say something like you%26#039;re praying for his recovery and he%26#039;s in your thoughts there is nothing wrong with sending flowers or a plant BUT if he%26#039;s in ICU or CCU they won%26#039;t let him have it the food is a good idea cookies travel pretty well . if you make something how about a pot of chili they can use then or freeze.
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My boyfriend is going down to visit this weekend. He felt it would be better to feel things out for now and then have me come down another weekend, which is fine. But I do want to send something. What can I send? A card I guess. But what else. Flowers is weird. I looked at 1800flowers and the %26quot;Get Well%26quot; gift baskets are like teas and other things and obviously directed at the sick person. The funeral stuff is like fruit and cheese and cookies. That seems oddly celebratory, but maybe that%26#039;s because funeral%26#039;s are supposed to have a dimension of honoring the person who died.
Any ideas? I am considering making a meal of some kind and sending it with my boyfriend, but I don%26#039;t really cook.
Sympathy Gift...but not death-related?
I think a meal or anything that will lessen the load for them as they deal with this would be nice-
If you don%26#039;t cook you could try Omahasteaks.com they have prepared meals you can send
Reply:Make a nice pot of soup and send.
Reply:just send a nice card and do the best you can to call your boyfriend and just listen to him, let him vent.
Reply:Since you don%26#039;t cook perhaps you could send a gift card to a restaurant that is in her area. Or you could offer to help her with something that she will not have time for like grocery shop for her when you get there. You can also buy deli things from the grocery for her fridge to help when she get home from the hospital and then she won%26#039;t have to cook either. You can also order her a meal like Olive Garden with your credit card and have your boyfreind pick it up.
I think it is hard to say what to do since we don%26#039;t know how well you know her or her husband but food is a good choice.
Reply:Check out the restaurant listing for the area they are in and possibly have a nice meal prepared and delivered to them or even hire someone to come in and cook or clean or do laundry for them. Who ever the care giver is going to be is going to have their hands full and would probably appreciate any help with the day to day stuff. Plus send the card. Best wishes for you boyfriend%26#039;s sister%26#039;s husband and their entire family. I hope he does well.
Reply:A %26quot;Get Well Card%26quot; is the most appropriate and all that is necessary, Sign it.......................(your first and last name) and under your name write ( your boyfriend%26#039;s first name, ex: Jim%26#039;s Friend )
Reply:There are cards that say things like %26quot;My thoughts are with you%26quot;, %26quot;I%26#039;m here if you need me%26quot;, etc. Food at funerals is usually there as munchies for the guests, or real food so the bereaved don%26#039;t have to think or work beyond heating a casserole. Food is also nice for people who may be spending a lot of time visiting the hospital and traveling to and from it, or even caring for someone at home. Maybe you know someone who could cook for you in return for a favor from you? Also, most grocery stores have half-decent prepared food sections now. (Often in the deli case.) You could put togther a few things from there and send it on. It%26#039;s a very nice thought, and everyone I know would appreciate it
Reply:Something they can freeze, or high quality delivered food (pizza doesn%26#039;t count :) !)
I would think a balnk card, saying that you%26#039;re sorry to hear of the accident, and that your thoughts are with them - If you want to offer - then add something like - If you need anything, at all, don%26#039;t hesitate to call - and that you%26#039;ll see them soon.
Reply:i%26#039;d skip the card unless you find just the right saying this is a touchy situation i%26#039;d get just a blank and say something like you%26#039;re praying for his recovery and he%26#039;s in your thoughts there is nothing wrong with sending flowers or a plant BUT if he%26#039;s in ICU or CCU they won%26#039;t let him have it the food is a good idea cookies travel pretty well . if you make something how about a pot of chili they can use then or freeze.
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Sympathy gifts?
My friend%26#039;s daughter passed away and I%26#039;d like to do something in recognition of her. I considered flowers, but was told by a friend that in her experience as the grieving family member that you get many of those and that many were redonated or thrown out.
What would be another good idea to just show I care? I am considering a nice fruit basket, but are there any other creative ideas? I had the suggestion of a monetary donation to the family, but I%26#039;m not sure my friend would be comfortable with that.
Sympathy gifts?
How old was the daughter? If she was young, I would say something like a beautiful angel ornament or other angelic knicknack to help your friend remember her daughter. Or maybe a cat or dog to have a warm being to hold and cuddle...
Reply:You could make cookies or make a cake. Something sweet always makes ppl happy. It wont get rid of her pain, but ppl love sweets, so you could try something like that.*
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What would be another good idea to just show I care? I am considering a nice fruit basket, but are there any other creative ideas? I had the suggestion of a monetary donation to the family, but I%26#039;m not sure my friend would be comfortable with that.
Sympathy gifts?
How old was the daughter? If she was young, I would say something like a beautiful angel ornament or other angelic knicknack to help your friend remember her daughter. Or maybe a cat or dog to have a warm being to hold and cuddle...
Reply:You could make cookies or make a cake. Something sweet always makes ppl happy. It wont get rid of her pain, but ppl love sweets, so you could try something like that.*
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